2007-05-27 04:24:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hope you don't mind -my sister is divorced, not me.
When she started dating her ex, we all thought he was a bit different and overattentive - he was over our house until midnight or 1 am (they were teenagers) and would come back before 6 am in the mornings. He had to be in the same room with her - even if she just got up to go the kitchen for a drink, and he was very clingy - always touching her somehow, hugging, holding hands, (she was never a touchy-feely kind of person, so she did not like it). Also, he was bossy to me (I'm younger than them) and occasionally would reach out to hug me or rub my arm or leg (he also did this with a younger teen cousin). We all thought these could be signs of an abuser, but we didn't actually know or have any proof.
They married after dating for 2 years, got pregnant 6 months later, and divorced 1 year after that. When my sister left him, she sat down with our parents and me and told us some horror stories about how he physically and sexually abused her - she got the courage to leave when she suspected he might have been molesting their baby daughter.
So, it turns out our initial feelings about him were right, we just didn't know the depths of things.
2007-05-27 04:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by DSL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some liked him, some loved him, some disliked him, some hated him, some didn't care either way. Gee, I guess it's just because no one is liked by everyone on the planet and such is life...
2007-05-27 11:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone thought he was so wonderful and great. even for years of emotional abuse i had a hard time convincing mhy family of what was going on until he started to finally show his true colors to them. he was so well behaved around family it was ridculous.
2007-05-27 11:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hated him, thought I could do better. Then after a while they accepted him only for me.
I should have listened to them!
2007-05-27 11:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by thedothanbelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wonderfull-yet had anger issues with her dad-that came out later and that was sad
now I seek in true love again, yet happy in my best friend=
the right one =He will respect and honor you, and you will know that one is the one for life commitment and that one will feel the same about you-if you got to change their mind-they will change your mind to give up on true love and life commitment. did you ever hear of marriage-make sure any boyfriend is geared to marriage-and dont go out with a cheater-learn their reputation before you date them, make sure they are real to find the right one.
yet I found out by living the other way-people who dont wait for marriage-to have the blessing of marriage usually dont get married. "In marriage the bed is undefiled but the others will be judged." Hebrews 13
the answer that changed me from living in dishonor to change=help from above-in Jesus amazing grace that saved me=John 3 repented of sin-even one lie and let Jesus in to my heart to save me and be my friend, amen
Jesus says "I love you, repent quickly and turn from your sin to me, Behold I stand at your heart door and knock, if you pray and ask me in, I will come in and forgive your sins, and be your friend." Revelation 3:19&20 Yes what a true friend I have now in Jesus to help me, and he gives me more joy and inner peace than I ever had before in my life.
-and most important the answer to change to truth and true love=peace in the prince of peace Isaiah 9:6 "Unto us a child is born, a son is given, and he will be almighty God and the prince of peace." I got inner peace in the Messiah my best friend Isaiah 52:13-53:12 promised first to "He will lay down his life to make atonement for our sins." Pray for truth and share, David
2007-05-27 11:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine put up a good front. They soon found out, as did I, how messed up him and his family were.
2007-05-27 12:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody in my family liked her, and tried to tell me...but I was "in love"....you can NOT tell somebody that's in love, anything! They were right, by the way.
2007-05-27 11:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone thought he was perfect & flawless.
Unfortunately, I, (& everyone else), discovered he is abusive & a drunk.
2007-05-27 11:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they told me don't do it
2007-05-27 11:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋