i have a crush on a guy who is in my job , he's great and we have somethings in common but the problem is that i cant say what i feel for him, to me its hard to admit what i feel for someone because of fear of rejection, i also couldnt do it cause i saw that he was getting close to one of his friends and now it seems that it hurts every time i think of him >< what should i do ?
2007-05-27 01:32:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Thanx for your question.
First, sort out what u really feel about this guy. Its important to distinguish love, passion and a mere crush.
Dear friend, do not judge the way things look on the outside just because of the way you feel. It seems your concern for this guy is too much that you think he's getting closer to someone else. Find out first whether he's dating. If yes, is he serious?
It takes courage and confidence to go for what you really want. Dont suffer in silence. Give your self time to find out what you really feel. If its a mere crush, it will disappear with time, and if not, take up the armour of courage and get to express your feelings to this guy.
Take it easy and dont beat around the bush. This will avoid showing him that you are desparate. You may get surprised he feels the same way too. all that it takes, is to know his stand. He would rather reject you, so that you can plan how you will move on, rather than planing a dream that will never be.
Thankyou.
2007-05-27 04:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, u have to act fast. Go to the guy and in most simple words tell him that u want to spend time with him & understand him.
His response is your answer. If he says no - earlier the better. Later you will get more hurt. If he says Yes, then why not grab an opportunity before you loose it to some oone else who would take first initiative.
Fear of rejection is false. If he do not have any feeling towards you than u are already rejected. Face it & try else where.
2007-05-27 02:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by arun c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it.
there was a lady at the job and I had the same feelings.
She left one day and I never had a chance to talk to her and let her know my feelings.
i do regret this decision.
Do not make my mistake and go see the person and begin a friendship.
2007-05-27 02:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either tell him how you feel or let him go. He might be thinking the same thing. You have to overcome your fear and go after what you want in life or you will always finish last.
2007-05-27 01:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
i am younger than u coz i am aint workin yet.... i am a guy and i think i can suggest sumthing to help u...... just consider this...
just try being real close to him as a friend show him how much affection u can show him as a friend....and share some secrets between each other...
and then leave time to solve it....
u got to paitent by being his friend u would get to knw him better ....
2007-05-27 01:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by moshi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the first thing that you should do is to take hold of your feelings... if you allow your feelings for the guy to consume you, you are just gonna end up feeling the hurt that you shouldn't be feeling in the first place...
take things slowly...
even if this crush of yours is not interested in you the way that you would have wanted him to, it's not like he's the only guy in this world...
take it easy... and please don't try to pretend to be something else just to capture his interest... just be yourself...
it's his loss if he ain't gonna take the time to know you...
good luck..!
2007-05-27 01:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by sayu13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and get his number, and tell himover the phone. Good Luck
2007-06-02 16:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST ME DONT GO WITH ANYONE AT WORK IT DOESNT WORKOUT AT ALL
2007-05-30 07:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by ambee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋