How to overcome adultery if you are already in it?

Question

men in most cases are carried away by their sensual passions eventhough they are reading the bible

Answer 1

just stop. if you get the urge to stray, find something worthwhile to do with your time. i know---how about spending it with your wife.

Answer 2

Men in most cases think with their "you know whats" instead of their brain. I don't think you could ever be trusted again. Women also have these sensual passions,but, are usually a bit more loyal than men.

Kind of a hypocrite aren't ya. May as well ditch your bible too. You already threw your marriage vows out. Can you honestly say you will never do this again. I doubt it. The first time is the hardest. Should be easier for you next time. Your wife probably already suspects. We usually do.

Answer 3

You cannot blame men's "sensual passions" when in fact it is a choice to sin or not to sin. There is no one to blame but yourself for allowing this to happen. Stop immediately. Tell the person that you are deeply upset that you have chosen adultery and that it must stop today. Confess to your spouse and hope for forgiveness. Never do it again. I always told my husband to be sure I was the first to know and not the last, if he decided to ever have an affair. In other words - if you are interested in seeing other people then you should give your spouse the respect to divorce her first so she will have that dignity. Cheating is more than a selfish indulgence, it is a slap in the face to your unsuspecting spouse.

Answer 4

I definetly agree with you there, although I read a different Holy book, but we all worship the same god and adultery is forbidden in all of them.
My advice to you is as follows:
1) Keep reading your bible, it will cleanse your sole and give you the power you need to overcome your human desires.
2) If you have a friend who has made it easier for you, even by sharing experiences or encourgment, think that he is pushing yo to hell and act acordingly. (towards his advice and not him)
3)If you are doing this because you are bored with your sex life with your wife, talk to her about your fantasies, I am sure she has some of her own... If not, she will gladly entertain yours.
4) Think of all the good things in your wife and imagine her finding out and how hurt she will be, this will definetly help as well..
Good luck, it is worse tha giving up smoking buddy..

Answer 5

Reading the bible and doing what you want to do has nothing to do with each other...I have instructions for pancakes that say use water and I use milk!!! People do what they want regardless if they have something telling them what is right or wrong. A sin is a sin. If you are in it and your working to stop being an adulterer, don't beat yourself up just stop allowing yourself to keep going back or being put in a situation where you are along with her/him. I hope that you can stop for the sake of your own self respect.

Answer 6

You gave the devil a foot hold it will bring you down and you will suffer for your rebellion to the word of God, you know that, now truely repent and stay away. You're married? confess your sins ye one to another, tell your wife. We do NOT all worship the same God, the only true LIVING God has a beloved Son named Jesus.

Answer 7

You break off all contact with the person. You pray for strength. Visit the doctor to make sure you didn't bring something into your marriage. You pray your spouse doesn't find out. Most importantly, you never forget the lesson you learned.

Answer 8

Actually men in most cases are carried away by their egos.

Answer 9

if youre not in love with the woman that is not your wife then stop immediately and go home and concentrate on your wife!

Answer 10

Get out, tell your partner and see if you two can work with it. If not and he/she wants to leave, then that be the lesson you get for cheating.