Currently planning on artificial insemination in a couple of weeks and the cost of sperm is awful! Was I wrong in asking my ex bf for sperm? We ended it 6 years ago because he thought that he might be gay, but have remained friends. Was I a total devil for putting him on the spot like this? I would rather have sperm from someone I know and it would be so much cheaper. HELP!
2007-05-26 21:48:34 · 10 answers · asked by sweetnurse1974 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I don't think it was wrong at all.
You obviously thought enough of him to date him and it speaks well of both of you, in my opinion, that you have remained friends for 6 years. That's not often an easy thing to do.
As long as he's healthy and willing, I'd say go for it.
Be sure to talk about the what-ifs if he agrees, too, and discuss getting it in writing.
Do you waive financial support since he's the father?
Do you expect other support or involvement from him because he's the father?
What are his expectations - if he wants to be part of the child's life, are you OK with that?
Good luck!
2007-05-27 03:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Love triangle a lot? Honestly, what you must do is use any one else. Technically, he is dishonest on his female friend right now. Put yourself in her shoes. How would you believe? No longer excellent, proper? He talked crap about you whilst you guys have been collectively. Actually, he is a player. I do know his form. I've HAD that style. And, i have been precisely where you've gotten been. You have to in finding anybody who isn't a player on the grounds that he's going to without doubt cheat on you or do the same detailed factor he did to you while you guys had been collectively. He's seeking to preserve his "pimp hand" strong. I do know it will be VERY difficult, honey. But, you must move ON and in finding any individual better considering that from the appears of it. He's no longer a very serious committed man. That you would be able to go for it, but I cannot rather gaurantee he will stick around. Just right success, and completely happy Valentine's Day!
2016-08-11 13:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong. It's actually a good thing that you're wanting to get it from somebody you actually know personally instead of a stranger that you know nothing about. I wouldn't be hurt if he said no because how would you feel if he asked you for one of your eggs so him and his boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever could have a child? Is he healthy? Does he have a good attitude/personality? Do you like his looks/features? If the answer is yes, then don't worry about it! You know what's best for you and if you think you made a good choice then you probably did. I don't think you were a total devil for putting him on the spot either. Good luck!!!
2007-05-27 03:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if "cheaper" is the first criteria for having a sperm donor. You want someone healthy, and if he's gay he might have been exposed to AIDS. You also want someone with good genetics; is he of good character? You're not a devil for putting him on the spot, but he has the right to say no, too.
2007-05-26 22:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can ask, but you might not get a great response out of it. There are several moral issues that may come up. I wouldn't want to know that I fathered a child and didn't have a hand in raising him or her.
2007-05-26 21:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't forget to MAKE SURE that the person is compleetly healthy
but it will wonderful if he says YES
point out that it will be a great arrangememt for both of you
Good luck
2007-05-26 21:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eh, I would take it as a complement, personally...but in the future, you should try eBay instead. That's my first stop for all my seminal procurement needs
2007-05-26 21:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
i dont think it was aslong as he doesnt feel pressured, you gotta do what you have to do
2007-05-26 21:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by kylie a 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
shouldnt you have a husband first to have a baby with??
2007-05-26 23:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by britjam 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he's okay with it, I'd say go for it.
2007-05-26 21:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Kat™ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋