I can't take my life anymore, I don't have any real friends, I always have to be the one calling them, they never call me, only a few call me & thats only because they are returning my phone calls, I'm gonna be 20 next year in January, I'm still a virgin, I've never had a girlfriend, all I've done is kiss a girl which was through Truth or Dare, & the last time I kissed a girl was when I was 17, I recently stopped hanging out with my friends because I couldn't stand them, cause everytime we went out we always had ruined nights & weekends, like our plans always backfired when were gonna go out with girls or to a party, like it only went right one time when we went to a hotel party but it wasn't all that fun. I haven't been to a typical all white party yet, why are those parties hard to get invited to?, I'm half-white, half-mexican, but my voice sounds white, i'm light skinned, it seems that I have an easy time hispanic friends, & hard time making white friends.
2007-05-26 20:35:56 · 8 answers · asked by introvertedguy06 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
also I went to 3 high schools in my life, I went to an all-mexican ghetto school for 2 & a half years, then the second semester of junior year I went to school that was mostly mexican, but with a lot of asians, & the rest white people, but it was still kinda ghetto, then for my senior year I went to a private Catholic school far from my house, like 25 miles away, it was mostly white people which was better, but I didn't get to hang out with anyone because they lived far & I didn't have my driver's license yet, I didn't get it a month after I graduated. Now I have a hard time making friends in college because you don't see the same people everyday, I go to a 2-year community college, man, why was I cursed with this life?
2007-05-26 20:52:07 · update #1
OK, you do need to calm down. It never helps to think about the past as a huge block like that. You are not all that different to anyone else, despite what you may think. Calling yourself a loser isn't going to get you anywhere, so stop thinking in those terms and please change the name of your avatar.
I don't know exactly what has happened to you in the past but you've given us a fair idea. My teenage years were pretty grim too but there's nothing you can do about the past now. You have to find people you are comfortable with and you aren't going to do that by feeling sorry for yourself and standing still. If you are nervous or angry, people will sense that and perhaps that's why you find it difficult to maintain the friendships. Nobody wants to hang around someone who is miserable either.
Nothing you have listed is insurmountable. You don't have a life threatening disease, you just lack confidence. Join clubs to make new friends or do something proactive. You have to be positive. You're a virgin at 19, so what? It's a better situation to be in than those guys who slept around in their teens and contracted STDs or got a girl pregnant. Personally, I find it endearing but maybe you would rather be cool than appear nice. You will meet the right girl and it will be special, unlike with most people. Don't just sleep with a random girl to get it over with. Treat yourself with respect and try to relax and enjoy life. The only thing you lack is confidence and you can gain that over time. Good luck.
2007-05-26 21:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not feel so. Since you're a pupil, all of it will depend on you. What you you may also discover is youngsters are looking to alter to residing clear of dwelling for the primary time of their lives and if parents are paying the fees they might not be as severe as you. Other than that it will have to be OK. You might ought to discover a situation to research because the dorm is also to noisy. But I am so much older than you (nearly 2x your age) and final 12 months I stayed at an condominium that used to be similar to a dorm, I used to be on a six month trade agreement in a school the town within the mid-west and rather then getting woken up a couple of nights and having to visit paintings the next day to come, it used to be a pleasant surroundings to be in. I am definite that I used to be older than one of the crucial youngsters moms and dads, nevertheless it labored out very good and used to be bigger than a inn (so much inexpensive).
2016-09-05 13:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by izak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they arent your real friends because rather than choosing them based on their characters you emulate them based on what they look like. besides, if you went to an all white party looking to hook up with a white b*tch, instead of say an asian or a black chick or whatever, you're that much more likely to be hooking up with some distant cousin. Then, what happens if you guys go all the way, she gets knocked up, and because instead of mixing it up you let your genes stagnate and look, your unwanted kid has down syndrome. If you want real friends, don't just try to befriend any cracker because you are for some reason ashamed of your indios background-- be proud that only half your ancestors (the white half) spent the last millenia sh*ting in the streets and wiping their asses with the same bare hands that they ate with, becoming diseased and then spreading that disease to the beautiful, hygienic native peoples of this continent (including the indians the mexicans descend from). Bein' white aint something to be too proud of if you look at our shameful history, and if the gringos whose clique you are trying to join aren't letting you join the club because you are half latino, then, trust me honey, they arent worth your time or concern. Reality, karma, whatever, will come back to bite them someday.
2007-06-03 19:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by magdalena gnosthelema 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude. Chill. You HAVE friends. They DO call you back. Who cares if you go to a white party or have hispanic friends? People are people. Hang out with the ones you click with. Don't stress it.
2007-05-26 20:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow i went thru, and am going thru some of the things you listed. but you cant down yourself. you can have confidence, and not be popular. come out the shell a bit, and youll notice a difference. not everyone whores around, partyall the time, and has thousands of friends........face it, your unique and youll have to get out to find what your truly looking for *acceptance*. The trick is not to be accepted, but starts accepting some applications of people who meet your standards in honesty, loyalty ect.
lol jus chill. dont feel bad for not experiencing all the things ppl brag about. ive experienced some and its overrated ;)
2007-06-01 23:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Born to be wild 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to begin with your best friend -- YOU.
You have to like yourself, forgive yourself when you make a mistake, develop your skills and abilities, be the best you can be in all things, be the kind of person you, yourself would respect.
People will be drawn to the confidence you would exude after doing all that. It will be automatic.
2007-06-03 06:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some people are just losers ... sounds to me like you are one of them.
2007-05-27 16:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'D LIKE TO BE YOUR FRIEND..........A TRUE ONE........NOT KIDDING
2007-06-03 03:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by namrata 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋