Just to clarify on my earlier question. I started falling out of love with him before the financial issues and no I did not help him get into debt. The debts are from his overspending on a failing business, evern after getting advice from professionals and friends. I did try to stick with him until he could get himself on his feet, but he's not changing.
2007-05-27 00:27:51 · 15 answers · asked by dolphin123_22408 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is where i hate myself for telling you this but i am going to anyways: Even though you women nowadays are very manly and very capable of doing everything you need to take care of yourself and your kids if there is any, a mans job is to take care of his wife no matter what! he has the obligation to provide you with everything you might ever need (whilst it is still doable, i mean he is not going to buy you a plane if he is not tom cruise) but you see where i am going with that.. so dont ever feel bad for leaving him just for that reason... but what bothers me is that he probably did all that because he wanted to make you happy by earning more money..because he thought that by him making more money you would respect him more and would love him inconditionally, where you were just looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, therefore you needed a friend more than a provider am i right?.. if you have no kids, then feel free to move on but know that it is not going to be easy; life will not be better because you will have left him, but if it is really what you want, then leave the man, because by staying you are doing yourselves more harm than good.. wish you good luck for the rest and feel free to email me if you feel i can be of some assistance..i dont have much going on in my life right now so..
2007-05-27 00:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by Hitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are wrong to want out of a marriage that is not making you happy. (If it were only the money problems, then I would have had a different answer.) Sometimes staying in a marriage is the worst thing you can do for yourself and your partner, as well as any children you may have, regardless of the vows you made. You are the only person in the world who knows exactly how you feel, so go with your heart, and do what is going to make you happy, because the one thing you do deserve, is happiness.
2007-05-27 05:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the past relationship was already rocky, then don't act like the finances are the only issue. You have to decide for yourself if you'll be happier without him. The financial concerns can be worked around usually, but only if everything else is good between you. And if you decide to leave him, make sure he knows it's not just about the business. If you make it all about the money, and he turns it around, then you'll have to either stay, or suddenly add to the list.
2007-05-27 00:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you recognize, the greater I see this, the greater is bothers me. Marriage vows are meant to be sacred. i do no longer think of everywhere in those vows it suggested: Do you're taking this man or woman as your important different... until issues get no longer elementary until i don't experience that "in love feeling anymore" reason love is love yet its no longer the comparable as being in love until they get unwell until they get us into financial problems until i think like I deserve something greater powerful until such time as you advance bored with how issues are Marriage is meant to be a union of two people. Even no longer making an allowance for people's religions, The observe sacred nevertheless applies. Why are you now no longer in love with him? Are those valid motives or excuses to make a transformation because of the fact issues are no longer elementary? be careful what you ask for, for you may perhaps get it. you may locate that the grass isn't as eco-friendly in independence land as you first was hoping. Take a no longer elementary examine out who you're, who he's, who you're as a pair. I see various individuals giving up on relationships that would artwork in the event that they placed the attempt into issues, and that that they had see something relatively dazzling come back out of it if the only tried. Divorce at the instant is further and extra approximately on the spot gratification and has been grew to become into some grand fulfillment of empowerment. What it relatively is in maximum situations is a tragic waste of what 2 people would have been mutually if that they had tried and made the attempt to artwork mutually as loving companions.
2016-12-18 05:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by cheng 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was this business a mutual decision? I think he is just trying to provide and business is tough these days. However, he should know when to escape from the sinking ship. Does he have other skills to get a job? If he is capable of getting a job, he should get off his dead a** and get one. A real man will do whatever it takes to support his family. On the other hand, if you are only staying with him for money, you need to be real about that and probably leave.
2007-05-27 00:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want the marriage to work, it won't if he isn't cooperating.
Yes, sometimes you have to make HUGE sacrifices to start a business--sell your home, go into debt.... but if a a business is losing, there should be a plan to calling it quits after losing a certain amount of money that the both of you can agree on.
it isn't fair for one person to make all of the decisions and keep getting deeper into debt for those decisions.
If he isn't going to work with you on this, this just isn't fair because he is putting you both take longer to be able to get out of the hole of debt.
Leaving might very well be the best decision for yourself. If you want to try to workout the problems before leaving, it should be with counseling... and if he cannot agree to it, then you need to realize he isn't going to cooperate with you, his partner. that isn't fair!
2007-05-27 05:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong if you started to fall out of love before he ****** up his finances. If he overspent and deliberately ignored financial advice and everything it seems to me that he doesn't care about you or his family (if there is one) enough to keep money in order.
I don't think thats very good partner-material, do you?
2007-05-27 00:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by myleslr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember your Vows you made before god and everyone present at your wedding....in sickness and in health for RICHER and for POORER.. you made a sacred and holy vow before god almighty and now you want out because your husband is doing badly financially, why did you marry him in the first place?.. my dear you have some soul searching to do.. a whole lot if it..
2007-05-27 00:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dolphin 1, Hon, if you had doubts before his struggle began then you should proceed.If he is not willing to take advice then you should get out before you end up going down with him.
2007-05-27 01:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are absolutely right in wanting out but I think that you already know that. poor finances will haunt you for the rest of your life if you do not. besides, you already had misgivings about your relationship before this even happened. move on and don't look back.
2007-05-27 03:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋