2007-05-27 09:11:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her how you feel about the guy...tell her she can do better, and she needs to date people who her children can respect. If you are still living at home...then she definately needs to watch who she dates...so just remind her of that...tell her you are all for her dating, but you want her to date somebody better than that. Moms normally listen when their kids talk to them...
2007-05-27 09:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you are a teen...Its hard, but if the guy is treating your mom good and she is happy, then be happy for her. If he is not hurting you then don't make it harder than it has to be on your mom. Maybe he has a different mind set now than he did before he went to prison. He has paid his debt to society. If he is a child molester or murdered a former wife I would be concerned and move out with other family members. If not give the guy a chance, it is possible that he would do anything to make sure you don't go down the same path he did. Think positive...
2007-05-27 09:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, you probably don't know what went on behind closed doors between your parents, so while you're probably upset that they split up, don't try to guess why or for what reason.
Second, it depends on why he went to prison and if he's still the same person he was when he went in. It may be a rebound relationship, but it may not, and you really can't judge for your mum - she's an adult and can make her own choices in life and it's not fair or nice, but she deserves the right to make her own decisions. :)
Third, let her know your have concerns, ask her about him, get to know him, and, even if you don't like him afterwards, just be there for your mum and support her. If there are problems, then you can support her, and get help if needed, but at the end of the day it's her life, her relationship and you need to let her live it. You're her child, so you'll always be special to her, and hopefully you'll be there for her and respect her ability to choose - and there to help if there's a problem.
I'm sure he's a nice guy - just because he's been to prison doesn't make him bad - and if he is, all you can do is support - your mum won't accept you getting between her and him, and it's her mistake to make. But if he is involved in illegal activities you can always contact the police anonymously. :)
Hope that helps - and good luck to both you & your mum!
2007-05-27 09:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by Xarra 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What did he do that landed him in jail? Was it assault, robbery, DUI. You didn't give me much to work with but ...... My advice: don't judge your mom. the more you fight against who she dates the more she is going to want to continue dating low-lifes.
Bottom line: she's an adult and she is going to do what she wants to do no matter what you say or think.
If this guy is hurting you or doing something that you don't like then you need to tell someone otherwise let it go.
2007-05-27 09:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that date a lowlife usually don't listen to what we have to say until it's too late.
2007-05-27 09:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you thought she had more sense than that and if this guy even so much as approaches you in a manner that makes you uncomfortable, you will not hesitate to call the cops on him.
2007-05-27 09:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy you have "spider senses".
You feel that your mom is in danger from him because he still belongs to a prison gang because he sends them christmas cards still to this day.
Really, let your mom be happy!
If she like's the "bad boy image(which very many women do)just let her be.
2007-05-27 10:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Leather 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go live with your dad.
2007-05-27 09:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should tell her how you feel and maybe suggest for her getting someone else. but be happy for her if she loves the guy.
2007-05-27 09:19:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ natty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's on the rebound...maybe the sex is great...maybe he makes her feel important. If she's dating him, it's her choice...no need for YOU to do anything.
2007-05-27 09:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by angiesue1032 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋