How can one get rid of bad childhood memories?

Answer 1

It's really not a matter of forgetting them, but of taking away the emotional meaning you attach to them. I had memories that haunted me for years until I canceled them out using what's called a "swish pattern." It's a way of visualizing the problematic situation in your memory that so scrambles it that it can never mean the same thing again. It took me about two hours to completely neutralize each of the bad memories that had been bothering me. I've shown a link to one description of the technique. Do a search for "swish pattern" and you'll find thousands of them. There are other techniques you can use too, but the swish pattern happened to be the one I came upon first.

Answer 2

The thing of it is you cannot get rid of childhood memories (trust me I have plenty and I have tried many a thing). The only thing that you can really do is come to terms with them. Yes sometimes those memories will come back and sometimes bring the feelings back with them which may not be what you want to hear, however I have been in counseling and talk to close friends and those memories that I tried to forget or rid myself of remained gone for a little while but like I said they will come back. It may be hard to come to terms with those memories and the things that happened, however one of things I would recommend would be to find a good therapist that is willing to help you.

Answer 3

By living in the present and childhood facts are facts if the person is honest with themselves and others. Notice the "IF" and when they grow faded but don't change. Nobody has the power to change things with their lips. Lies only confirm that trouble will come later...maybe for a short time that person has gotten their way but they are always only fooling themselves.

In dysfunctional families and other mind altering situations many are worried about leak of reality and are usually doing for having done something wrong or have an agenda. So, sometimes they do anything they can to mind mess that person keeping them in a rewritten childhood out of personal guilt and/or are trying to control. A healthy adult usually doesn't allow people to do that to them. However, a child has been known to do that for a parent or other person who has neglected to parent or relate in a healthy manner. The child is trying to control at that point also and what happens is they end up getting used easily because the child is being used to make whomever appear socially healthy or right. CPS workers use children to prove cases and have unlimited isolated access to them to do so and have been known to disregard parental truth also. I would never allow a child to be alone with a case worker especially after what I have knowledge of. They emotionally molest children - encourage dishonesty and I caught them trying to cover up pornography...possibly downloaded child porn because of a placement decision they encouraged a Judge to make along with the prosecuting attorney.

Answer 4

This will sound a little different, but I had an age regression done about 6 years ago. It was unbelievable! It helped me let go of a lot of hurt and anger. Call a place that does Rieki or hypnosis...

I also distanced myself from the toxic people who were in my life. It was difficult because some were family, but with therapy it made a huge difference for me. I learned that sometimes even family ties need to be severed.

Good luck to you. There is so much happiness out there for you. Don't let painful memories take over.

Answer 5

You need to talk to someone and get these fillings out in the open. Talk to someone you feel you can confide in. Trust me this will help. Not to be bragging or anything like that, but my childhood was way worse. My dad and I never got along. My teenage years I would never ever go back and do over. I suffered from what you are going through from the time I was about 10 years old and until I was 18 and moved out. Suicide was on my mind all the time. I just wanted every thing to be over with. Then I met a preachers wife and I talked to her and she helped me alot. I had to deal with all my problems, but once I talked to someone, it felt like a load had been lifted and there was a new me. Sometimes I stil think about it and I still get angry because I think why did I let it all happen. I was just a kid and I would never hit my father back. Then I think about it and most of it was not my fault at all. My dad just needed help and eventually got it. I am now 24 and I am living my life to the fullest. Yes, it will take a few sessions of talking and crying to someone ,but it will be worth it in the long run. Just keep telling yourself it wasn't your fault.You can be happy and I promise you one day you will be.

Answer 6

As much as you may want to get rid of them, it is better to have them and find peace with them. I was molested as a child by a family member. I blocked those memories for a large part of my life and it caused all sorts of problems for me. Of course I had to do that to survive it when it was happening, but as I got older and away from the abuse, the more I tried to forget things, the harder life was for me. Counseling and medication helped me to face the memories head on. That was very difficult, but since doing that my mental health has been much improved. I truly hope you can find peace with the dark parts of your past. good luck.

Answer 7

Indulge in other activities to get your mind off it. Speak to a very trusted friend about ur past (only if you think it will help).

I went through my bad childhood memories like this.

Answer 8

it's really all a matter of getting rid of the demon in the memory...sometimes that means confronting the person and addressing it full on...sometimes just telling that person you no longer want any contact with them and wish them well on their way...that takes a bit of time to deal with but can be successful...counseling also helps but to be honest...if you look at the memory and make a plan yourself you should be able to deal with it effectively and make a plan to move on from that...it isn't easy...or fast...there is no quick fix to the problem...i wish you luck...

Answer 9

I do not think anyone can rid themselves of memories, one can only resolve them. I think a good therapist can be helpful. There are many different ways and coming to a resolution is too personal to be covered here. Good luck.

Answer 10

Unfortunately, they become part of you, so we have to live with our psychic scars. That doesn't sound very helpful, but maybe a session with a psychologist might suggest a way that would prevent the past changing the course of your future.