We had dinner with friends tonight and all seemed to be going well until he started talking about me and finding fault with how I will turn the AC on and I don't consider the fact that he pays the bill. He thens calls me a walking moral hazard in front of our friends. For some reason, whenever we go out with other couples (which isn't often), my husband always brings up a fault or something that he perceives as a fault. I sure I do it, but he takes it to a whole nother level. Needless to say, his stupid comment made me livid and there was no need for it. The walking moral hazard part was uncalled for.
2007-05-26 18:31:36 · 21 answers · asked by hrmom02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You shoulda "accidentally" let it slip that he has a small penis. Oops!
2007-05-26 18:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How does he figure only he pays the bill? His money is yours too and so you both pay the bill. My suggestion is let him read what you wrote here, that sums it up very well. Tell him you won't go out with him when friends are along, for this very reason. Ask him what a walking moral hazard is and find out why he disrespects you this way. I wouldn't put up with that for one minute. Maybe he should read 1st Cor Chapter 13 in the bible and find out what love is. Because that sure isn't love behaving that way towards you. He should be ashamed of himself.
2007-05-26 20:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some hostility issues here. I can't imagine doing something like that to my wife. If he ever does that again, look him in the eye and say, "Why would you say something like that in front of our friends?" It will stun him and put HIM on the spot. His reaction will tell you a lot. He is trying to belittle you or make you mad. This is not something a mature guy does who is in a healthy marriage. I suggest you go talk to a marriage counselor or your church pastor as soon as possible. The guy is being abusive and it needs to stop. I do agree with the person who said he might not like going out and this is his (immature) way of getting back at you. This only applies if it wasn't his idea to go out, of course. He might be a selfish immature jerk, I don't know.
Kent in SD
2007-05-26 19:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its important to look at what store the receipt is from as well as what was purchased. It could give you clues as to whether he was skipping work to do something he shouldnt have been doing. If its something common, like groceries, maybe the time was wrong. Try and think back to when he purchased the item on the receipt. Perhaps its from a supply store and he had to pick something up for his office? If that doesnt help, I would call, or go to the store, and ask the cashiers if the time is usually right and i would enquire about the item that was purchased on the receipt. Once again, if its something minute, I wouldnt worry about. But obviously if its something that he shouldnt have been buying then you should certainly bring it up.
2016-04-01 10:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with him. Let him know how inappropriate and hurtful his comments are. It sounds like he is frustrated with certain things that you do and his frustration is coming out when you guys are with friends. Tell him that if something is bothering him, then he needs to tell you about it in private, not in front of your friends! Then, you can try to work through it together and resolve the problem without embarassing each other. Whatever you do, don't let him continue to treat you this way. It will only get worse, and it is completely rude and inappropriate.
2007-05-26 18:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by engineergirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no explanation as to why your husband felt the need to humiliate you in front of your friends. I can only speculate that he is trying to impress them by insulting you. As ridiculous as that sounds, some people go to the extremes to seem "smart" or "hip".
It is unacceptable since as your husband, he should treat you with respect and dignity. If your faults are issues to him then it is mature to discuss these issues with you in private and not in the presence of others.
Maintain your calm. Bring this to his attention and make it clear that you refuse him to humiliate you in such a way again. Refuse to accompany him on these dinner dates and pretty soon he will get the picture.
2007-05-26 18:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he feels the need to make you look bad in front of others, as a controlling mechanism and/or to make him feel better about himself somehow. It is twisted and uncalled for. You said you two don't go out often. It sounds like he doesn't want to go out and when you do, this is a way he punishes you for him "having to go out".
2007-05-26 18:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely sounds like he has insecurity issues. He's probably intimidated by you and tries to hide it in front of others by making condescending comments about you. And unfortunately, some people never learned that you don't have to make someone else look bad in order to make yourself look better. He may not have meant it maliciously - maybe that's all he knows. But it's still not fair to you.
2007-05-26 18:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Rising Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would tell him that if he ever speaks of you that badly in front of friends ever again, you will ask the females what takes urine out of bedsheets. That your sweet husband wets to bed every night and it is so hard to get the stains out of decent linens. Tit 4 tat. And it wont matter if he denies it because they will never believe him. Then he will think twice before he pulls a stupid stunt like complain about you again. Good luck!
2007-05-26 18:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt do this to you at home as ofter or at all right? Becuase he could be trying to make himself appear to be the "better one" infront of other people cuase he feels bad about himself.There is no excuse for that and my husband does it too. I just tell him to piss off and usually that shuts him up or when i go home i tell him when you said that later on someone told me they never thought you were that rude!! and i say it weather someone told me that or not cuase sometimes people do things without thinking that it would bother anyone!!!!!
2007-05-26 20:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any husband who loves his wife wouldn't put her into shame infront of other people... and no woman should tolerate such act. You are the woman he vowed to love, to cherish, to be with in sickness and health, til death do you part.... and such small things he can't keep them to himself? Shame on him too for he is talking about his other half, don't you think?
Well, if talking to him didn't tame his uncalled act - its either you bare with it or draw the line yourself so that he starts respecting your marriage. He should realize that you are both into this together so whatever he rants about how bad you can be, it reflects more so of his own behavior than you do.
2007-05-26 19:05:18 · answer #11 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋