My friend Samantha (Sam) commited suicide 2 months ago from today. No one knew she was even depressed, nevermind being suicidal. She was very pretty & had the best personality & sense of humor I've ever seen (& i'm not saying that because she's gone, I said that to everyone when she was alive) Sam was very close to our friend Eric. Eric really cared about her too (more then his other friends, it was obvious) Eric took it the hardest & still is, he does't leave his house anymore. After the funeral Eric told us that Sam & him had 2 conversations where she would cry & tell him that she couldn't picture a future & didn't want one & how she lost the drive to live, I believe a qoute was "it lost the spark". Eric talked her out of it as best he could, when he threatened to call the cops/ her parents, she said it would only make things worse. So he didn't. There wasn't one problem that she couldnt work out or anything, it was life in general that she hated.
2007-05-26 16:54:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sam did tell someone though, she told eric, & she wasnt look for attention
2007-05-26 16:59:34 · update #1
some people do reach out for help and if you see any signs....ask about it. help them. i had a friend who said things like that and we didn't think she was serious...but she was. she seemed happy, but she always said she wasn't. God Bless you, and your friends.
2007-05-28 16:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by chrysta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think sometimes people are just looking for someone to care but most times, like ur friend, if they wont tell everyone its a problem. if they broadcast it around the world they just might want sympathy. i dont think there was anything eric could have done. it sounds like he did everything he was supposed to do as a respactful friend. its hard when u dont know if the person is serious. at least he should have told u or someone else to be sure but im not sure if it would have helped or not. i wish u and eric the best.
2007-05-26 17:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by shutupndrive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all people who kill themselves talked about it. They say if they do, they just want attention and the ones who do it never told anyone, cause they didn't want to be stopped. It is so sad that anyone thinks nothing in life is worth living for, or if they have problems, that they won't get better. I know people who killed themselves too, it is so hard on the family and all the unanswered questions. Suicide is a sin. Anyone thinking of this should seek help, it does get better. Don't let your family and friends spend the rest of their lives wondering what they should have done to save you. Don't take the cowards way out.
2007-05-26 16:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when people threaten to commit suicide, their reasons can vary, and most of the time, it is a cry for help, even if they deny it.
depression is an awful thing to go through. you are left feeling 'lonely, sad, doomed, like nothing matters any more...'
I went through depression when I was a young adult, and have attempted suicide a couple of times in my life. I was at a place in my life where I was getting no support, though. I was living a very turbulent lifestyle and my surroundings were chaotic. Once I got myself out of that lifestyle, everything calmed down, and I felt I had a purpose in life, again....
However, there are others out there, who hide their depression well. I had a friend who no one really thought of as the 'suicidal type', because she smiled, and she liked to help people. She was single, young, fresh out of college, and she wanted to travel. But what a lot of people didn't know was that she was in a state of mind that a lot of people never seen. When she was alone, she would cry. She never told anyone because in her 'note' (that they found), she said she didn't want to alarm anyone, or have anyone feel 'pity' for her and her problems. No one ever thought that she was going to do anything to put her own life in danger, but when she did, it really shook up the community. People thought she was murdered, because there was not one person who said they knew she was depressed....it was unusual, but it happens...
Depression.....it's an awful thing to be stuck with, and feel like you're alone.....
2007-05-26 17:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who talk about suicide are reaching out for help... and yes, your friend Eric should have gone to her parents or his parents to let them know she was talking like that. I'm so sorry for Eric because this is a terrible burden to carry for life. Suicide threats must be handled by professionals.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
2007-05-26 16:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sciencemom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats a very hard question! I had a friend of mine that was suicidal....she would cut herself and tell stories after it happend about driving to a cliff to jump off and such. But honestly, I think hers was just for the attention. I would like to say that most people do it, just for that reason, but that answer would be too good to be true! If you notice a person saying they want to end their life frequently and perform certain tasks...ask them to get help. Anti depressents...counceling...if they wont go for it....maybe they really aren't? I honestly dont know. I wish I had a better answer for you! And I'm so sorry to hear about your friend....I know how hard it is.
2007-05-26 17:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by tadreams95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are exceptions of course, but for the most part there is a significant gender divide here. Females often attempt suicide as a means of seeking attention and asking for help, and will do so by using less fatal means (pills or cutting, for example). Men more often use more violent and fatal means (firearm, hanging) and are thus more successful.
2007-05-26 16:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by House M.D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In answer to your question, I would not ignore the person that was saying they were going to commit suicide. There is something not right about their life or they would not be thinking about it. Eric is grieving just as you still are. Be there for him. Share your own grief. Try to get him to go places with you to help him and yourself get through it. Good luck to you both.
2007-05-26 17:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by The PENsive Insomniac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people that blurt it out are in it for attention but it sounds like in Sam's case it really came from her heart when she spoke to your friend Eric. To me that was her heart crying out for help. I'm so sorry and may she rest in peace.
2007-05-26 17:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT EVER take this lightly! A person mentions this in a last-ditch effort for ANY kind of help!
I've mentioned this before to many people and have attempted it with no obvious success!
I've tried to kill my past only to kill the PRESENT being/person!
This wouldn't be fair to all involved!
2007-05-26 17:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about the loss of your friend... We must always keep in mind that if someone says they are going to kill themselves we must seek help for them... Tell an adult, police officers, etc The human mind is crazy we don't know what goes through these people's mind... It may have been that she was going through problems no one knew or maybe she was just tired of living... I guess no one will ever know... Just keep in mind when someone is crying out for help please get help for the person b/c you won't know when the person will end his/her life...
2007-05-26 17:34:13 · answer #11 · answered by marleen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋