How long will it take my wife to become interested in sex with me again after having a baby?

Answer 1

The more you help with the new baby, you will have a better rested and appreciative wife. There is an episode of 'Everybody Loves Raymond' Where Ray is actually vacuuming the curtains and His wife Debra walks into the room and said ' I've never been more attracted to you than I am right now. Hee Hee. It takes at least 6 weeks to heal up nice and comfy again. Some gals might take longer. Patience is a virtue.

Answer 2

when she has had enough sleep, help with the house and baby, then there are the hormones that need to settle after the birth was it a hard - long birth was there many stitches or was it via a Cesare
and then it depends on the female could be
1 week to 1 month then maybe it could be longer or shorter

if you are worried then the best thing is to talk to her but give her a bit of a rest after the birth to get in to the swing of being a mother and most importantly be supportive and helpful don't make it all about you and the sex

Answer 3

She may be ready six weeks later, or she may take longer.

Make sure you are in constant communication with her because she could fall into post partum depression... make sure she is getting all the support she needs so that the depression doesn't get worse.

Also have some patience and make sure you are helping her out in giving her some alone time...even if it is just a half hour bath, or some time to read a book. Whether or not she is a stay-at-home mother should not matter... staying at home taking care of a child and a home is work.... and is not in any way "her time".

Don't forget to keep romancing her, so that she feels special... whether it be a card telling her how much you love her and/or how proud you are to have her as the mother of your child... to flowers now and then... or a dinner cooked by you...

and of course the BIG no-no... do not say negative things about her body... it has changed, and be sure to know that she does know it. there are more subtle things you can do to help her... like saying "honey, lets go for a walk around the park and talk" and stroll your baby as you are both walking and talking. then you are spending quality time together while doing some exercise.

if you are feeling like she isn't giving any effort towards you and what you want... then make sure you start to talk to her about it.

some women do take their husbands off their priority list once a baby comes and just make sure and voice it to her if you feel she has done so. its not that you have to be 1st on her priority list... but really, some women don't even have them anywhere on priority, and then look at having sex as a chore instead of a loving time to spend together, and help keep each other satisfied.

if it is a problem in your marriage, there is this book:

http://www.amazon.com/Proper-Care-Feeding-Husbands/dp/0060520620/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/102-6005042-8784158?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1180288922&sr=8-1

but I dunno how she would take to receiving the book from you...

You could get this book for yourself at the same time and let her know you are reading it:

http://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Almost-Perfect-Husband/dp/0966715616/ref=pd_sim_b_3/102-9553578-4461727?ie=UTF8&qid=1180289125&sr=1-3

Answer 4

Wow . . Really, interesting, i had some sort of thing about that with my neighbor but were just "friends", besides we both live with iour parents im 23 and hes 24 Lol, but reading ur stuff its pretty dmn cool, cause I was wondering if could have some sort of living with this guy or someone else in the future and u are the pure example of what i think of . . Reallty its hard because of the family stuff, but i thkink it might be worth it . . Like, i mean its 2012, people really dont care that much. i ve seen it, so maybe ur family just dont need to know . . U get hurted, ure living with a close friend, whats big it a deal anyway , , it also gives u time to realize if thats what u really want, u might not come back to your wife but ull already knw whats life like being straight and being bi, because yeah, living with him will make u bi no matter what . . Besides, we only have one life, we should try new things, who knows what things will u know and learn with him . . How far can u get? to live your life to the fullest . .

Answer 5

It depends on the labour. 4 to 6 weeks is normal but it could be as long a 3 or 4 months. Or in the case of a really good memory and a grudge 18 or 19 years.

Answer 6

In general it takes about 6 weeks for proper healing unless advised that earlier is acceptable and safe. Even if the Doctor says that sexual activity may resume sooner, realize she has just had a child. The stress of having a child, taking care of a newborn, and the entire adjustment to being a new mother isn't easy unless there is a lot of help and support. Even then, this is a major change in one's life and it can take time for her to feel like herself again. With all that said, you have to realize that women are different. If you are there, you help her and support her and are a part of taking care of the child, it is likely she'll recover more quickly and appreciate your efforts to help her. When she is ready, she'll know. If you push and complain, she'll likely resent you for being insensitive. Be there, love her, support her. Unless there are other issues, she'll be ready to resume physical intimacy after she's recovered.

Answer 7

Everyone's different and a lot can depend on the type of birth she had cos that can make a huge difference too. Give her a chance to have post birth check up and for god sake don't rush her! Her hormones are everywhere too you know and she's dealing with a new born baby and no doubt very tired. Sometimes i wish men could go through pregnancy & childbirth and just see what us women go through cos if that was the case i don't think "sex" would be their priority for awhile!

Answer 8

Well, I do not know about post-labour interest in sex - that would be highly individual, varying from person to person. I do know, however, that she should be physically able to have sex again between 6 to 7 weeks after the birth of the baby. Be gentle on her. Do not expect rough sex right away.

Answer 9

for starters she needs six weeks if no complications for her insides to heal.very important. also is whether or not you are helping her around the house.do you get up with the baby or roll over and tell her the baby is crying.the more exhausted she is the less likely she will feel like having sex which requires and drains alot of energy that she may not have.

Answer 10

Good luck, I gave up after a year since my son was born. We've had sex less than five times the last year.