well in case it wasnt obvious enough im talking about me. im mostly black and 17 and my entire life ive gone to primarily white schools and my neighborhood is mixed...i have never been attracted to black guys-i definitely dont buy into ignorant stereotypes of "most blk guys are ghetto thugs" or whatever..ive just never been physically into black guys. and im not a lesbian or anything but i think blk girls are beautiful (SOME - just like other races) but blk guys are just..there. i have blk guy friends and they're great. id just never date them - you have to be physically into who you're dating to some extent! (its not racist -get a dictionary.) most of my bfs have been white and then theres sexy asians, hispanics, and native americans..interracial love = beautiful : ) god theres just too many flavors-how can i pick just one?
2007-05-27 04:44:26 · 24 answers · asked by Gone, Gone, Gone. 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
i just want more opinions..its always interesting to see how ppl think ...and some of the responses i get to this are kind of hilarious....
2007-05-27 04:45:45 · update #1
because it's the WAY you were socialized. If you aren't taught to love and respect and to have pride in your race you won't have an affinity for it. YOU lack exposure, perhaps as you grow in emotional maturation you will begin to alter your perceptions of Black men.
2007-05-27 22:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are onto something, and are being very truthful. I have some friends who are black guys, but I don't know too many who are gentlemen. A couple of them are even somewhat of a pain to deal with , let alone getting a word in edgewise., let alone even wondering if they really care about me.
If a woman seeks those qualities in a man, I truly think many black guys fall far short of it.
It is a challenge all our lives to live and learn how better to interact with others. Many of us don't get it right the first time, or even hundredth time, but at least in many cases, in a predominate non-black society that discriminates and impoverished black people and thus gives them less chance to thrive, those friends of yours probably were given a head start on social graces. No wonder you like them better.
And do you know what? White guys, (if the truth be told), actually like YOU better.
I mean, in general Black woman want to be simply loved, go after the most important thing first, not necessarily status or money first, though that is a plus. This is refreshingly eye opening to many white men used to being quietly rejected, only on account of their bank accounts being a little challenged.
2007-05-27 04:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I have a unique point of view on this that may serve valuable.
I am a white guy who got dumped last year from a 10 year marriage. After going throught the broken heart depression and all that I became ready to date again, for the first time in 12 years !
Needless to say the whole game has changed immensely since my last experiences and I discovered the internet dating site world.
I liked the idea because I am now a busy single Dad and also want to prescreen girls before I meet them.
So I put my picture up and a few words and bam I started getting e-mails from all kinds of ladies, it was mind blowing.
Anyways, I dated several and then found my next ( and hopefully last ) love.
But for the relevance to this question, I was astonished at how many black ladies contacted me. I never dated one before but dated 3 in the last few months in my search for love.
They all told me the same story you stated above. That something about black men just didn't suit their fancy.
I thought it odd at first because I figured they would date a black or a white guy and they happened to be dating me at the moment, but it was the same with all 3.
Therefore, you find yourself part of a particular group of black ladies who just happens to like other types better than your historical own.
Just a preference, not a prejudice or a bad trait.
2007-05-27 04:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by Viking Brethren 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In someway, we have the same predicament. I am Asian but I am very attracted to Caucasians. I once had a year long affair with a mid 30's, blonde, Swiss woman and I was only 19. I have an Asian girlfriend at that time but I am not sexually attracted to her. I continued to have affairs with other white women of European descent up until now. It is not a racist act. It's what they call "Jungle Fever". A condition which one is attracted to different group of race other than their own. It is normal, I think.
2007-05-27 04:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Trixter 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a black woman and I've always been attracted mostly to white men. I often feel so guilty about it, because the men in my family don't like it, and I'm close to them. But I can't help who I'm attracted to and I've wrestled with trying to date or settle with a black man to please them and staying by myself. Nobody in my family has married interracially. I would be the first, if I did. That's scary to me. Although my great grandmother had children by a white southern man, I'm not sure what kind of relationship it was. She was silent about it.
2015-10-07 15:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Doe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often our attraction to others is predicated on our parents, either their physical or psychological traits. Each of us has our own preferences and sometimes we surprise ourselves. As the old saying goes, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." So, stop worrying and start living.
2007-05-27 04:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by Magic One 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess theres no problem here.
For me, my preference changes often according to who my friends are looking at.
I used to like mostly asian and hispanic guys because of my friend who was black. That was pretty much all she went for.
I met a friend of mine(also black) so when i was around her alot i started to only like white guys(like she did, i received hell from my family about that)
My current best friend who is black only likes black guys and right now so do I. I know i should mix it all up, and i'd like to.
2007-05-27 05:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there's no problem with you not wanting to date black guys. i don't think that's racist at all. i'm "white" (a little european blood, some hispanic, but all american) and i think some black guys are cute. i would date a black guy.
have respect for people's feelings, but date whoever you want.
2007-05-27 15:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter, as long as your reasons are truly YOUR reasons (as opposed to you caring too much about what other people think). I have never been attracted to blonde guys... I don't know why. I assume it has something to do with biology (I think people tend to be attracted to those who would be ideal mates in terms of the health of their offspring).
2007-05-27 05:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by Joy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went to an all white school with speckles of Hispanic kids. but I'm no where interested in white men.(I'm white) I'm attracted to black men. there are many reasons for this. so there is nothing wrong with you not being attracted to black men! go for what your attracted too. if you want yourself a Native American man, girl you go get yourself one.
2007-05-27 04:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by MiRaNdA rOsE 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋