Please help someone!!?

Question

hello people,
i m really in need of a help. Though my problem doesnot sounds that big, but trust me me and my heart knows what kind of hell i m passing through.
i recenntly broke with a girl, who has used me. i call it using because she was in a deep relationship but her guy has betrayed her...so she called me. not to forget she has already finished the contact before and then got into the relationship...she contacted me and she wanted me to take her out of this relation...i somhow manged it..and she MADE ME fell in love with her, and she admiited herself that she is in love with me too....but the problem started when she thought she needs time, then she didnot contacted me for a month..she needed time coz she just got over with the relation and was not prepare for me. then y did she admitted that she loves me too? 2 mnths passed and the limit of my patience expired..so i blasted her made her feeling guilty..til now no contact,,,,i m too broken heart...i just need words of wisdom plz

Answer 1

Human beings in general have this trait of a changing heart..meaning sometimes we fall in and out of love not because we are evil but because our hearts feel differently at different stages of our lives. Have you ever been in love with someone for all your life? (like a girlfriend). However, as we grow up and when we find the right one we settle down for that person and we fall in love with him/her for the rest of our lives. But it has to be the one. and the one is someone who loves you as much as you do. This is not the case with your girl here my friend. You met her at a difficult part of her life. She may have been honest when she told you that she loved you because in the end love is the result of the moment- a moment which can last for seconds or forever. But still she was not settled emotionally when she started this relationship with you and you knew that yet u chose to take a risk. I know your heart is broken but try to focus on getting on your feet again so you be ready when the right one comes your way. Good luck

Answer 2

I know it's been 24 hours plus since you've posted this question. And the round-about way I came to get here at it is just as weird as the circumstances of your problem. So.... my advice. Look elsewhere for love. I know that you are truly in love with this girl. I know it hurts to let her go without some sort of attempt to make sense of it all. However, you don't want to be in a relationship that has been going on for 10-15 years and then it hits her that you were just a rebound relationship! You're lucky! There is still hope but, I wouldn't bet my paycheck on a positive outcome. If I were in your shoes I would just go out on 1 date with someone else. Don't look for love in this date! Your focus should be on finding out if you are going to be able to cope with this loss. Don't pick some skank, ugly ex prostitute either! Find the cutest girl you can get. 1 date! Afterwards you can answer your own question about can you make it without this girl who broke your heart. I know this isn't some mystical magical response like the last one. I think you can use a bit of common sense here though. Good luck! And give it a try. All it will cost you is a little time and the cost of a pizza and a movie!

Answer 3

sorry man, "needs time" is almost universally translated to "need someone else". And if it really means needing time to think, then I'd say a week would be about the maximum. You're talking about two months of zero contact. She's moved on and was just trying to avoid the confrontation.

If you want to make one last crack at it, send her a letter and explain that you can't be expected to wait forever, and that you're feeling like she doesn't love you. If you get any kind of a reply that says she still needs time, or that she's just not ready, then you know it's time for you to move on. If you don't get a reply, then it's time to move on. If she rushes back to you and apologizes, then you can give it a shot.

Good luck.

Answer 4

"The words of our mouth....seldom relay the true intent of our Heart". My Blood Mother once told me, of course it was at 4:30am, I was still half awake and half asleep, but it was true.
"Son.....SON!! You must KNOW.....what is real and what is Not! You must think on this for awhile and when you have thought on it long enough, then......you will know what is real and what is not. Then your path will be clear and you will have wisdom. You will follow the path that was always meant for you."
When she told me this, it was difficult to know what she meant, but she understood. And I did think on this thing and when I had thought on it long enough, I knew my path, which I walk today.
She is gone today, but her words still speak to me. She was the Tribal Shaman of the De'naina Tribe, of the Black Raven Clan and I am her first born son. God showed his Love for me, by making her my Mother and letting her give me words that still speak to me today, for that I am grateful always. Because God loves me more than I could ever know, I follow what he has asked me to. I Know my Path and so should you!!
The people of YOUR Life.....must know YOU by the path that you walk. Are your foot prints heavier when you carry those that are in need of your help?? Or do your foot prints show to be shallow, because you only care about yourself??
I say these things because there is NO end to Love, True Love. True Love, has deep foot prints, that never stop. My Lord carried me everytime I failed, everytime I felt that I couldn't take it anymore, His footprints were always deep.
With this said, understand.....no one can MAKE you fall in Love with them!! No One can fix your problems for you. It is yours to fix! Therefore, be Honest always!! Open your Heart and make your prints deep!! You have broken your own heart, because you have thought only of you! Be what you must be, a man. It requires much of you and little of others. This is your Cross to bear!! Patience is the son of Love and is a good thing to learn until you know it well.

Answer 5

if u've done everything you can to let her know that u love her, and she has told you that she loved you back, but now it seems like somehow she's changed her mind and hasn't contacted you yet, there is only thing that i can conclude:
she wasn't in love with u in the first place and she just used you to get over her previous boyfriend
but trust me when i say that if is she's the girl that u've described above, u're better off without her
know that you deserve better
:)

Answer 6

its' gonna be hard to get over specially when you loved her, i know how you feel i've been through your situation, but you just got to move on baby and let her go. just know that she may have lost the best thing that could ever happen to her. when she crawls back to you just let her know you left me i didn't leave you. they always say you never miss your water till your well runs dry. one more thing just enjoy your life and don't stress your self over another bi**ch because there are two many to be crying over one.
Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Move on guy, move on... She used you to get out of a relationship, now she wants out of the relationship with you. Find someone else, and later on if she tries to get in touch with you, just tell her to get lost.