He is 19, and he is really struggling in a lot of his classes, but he is really trying. He recently has a lot of problems staying focused and is very stressed out. We went to the doctor and he has some depression and he is taking medication, but he is still really struggling. Some days he comes home crying because the teachers were really mean to him, or it has been very overwhelming, and has been failing some classes and trying so hard, but doesn't know what to do.
2007-05-26 18:29:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
It sounds like he's under too much pressure. Be sure he studies the best he can, but maybe the things he's trying to learn are just too hard for him. So you have to be an encouraging mother, but also let him know, that if he doesn't do as well as you expect him to do, it's OK too. No matter what, you're going to love him. That might ease the stress.
2007-05-26 18:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's in over his head. I'd advise you sit down and have a talk with him. Let him know your position on the matter and tell him that it's not a race or anything. At the end of the day, it's better to have taken 5 years and left with a 3.8, than 4 years and left with a 3.1
You should also look at other univs. or tell him to reduce his courseload for now - if he's taking too many classes then that is an instant pressure-raiser.
Lastly, he should be having some fun and friends. It's tough to sustain any sort of motivation or balance without these. Sports also help - that's why univs. encourage students to get involved - an involved student has a support network and they have ppl who see things from their perspective.
2007-05-26 20:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my point of view I think perhaps (besides talking to the college counselor) is to switch to another school that may be structured to fit him...as in he can find a nice niche somewhere else with professors that are much more supportive and understanding of what is going on. By attending another school for maybe a semester or two you can get back on track to that other school later by transferring again...this may sound like a lot of work but success is still achieved in the end. Health is always the most important, not the name of the school or the food and whatnot. It is not worth sacrificing everything up to this point and going through with bad grades. Perhaps a different set of classes / different major / different school will let his efforts meet their full potential and allow him to receive what he deserves as a grade.
2007-05-26 18:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by cristal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that he knows that you will accept him regardless of what he does. I'm not saying that you want him to spend the days lying around, but perhaps he thinks he needs to succeed in this particular college to please you. He needs to know that he doesn't have to follow in your footsteps, or pursue your dreams for him, in order to succeed. He may be at the wrong school or studying the wrong thing, or maybe this just isn't the time in his life for him to be doing this. Make sure you don't add to his stress and sense of depression by pushing him toward something which is just not right for him. Men, in particular, want to please their fathers. Let him know that he does this just by being himself.
2007-05-26 19:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by neniaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋