im white and went on a few dates with a black lady and my family acted like it was so bad. what the heck is wrong? it was just a few dates. to get this straight i was in my 30s. single and living alone, i went out with a lady of another race and mentioned it to my sister. she told the whole family and they all acted like they were mad at me. and to be real straight i would have continued to date her but she is married. but i dont get the problem. and also i am very lost on the deal of it being ok for black men being with white women. but she lives in an all black neighborhood and the black men would be rude to me about taking her out. it was just dates. gee i think asian ladies are pretty also. what is up with people getting so angry and rude about it? please be honest about this.
2007-05-26 21:14:24 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
and to the people that commented, yes that is why i had nothing to do with her, she admitted she was married so i went no further. i thought she was a single lady. i would have never went out with her if i had known she was married.
2007-05-26 21:52:15 · update #1
Hi,
I am a Chinese girl and my family are mad at me because I am attracted to western guys and they are attracted to me. So I can understand your feelings. It is no wrong to date someone not of your race, but did you metion that black girl is married? In that case, you are in trouble, and I don't see this as a race problem. And my advise is also 'give it up', it will be ugly when her husband finds out about this...
However, it is your life, you are the one to choose whatever that makes you happy. Just ignore other people's opinion, and try to be patient everytime your family metion this. Make your family feel that you have accepted thier opinion and as you said, it is just date, what's the big deal, you could secretly keep dating women of other races.That's my strategy, I hope it helps.
2007-05-26 21:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lilac's eternity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why people get mad either and yes, my family has gotten made at me for like someone else that is way out of my race area (mainly the don't like blacks or whites). Funny thing is some of my family members (not the racist ones) have white, asian and black (our family is mostly hispanic) husbands, wives, children, etc...it's funny that way. Probably the most racist of all in my family is my grandma, even though I love her to death, I don't know what I would do if I ever dated someone out of my race...but if your family really loves you, they will accept that person in the end.
2007-05-26 21:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with it AT ALL..
because im a mixed race..(Latin,white,black,AND Indian) so it doesnt matter to most of my family..
but i get treated diffrently because im a mixed race
but this is simply being racist..
and its not a good thing..
racism should have been kicked
like years and years ago..
they need a upgrade (no offense)
its just dumb,u like what u like
and if a black,asian,hispanic,or white (ect.) intrest u then you should be able to talk them..
2007-05-26 21:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by Shy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people are still living in the past were dating or marrying a person from another race is a taboo.
2007-05-26 21:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by Meeya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can not have a problem with people who has black skin, then you must also have problems with Italians, Frensh, or whatever other races there are, black is only a colour, im white and one of my best friends are black. Shes just normal
2007-05-26 21:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they were upset cause she was married and not of a different race. if you were my bro going out wiht a married woman, i would try to talk sense to you that is immoral, guys wont' go out with their bro's g/f's or ex's normally. so why even go with a married woman. anyways, race wouldn't be the issue in my family.
2007-05-26 21:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off they dont get mad because my family is all mixed.
Thats just the way some people are they wanna be around people like them, or hold generalizations about other races.
2007-05-26 21:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by uh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I kinda know how you feel. My mother threatened to ship me off to London to get me away my now husband before he could corrupt my mind. My gran offered to send him with me so we could have a holiday together. My mother was pis*ed. I love my gran. I live in South Africa, London was the furthest my mom could think of.
2007-05-26 21:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm Italian-American. i could date somebody of a diverse race. that doesn't remember to me. as long as they're actual (: i'm in many situations fascinated in Latino boys however lmao
2016-10-06 03:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand close minded people who have a problem with people that date and are different ages race color or even same sex.
2007-05-26 21:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋