There's this person who just keeps trying to wake me up with reality. Apparently I have lil foolish dreams of everyone becoming friends. I am also told that I have black and white point of view.. Only one person told me but I think he's right when I look back on things where I wish I knew better... Whenever I say something.. he quickly reacts talking and talking and I can barely assemble it all in my mind and then I just end up saying more stupid things and just starting a whole new arguement so I feel stupid again. He is different from anyone I have ever talked to... What can I do??
2007-05-27 06:13:35 · 8 answers · asked by tanjarine 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well tanj, it sounds to me like this person, who may or may not have a moderate intelligence, is trying to either educate you as to the ways of the world, as he percieves it, or is trying to impress his own ego by forcing your thoughts into circles by using wordplay. I have seen individuals who have done this before. They will walk into a conversation, and interupt the an individual, so that they can out their "two cents" in, but unfortutunatly, it turns out to be more like a fiver. They will take words and sentences which you have started and turn them to a side of the conversation which has either little/no bearing, or is completly bang on the money. In this way, they like to impress their ego by either impossing their veiw, or by saying that your veiw is wrong, or unimportant.
Here's a tip for you. The next time this person interupts you in the middle of a coversation, tell him regardless of his intelligence, that it is impolite to interupt a someone whom is in the middle of a sentence/conversation. And obviously, that this persons intelligence did not include common courtesy or manners.
If they have something to add to the conversation, to wait their turn, and then question their sources when they do interject. And ask them politely to talk slowly, so that you may assemble the thoughts at your own speed. If you are confused, ask questions.
True, you may be a person whom only see's in "Black and White", but that does not mean that others should make you feel less intelligent, or arouse anger and negative emotions in you.
Keep your chin up, darlin, and don't be afraid to stand your ground.
Best wishes
2007-05-27 06:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by cmccmh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well for one thing don't think too hardly on not being naive, you don't want to be cold and untrusting and dismiss everything. you need to look at this both emotionally (on a personal level) and logically (a little less biased.). There's nothing wrong with wanting to get along with everyone, now actually expecting it, that would be naive. still though, don't let this guy discourage you, I don't know him so I can't say but he seems more interested in hurting your feelings than actually maintaining your best intrests in mind.
also, when you're talking to him, try to consider his point of view before countering- this should prevent any feelings of stupidity.
oh, and relax :)
I'm sure you'll be fine, you seem like a good person and even IF you are a little naive, it's hardly a crime.
2007-05-27 06:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by jess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try listening to what he/she has to say, and try to understand what they are saying, and if u get stuck on something when they start talking just stop them and tell them to take it a little easy, and explayn there point of view,
and how they came to think that way, so u better understand what is on they`r mind when they talk to you, it could be that theyr right or not....so u must react as well to they`r arguements.....hope it helps.
2007-05-27 06:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by VNGelis 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so quick to judge yourself based on other people's jaded views. Being naive isn't the worse thing in life. Innocence is actually a good thing. Believing that there is good in the world may put that out in the universe and may make it happen who knows. I am not a negative person myself, and often I am disappointed by others because of my naivety. But I would rather be me.
2007-05-27 06:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by katie d 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you're naive in his appreciate; which isn't against the regulation, purely unrealistic and illogical. She is doing her element, which will or won't be helpful to her. i think of we can now and back impact human beings, yet substitute is all the way down to them and our impact is in many circumstances very constrained. individually, i think of you may do properly to ignore your romantic tendencies in the direction of this female, extremely the assumption of adjusting her and retaining her to your self. And this is not actual to declare you could not recover from her. purely because of the fact something is confusing, unsightly or not the way you prefer it, does not advise this is not tolerable. do not tell your self that something it fairly is undesirable is for this reason insupportable. that's undesirable, yet not the tip of the worldwide. Your strategies-set to being with out her is what's doing you in. do not turn (on your strategies) what's undesirable right into a disaster and you'd be ok.
2016-10-08 22:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up will help you a lot. Life's experiences will show you that the world is not perfect.
Naivete and gullibility grow old very quickly. You begin to just look like a child when you do not face reality.
2007-05-27 06:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i say, whoever this person is, they can go to hell. its nice for someone to point out your faults but only to a certain extent. if you think your happy with your descisions, then so be it, i dont think you need someone to watch you like a hawk. this person might be teaching you a lesson but nobody should make you feel stupid.
2007-05-27 06:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dayana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Want freedom? Then live in the truth.
2007-05-27 06:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋