two people, one catholic and one not are living together say they can get married in catholic church and there is a Co Habitating form they filled out at Pre Cana.
2007-05-27 10:05:45 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the pastor finds out months before the wedding.. like 6 months or so, is he obligated to counsel them to seperate if they want to get married?
2007-05-27 10:12:40 · update #1
hell, yes!
2007-05-27 10:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm in a similar situation. I'm Catholic and my fiance is Baptist. What we decided to do was to not offend either family we are having a Judge marry us. You can call any court that's around where you live and ask if any Judge does weddings. You can still have the Unity Candle and any other ceremonial thing or reading you want. It's just not a member of any religion that's marrying you. For me that was the only way that i didn't have to fight with a church, or lie that i don't live with him. This way we have the wedding that we want and where we want it. You can have it outside in a garden, or even a lot of reception sites have specific sites for the ceremony now. Plus they are usually cheaper. The fee for our Judge is $75. But if you really wanted to get married in a church see if there are any non denominational churches where you live. Or even check out on the internet and see if there are any churches from other religions that aren't as restricted as the Catholic and Baptist are. Good Luck!
2016-04-01 11:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married in a Catholic Church about 20 years ago.
My husband was methodist, I was Catholic. We had already eloped and had been married by a justice of the peace 4 months earlier but then wanted to have a real church wedding with all the family there. We had explained to the Priest what we had done and that none of the family was aware that we were already married and we asked him to keep it a secret, and he did. I suppose if you get the right person and are honest about it, you can pretty much do anything!
2007-05-27 10:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by karen_michele_1122 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you can lie about it, but what's the point? Why would you want to get married in the Catholic church if you were lying to do it? Just get married somewhere else then... Whichever person is Catholic would know that it was wrong to be lying about it.. so.. they would certainly be committing a sin according to the church.
If you have to start a marriage by lying .. it's not a good start.. and.. as I said.. why have to lie? If the church requires something and you don't want to follow their rules, then get married somewhere else.. Easy as that.
And if the Catholic person thinks that by lying about it, that will mean that their marriage would still be blessed, etc, I would think that the church would view that differently..
2007-05-27 10:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Correct me if I am mistaken but I do believe one of the Ten Commandments is Thou Shall Not Lie.
What are you lying for anyway? If you manage to dupe the parish priest into marrying you, the odds are overwhelmingly in favor of the Church declaring your wedding null and void. Is that what you want?
Some people think the Catholic Church makes couples jump through hoops in order to get married. I jumped through those same hoops seven years ago. All of that made me appreciate just what the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony is all about.
The Church is actively interested in marrying couples who are actively living the Catholic life. They are not going to be impressed with that fact you and your fiance are already living together. This is sin, and you know it too.
The Church is not going to refuse to marry you because you're co-habitating, but that doesn't mean it;s okay. I also doubt the Church will refuse to marry you simply because your fiancee is not Catholic. The priest who will be conducting the marriage ceremony absolutely has to be aware of the fact your fiancee is not Catholic but, again, that alone will not prevent the Church from marrying you two.
I guess my question is; what is there to lie about? If there are elements of your lives, such as the cohabitation, you feel the Church will view negatively, then fix the problem while you still have time!
I don't understand what it is you need to lie about but, what ever it is, let the priest know. If you decide to lie, and you successfully dupe the priest, I GUARANTEE YOU THAT YOUR MARRIAGE WILL BE ANNULLED IN THE FUTURE.
You can fool people, but you cannot fool God. Contrary to popular belief, it is not the priest who administers the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony, it is the bride and groom ministering the Sacrament to each other. The priest is there to make sure valid marriage vows are exchanged. If a marriage ceremony is held under false pretenses, like if you were to lie about something - nothing good will come from that I promise you.
2007-05-28 01:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by Daver 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You may fool the priest, but you still have God to answer to.
They can get married in the church, but the one not Catholic
has to become Catholic in order to do so, legally. If they are
living together, they can seperate for a time before the time
to marry and you can answer the form truthfully. I don't know
what a Pre Cana is, but getting married in the church is
taking a step in the right direction towards God. Go for it.
2007-05-27 10:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just a comment - no you don't HAVE to be Catholic as long as one half is - I have friends who are married where he is Catholic, she is an Asian religion. Priest was perfectly happy with this.
I believe there is a clause about agreeing to raise any kids Catholic (in some churches) but discuss it with the priest. :) And my friend was pregnant when they got married - and yes, it was a religious wedding. :) Talk to your priest.
2007-05-27 10:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by Xarra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't the person who is not catholic convert to Catholicism & not enter a marriage under false pretensis?? In my opinion, lying to the church is not the right way to start a life.
2007-06-02 05:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hehehe! If my mother can have a catholic wedding while pregnant with me then i'm sure you can get married to your live-in partner!
Don't worry about it-all that matters is the fact that you're committing to one another for life, and you are 100% in love.
2007-06-02 06:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by Loulla 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a devout ex-Catholic I recommend getting married in either a mainline Protestant church or in a civil ceremony.
2007-06-01 05:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by barrister02061959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't the person who is not catholic convert to Catholicism & not enter a marriage under false pretensis?? In my opinion, lying to the church is not the right way to start a life.
2007-05-27 10:09:09 · answer #11 · answered by Sara S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋