What if you think you're a rotton person?

Question

What if you hate yourself but other people like you and think you're okay? Who is right?

canron4peace and Lost Again....you two have succeeded in boggling my brain for the night. haha!

Answer 1

Considering what you said in your profile, I would say that everyone else is right. With six months clean it is normal to feel this way about yourself.... And there is a solution. In active addiction we do things that make us hate ourselves. In recovery we get to do things that help us love ourselves. It is a process though, and it takes time and work and committment. I did it with a twelve step program. I am still fuct up sometimes but the progress I have made in two years is amazing. Just dont use no matter what and find a twelve step program. They loved me till I could love myself.

Answer 2

:) :) The Id, Ego, and Super-Ego are the divisions of the psyche according to psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud's "structural theory."

These terms describe the division between the conscious and unconscious: 'id,' 'ego,' and 'super-ego.'

The “id” (fully unconscious) contains the drives and those things repressed by consciousness; the “ego” (mostly conscious) deals with external reality; and the “super ego” (partly conscious) is the conscience or the internal moral judge.

Your question pits the id against the ego in terms of how you view yourself. If other people see that you are okay, then the id of you suppresses the good things that you do and therefore your super ego is deflated.

Don't over examine yourself, just let the humanity come out - and remember that you are you. :) :)

Answer 3

Know thyself: Over thousands of years people have been taught to learn about themselves. This is the biggest part of what has become religions by default. Usually a lot of suffering is involved. First of all, people tend to adopt some form of vanity and it sticks like crazy-glue. This is where the suffering comes in. Anytime anyone tries to pull themselves away from this glue (vanity) it feels like they are ripping off their skin. Not pleasant. Yet it is false and smells like b.s. so anyone with a nose that stills works a bit can suddenly get a whiff and decide to do something about it. (or not)
When this happens, you know it is going to be a roller-coaster ride, emotionally speaking. One has to be brave, a hero/heroine. Yes, there is a connection.
Now there is a part of us whose job it is to keep us alive, circulating creative energy, in order to help the universe expand. This part, let us call it our instinct, prefers to avoid pain. It wants no part of this ripping off of that glue and prefers to cover it up with paint and bathroom spray. Yet one remembers, sometimes, and we are not fooled. Remembering the stench, the intellectual part (a real dummy) equates the whole scene as a rotten person and self-esteem takes a flying leap out of the nearest open window.
Fortunately, there are other people out there (here) whose senses are relatively intact. One thing I have learned over the years is that the imaginary picture we have of ourselves hardly fools any of those other people. What I am getting at, slowly I know, is exactly what you ask in your additional material (questions). This is why other people can see what is authentic and heroic in you. I am such a person. Odds are, my friend, that we are right. Your likely manipulativeness is accepted. No one is perfect, but it is the bigger picture that we find interesting, not the flaws.
Some of us even realize that we are just as responsible for your flaws as you are. This is a quantum leap and those tend to sound a bit crazy from some points of view, Olympic from others`. Till we meet again, Cheers!

Answer 4

This is a judgment problem. Many of us were trained early on to be self hyper critical. Religion is often the source but, what ever the source it is a misunderstanding of self.

You are perfect just the way that you are. This does not say that you can't correct errors and make improvements. It just says that you are a work in progress, and you are proceeding on schedule. No self loathing is necessary.

love and blessings Don.

Answer 5

It depends. I think you can tell if you're an insecure person if you keep being negative with yourself, because I don't believe anyone could be that imperfect, so others could be right.

But if you really and truly believe that you are screwing up at everything you do, and you believe that you can improve yourself, then you're right.

Answer 6

I suppose you have to ask yourself what makes you feel that way. Usually, the perception of others mirrors your actions and their interpretation of them. Unless you are faking being a good person, I'd say you're being unduly hard on yourself. It's ok to have flaws in your character as long as you recognize what they are and try to work to change them.

Answer 7

First, you are not a rotten person. Learn to love yourself. I'm not talking about conceit, but a healthy respect for yourself. We all make mistakes but have the ability to correct them. See your friends as your mirror, if they like what they see, so should you. Blessings on you.

Answer 8

every person is born with the ability to commit even the most heinous acts. perhaps their are certain aspects of yourself vthat really annoy you. your friends may see them or not. the thing is you are no different than others . we all have our own shortcomings to overcome . ihave no doubt you will succeed. don't be so hard on yourself . accept that you are not perfect and your faults will gradually become unimportant. your good traits will shine even brighter. god bless.

Answer 9

We are judged by the way we conduct ourselves, treat other people and behave in society. So the best judge is always your peers.

Having said that, we should all have enough maturity to know what is required in this society and act accordingly.

Answer 10

Hating yourself is a no-win situation. Seek professional help!