I have told my husband before that I consider talking secretly to the opposite sex on the internet and telephone cheating. Now I found out he has been talking to a woman with 25 phone calls and he says he did nothing wrong. Do you consider that cheating? Not to mention it was all long distance so there are charges for it.
2007-05-26 19:59:34 · 22 answers · asked by sherryliz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He didn't know this woman before, he met her online. He says he doesn't even know her last name.
I've asked him to go to counseling, and he has refused.
2007-05-26 20:06:35 · update #1
Not at all. Skin didn't touch.
2007-05-26 20:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by Billy T 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
If he has to keep the friendship a secret, then something is definitely going on. 25 long-distance phone calls are a lot. I do not want to speculate on the vature of these phonecalls and online interactions, but I do agree that cheating is a matter of an emotional connection, and not necessarily sex.
I interact with quite a few persons online, but never has it occurred to me to step it up to a telephone relationship. This definitely has to be nipped in the bud.
2007-05-27 03:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by LovablyMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally consider it cheating.. how did you come up with the phone bill checking anyway???? hmmmmmm is something going on here? long distance???? who is this person? how does he know her.. A married person really does not have any business looking at, calling, or "going to dinner" with a person other than their spouse. This looks like a warning sign that something is wrong with your marriage.
you told him that BEFORE you found the phone bill??? why was that?? Had you noticed something going on??? You two need to discuss this matter openly and frankly and find out where you are..
2007-05-27 03:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by billy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule of thumb:
Would you do what you are doing if your BF/GF/Spouse was standing right behind you and looking over your shoulder? No? Stop doing it, it is wrong. Yes? Continue on and have a good time.
I don't know if that could be called cheating (since we don't actually know what they discussed), but I sure as hell wouldn't be comfortable with it. Secret conversations with a strange woman is NEVER a good thing.
2007-05-27 03:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating is some other forms. Even if your husband only wanted to be friends with this woman, I mean why exert too much effort of calling long distance and foot the bills.
Why would you put yourself in a situation where you'd expose yourself to greater risk of temptations?
2007-05-27 03:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by LIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider it tottally wrong. I would hate it if my husband would be talking to other wemen on phone or internet. Friendship can lead to other things between the opposite sex. In your case I would be so upset!!!! why would he want to talk to other women when he could talk to you? Plus he is spending money "the family money" on phone calls to other women!!! I would confront him and ask him if he would like it if I talked to other "guy friends" on the phone or internet. If he answers no, than I would tell him that it does bother me and see if he chooses on his own to stop talking to other women. if he doesn't stop despite him knowing that I dont like it, then I would worry. May be as my last draw I would pretend to have a friend that I talk to on the phone and let him know its a male friend and see what happens.
2007-05-27 03:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by liliana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what they're talking about. Don't try to break a friendship, because that will cause serious damage to your relationship. Maybe you could tell him WHY you think it's cheating and he'll probably be more likely to respect your wishes.
But, come on, you can't cut your husband off from the world.
2007-05-27 03:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Feather 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is infidelity. Go to 'on line infidelity' and 'adultery' on the Internet, read all about it. Even if he never touches her it is emotional infidelity. Of course he says he did nothing wrong, because he wants to keep doing it. Don't put up with it, you have every right to be livid about this. He is being unfaithful to you, he has no business as your husband flirting with other women. He'll try to make you think something is wrong with you and may even tell you to mind your own business. It is your business as his wife, what he is doing and saying to other women!!!!!!
2007-05-27 03:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. I was with my ex for 15 years and he use to get calls all the time from other women and he would swear that they were just friends but, I learned later that I should have gone with my instinks. But, I can't say this is all other men.
2007-05-27 03:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by Monique L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what were they talking about 25 times?
maybe he hasn't cheated yet, but, if he is spending money on someone of the opposite sex (he is...the calls cost you money) then there is a little more there than just calling and chatting with someone...
2007-05-27 03:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the conversation. Either way, if he spends more time talking to this other woman then maybe your marriage needs some serious attention
2007-05-27 03:04:03 · answer #11 · answered by drickdj9 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋