Your probably going to think that I'm really sad and a pathetic person.I have alway had problem when it came to having a relationship end. They've always left me. And as they were going I was still madly in love with each and everyone of them. I'm 46 years old now and live with four different men in my life that I love dearly. When the relationship is ending I not very good at letting go or excepting that it over.I cry ,plead and beg them not to leave me. Trying everything that I could possibly do and say to convince them to give me another chance. Hoping that they will realize how much I love them .I get so scared just like a little girl when she loose her mommy in a big department store. I can't began to explain how scared I fell. I become imobalized with my life.The cruel part is now I've been married for 5 years now and my husband has for the whole marriage has pack up, walk out on me once every 2 to 3 months saying that he was leaving me. Isn't that sad?
2007-05-26 22:15:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-05-27 00:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by insenergy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is way sad. I really feel for you. You know there is a reason why these men leave you. Perhaps this time you should figure yourself out like who you are and what is best for you before getting involved right off the bat for insecurity reasons. Otherwise you are destined to have the same thing happen again and again. Get some counseling and take a serious and honest look inward to find the answer. Good luck to you.
2007-05-27 11:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, what is the problem? Am I choosing the wrong men to share my life with me? Is it my personality? Or is it them? I am looking for someone to, who cares, and is fun to be with, an honest open person. I have lived in Canada all my life, hate the cold and hate the snow. I am assuming that you live in Australia, I would like to have a contact down there to find out more about the culture and society, if you feel inclined write to me.
2007-05-27 05:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by coolcatcanada 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its sad. It sounds like you might just have a fear of being alone and could have nothing to do with the guy, since you've reacted the same to all of them. A relationship can't ever really be, if fear is feeding it. Try to learn how to be comfortable with yourself, learn to love yourself and who you are. Realize that you're betraying yourself by allowing your fears to control you, which in turn is preventing your happiness and potential life as it could be.
2007-05-27 05:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!
My Mom did leave when I was vey young and I have had it with being sad.
Unhappiness is not what I am into!
OMG! I LOVE my freedom! I worked so hard to keep my status! Being single is beautiful, and beautiful is an attitude!
Try the,"I am beautiful" attitude for a moment! See that it works wonders. Do it for yourself! You really are though, you know?
Treat yourself better and you will see that you get the respect that you deserve.
Chin up!
: )
2007-05-27 05:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ohmyheaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only think that you can only be happy if you have a man by your side don't you?
You should try and go to counseling to try and raise yourself up to love you and only you and to be able to rely on yourself for happiness.
you may want to check this book out, and if you read the first review by "C E" you will see there are a couple of other books the person recommends:
http://www.amazon.com/Homecoming-Reclaiming-Championing-Inner-Child/dp/0553353896/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/102-9553578-4461727?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1180270883&sr=1-1
I myself have not read it but I just thought I would point you to it.
2007-05-27 09:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really pity you but u must realize that you are the main reason for all this !!
You make your men feel that they are the only source of life for you and even if this was true you shouldn't make them feel this!! If he says that it is over and he doesn't longer want you why do you beg him??? Where is your dignity???
You would find the one who deserve you but he must be also too addicted to you!! Not u can't live without him and you simp;y doesn't count for him!!
Be strong and face the truth! don't be that weak !The world doesn't let weak people survive
Best wishes
2007-05-27 05:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by nour_blue4ever 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People come and go, it's part of life. Next time your husband leaves, tell him to stay gone since he wants to go so damn bad. Don't allow yourself to be tormented by someone like him.
2007-05-27 07:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry for you. Please rerun you problem and analysis what went wrong and be sure to change. Maybe you are lack of faith, have faith it whatsoever religion you believe in. Both you and the opposite you must have the real commitment that's the answer.
2007-05-27 05:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by Gew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both need to go to counciling
2007-05-27 05:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Johanna R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋