My boyfriend of 10 years does not allow me to see inside the trunk of his car.?

Question

Whenever I have caught a glimpse inside the trunk I've noticed several gift bags from expensive stores. (He is wealthy and not a shoplifter!)
He also will not allow a valet to have his key.
When I ask, he says he has money and important papers inside. . .

Answer 1

After 10 years, he shouldn't be hiding anything from you. And he should have already married you by now. This doesn't sound like a healthy man, or a healthy relationship. Leave him now before you end up embroiled in whatever he's hiding.

Answer 2

Is he married and you are the girl on the side? Or does he have another girlfriend? How much time do you spend with him? He works 8-10 hours a day (I assume), sleeps 6-8 so that leaves 6 hours a day to do whatever. How much of that time each day does he spend with you.
So what if he has money and important papers. Does he not trust you enough for you to see these things. After 10 years he should.
This is definitely an issue. If he is hiding his trunk contents from you then what else is he hiding from you? I couldn't handle not knowing so I would wait until he was sleeping and snoop. He may feel violated if he catches you but you need to know why he will not allow you in there.
I personally think you are wasting you time with this man (10 years!!!!) and you need to know what he doesn't want you to know so that you can make a decision as to what you will do with the rest of your life so either get in there and find out what is in there (easiest) or have someone you know and trust follow him around to find out what he is doing and why he is hiding things from you.

Answer 3

This guy has red flags all over him any way you want to look at it. You also are not telling everything here as well. You have been with this man for 10 years and no thoughts of marriage. You still have no keys to this mans car after 10 years. Now unless your birthday is close by even with all the above said, stop and think about this. What is this man hiding? I mean he won't even let the valet have his keys, excuse me? Like I said, this man has red flags all over him. After being together for 10 years and he is acting this way, hello. There should be no secrets to speak of between you two, unless it is an anniversary or birthday coming up.

Answer 4

You need to listen to your gut feelings, if you feel something is wrong your probably right, if you have been with this person for 10 years and they dont trust you enuff to let you see what is in the trunk of his car, you may have something to worry about i would ask him straight up what the reasons are that you can not see inside his trunk ask him if he trusts you. Tell him that if he did trust you that you should be able to know what he has in his trunk. One thing to think about is< is this new him not allowing you to see in his trunk or has it always been that way. cuz if its new think about it maybe he has something special in there for you. if its always been that way then you both have a problem, figure out what is important to you. if you feel he is hiding something confront it and go from there if you think that its not to important for you to know just drop it!
I hope this helps a little

Answer 5

Well when I read this the first thought that came to my mind is that he is buying gifts for someone that he doesn't want you to know about. Also, there has to be a reason he doesn't want you to see inside the trunk or anyone else. He is obviously hiding something. I would be very curious as to what and what else he may be hiding.

Answer 6

Find an opportunity and get his keys and take a look. Don't get caught! Then you'll know what's going on. After being together for 10 yrs. there should be no secrets that big, and if they are you could have gotten into something you may not have wanted to. My motto "It's better knowing than not". The bags may not be for you!

Answer 7

Possilbities:
1) shopping for other women/men
2) compulsive shopper
3) purchases expensive things to show off for others, then returns them on the sly.
4) purchases items and 'returns' knock-offs or faked items.
5) purchases and uses/wears items and returns them later.
6) on the run from someone, or hiding from someone.



All are secretive behaviors that may lead you (and others) to believe that he has more money than he really does.

All are security issues, and founded on lies. Sneaking his key or forcing him to show you won't do anything for your relatinship. However, if the relationship is founded on some of these lies, you may be better off knowing.

He has 'money and important papers' -- really. Another lie or cover-up. Everyone has valuable in their trunk 'sometimes', but only people who think they need to move quickly (liars, cheaters and theives) carry 'all' their valuables all the time.

Answer 8

I suggest having a conversation about why he won't let you se in the trunk and how you feel about it. He's hiding something. It could be another relationship or a million other things. I would ask him about it, and if he won't come clean and let you see; then I would consider leaving him. If he can't be honest with you about what's in the trunk, then he isn't being honest about a lot of things.

Answer 9

Take it from me, he has secrets there. Probably gifts and letters from his lover and receipts for gifts to his lover. Try to get his trunk key duplicated so you can see what's inside the trunk when you get the chance. Or try sedating him to get the chance to check the trunk.

Answer 10

The worst scenario-He's dealing in something illegal..."He's wealthy and not a shoplifter" does not mean he's not a drug dealer...

The best scenario-He's probably hiding porn, or maybe adult toys that he doesn't want you to see...of course, the adult toys probably mean there is another woman somewhere...unless you and he do that sort of thing...