What is the main thing that causes a relationship to fail when you are in your early 20's and just learning to be an adult?
What is the most important thing to maintain a good relationship?
2007-05-27 10:28:20 · 14 answers · asked by JessickaSucks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that when we are young, we are pretty selfish people, and think more about ourselves than the one we love. As much as I tried to deny it, I know that when I was in my twenties, things did very much revolve around me in my mind. No matter how old you are though, when the right person comes along, you DO start to change, and you realize that without this person's happiness, you are not as happy yourself. Mutual Trust, Love, Respect, Honesty and Communication, along with a good dose of humor, has helped my husband and me keep our marriage happy for 25 years.
2007-05-28 03:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys were really young when you got together, and it's entirely possible that she's changed. I mean, she was 16 when you hooked up...and now she's an adult, so of course things have changed. I know you don't want to hear this, but she probably wants to explore and see what else is out there. I was in a long distance relationship for more than a year once, and it didn't end nicely. It's not like that for everyone though, every relationship is different, every person is different. I know things are horrible now, but things will get better. Take each day as it comes, and before you know it, you'll be feeling a whole lot better about things. Good luck.
2016-05-19 02:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication and mutual respect are what helps a relationship thrive.
Relationships in the early years usually fail because the couples find out they jumped in too quickly and don't really like the person or they grow apart, a lot of growing happens in your late teens and early 20's.
I'm not really that old, I'm 29 and I've only been with my husband for 9 years, but I had quite a few relationships before I met him!
2007-05-27 10:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the main thing to cause a relationship to fail is not having trust for one another so therfore the most important thing to me to maintain a relationship is you must have trust.
2007-05-27 10:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by nightryder28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the main thing in a relationship. I have been married to the same man for 34 years. We have went some very rough times. Most couples today will not stick through those bad times. You have to work it out. I know that I will be there for him no matter what and he will be there for me.
2007-05-27 10:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't argue over the small things. Give each other some space. Divide up the chores. Tell each other often that you love each other.
Make joint decisions on major issues. Have the same religious and political beliefs.
My husband and I have been married over 25 years.
2007-05-27 10:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by p00756 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think when we're younger, we are selfish. we have no real idea how to be in a relationship and think mostly of oourselves. that's why many, not all, relationships fail in our younger years. however, if we're patient and open to change and learn how to communicate, our selfishness lessens and we can keep the relationship going.
marries 23 yrs,together 27.
2007-05-27 10:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
immaturity and selfishness. The 20s are a time to discover everything about yourself, to grow, gain life experience, and mature.
For a good relationship, you need to have good character, common sense, great communication skills, etc.
2007-05-28 00:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its one or both of you growing up and wanting different things. This is one and money. Especially if there is a little of it to go around and make ends meet. For me and hubby it was because i saw that between us we were going to have to stop depending on our family to help us and do it on our own. if not we were going to stay in debt. He and I procrastinates but he is lazier than me on doing things when it calls for it. That pisses me off. sometimes its the little things, but what you need to do when that happens is reconnect. Because if u let it continue to drift further apart u will find yourself divorcing or committing infidelity.
2007-05-27 11:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by Friendly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commuication is the KEY. Letting your partner know that
something is bothering you is important .
Discuss things that are going on.Talk to each other.
2007-05-27 10:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by Klingon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋