why do so many women over exagerrate how much giving birth hurts?

Question

l know it obviously hurts (3 kids), and depend on your own threshold of pain, but the way some women carry on is ridiculousn ls it to make men feel bad, or scare other women or what? Some women just act like it's so bad that kids should feel unbelievably grateful to them or somethng

Answer 1

Everyone has a different relation to pain. Some women use medication, others do not. And surely, those who do not would probably experience more pain.

Also, some people plain like the attention. So they go on and on and on to get sympathy. "Oh you poor thing"

To those people I say, "suck it up!!!"

Answer 2

I havent yet experienced labour i am due to have my baby in 5 days though. Im really scared about labour and the women i have asked about the pain they had have all given me a different answer some say it really hurt and some say its not that bad. But you cant honestly know if they are exagerrating or not cause you wasnt them and never will be. I guess everyone is different so pain will be more severe in some women than others.

Answer 3

Well every birth is different. Some women I know barely felt contractions then water broke and barely made it to hospital before only pushing for 15 minutes then having bubs in their arms! Other women have a harder time and a longer more painful labour.
I myself felt like superwoman after giving birth, and even though there is probably worse labour stories out there, if you heard my story you would understand. But even though I remember saying... ok shouting... "Why do people do this more than once" it is now 18 months later and I am pregnant again and excited. You do get over it and even though you remember it hurting, it is obviously more than worth it. As bad as my labour was I would still go through worse to have my child.

Answer 4

I worked in a maternity hospital and quickly realised that all births are different. I don't believe it has anything to do with pain threshholds. Some women just seem to sail through and others genuinely endure prolonged agony. My sister said she really did not know what labour was until she had her second. She used to wonder, like you, why women made a fuss. My mother had 6 pregnancies. 5 were very difficult, her babies being breech or double breech. The other one, which was her 3rd, lasted 30 mins and very little pain. I was in labour 36 hours and screamed for at least half of it and my daughter went through 42 hours with the same.

Answer 5

maybe you just have a high threshold for pain while others do not. You really shouldn't judge how other women feel pain when you really don't know how someone actually feels. You aren't in their body and you have no right to say someone is overreacting or complaining too much about a pain that obviously doesn't make you blink.

That is like saying to a blind person how in the world they cannot see when you can or you dont understand why someone would need eyeglasses when you can see perfectly fine and donot understand why someone is complaining about not seeing 20/20 like you.

Answer 6

Well, every woman feels the pain differently. Some have 1 hour labors that don't hurt at all, and others have 50+ hour labors that hurt more than anything. It depends on a lot of things. For example, most women who exercise during pregnancy will have shorter, easier labors. I don't thing they over exaggerate the pain, I think it really, truly hurts.

Answer 7

I have three kids as well, and childbirth does hurt. If someone asks me a question about giving birth, I won't lie. I will tell the truth about how bad it hurts. If it didn't hurt, why would we need pain meds and epidurals? I don't think my kids should feel grateful to me for giving birth to them, but I will not lie when they ask me if it hurt!! It was a lot more painful than my Lamaze teacher let on. I guess she didn't want to scare us, but it would have been nice to know how painful it is.

Answer 8

In my opinion it doesnt hurt any more than passing a really big poop after being constipated. It's just in a different area, one not often put in that predictament. I believe women exaggerate the pain because giving birth is a BIG deal. To say that giving burth didnt hurt that bad almost depreciates the effect. Let the women exaggerate all they want, you know the truth.

Answer 9

Pain tolerance is different for everyone. I have had 6, never once have I had pain meds. (yes it is painful, and I would rather not go through that pain, but I dont mind because the end result) But I know others that have had pain meds and still hurts like crazy. Plus some women ahve problems that cause lots of pain. Breach baby, small frame, big baby, things like that

Answer 10

Well I only have one child so far, and I remember being in so much pain I told everyone very seriously I didn't want to have anymore children. Now here I am trying again. It really did hurt bad, but the joy of having my daughter was worth it. If people are afraid of pain then they can get an epidural.

Answer 11

Some women have the cognitive abilities to understand that possibilities aren't limited to their own experience.

I had three vastly different births,and I've heard of ones quite different than mine. I understand that my cousin, who had third degree tears,and required 60 stitches,in three layers from vagina to anus, had a more painful birth. I know that my occiput posterior baby was far more painful than the other two.
There are so many different factors, many of which women don't even think of, which contribute to the pain. I know what my experience was like, but I won't reflect that on other women, especially not to derive some strange sense of superiority.