I hate myself, because I can't get rid of that habit. please read?

Question

I am a young woman, am 23. The problem that tormrnts me is in me, it is that habit of....I don't know where I got it from, but I suddenly started to feel a strong sexual desire, and I feel am morally debasing myself becaue I cannot control myself when I feel it, and I do something. I am a virgin, and I refuse having sex before marriage due to religious and traditional bases. I feel am making a big sin, please tell me what can I do?
*Only respectable answers please
thanks

Answer 1

Your feelings are normal. Don't hate yourself for normal feelings.

Answer 2

1) Sexual desire is normal. It is hormone based and you would not be a healthy young lady if you did not have sexual desire at your age.
2) How you handle desire will reflect your ubringing and moral foundations. St Paul did not raise the issue with women, but he did with young men and his advise you may find useful. He asserted that if they could not "control" themselves then they should get married.
3) Some religions frown on masturbation, others do not. Regardless of where your particular theology stands you need reassurance that biology is a healthy thing. The hormonal drives your having now will, when released in the marriage relationship you've decided to wait for, provide wonders that will draw you and your future husband together. Indeed several studies have indicated that devoutly religious people within the marriage bond have a more satisfying and frequent sex life than most of those who "flaunt" their sexuality. All that is really going on is that your becoming a woman. If becoming a woman was a sin none of us would ever be here. Take care of yourself, recognize that your going through a transition stage biologically that is preparing you for a very healthy relationship. Your future husband is going to love it. You clearly have the strength of character to be a one man woman. But you also have the characteristics that will help your future man remain a one woman man. That sounds pretty angelic to me. God made you that way. He doesn't make people sinners. It's only when they twist what he made that sin enters in. (At least that's how I understood the theology when I was growing up in a neo-fundamentalist theology.)

Answer 3

What's going on right now is your own moral ideas vs. your primal biological urge to reproduce. This is all completely normal. Even the most traditional, religious person in the world must still have to deal with these feelings I'm sure. If you really believe in not having sex before marriage, then good for you. If you change your mind, than that's fine too. The most important thing is that YOU feel comfortable with whatever actions you may take. Just feeling desires doesn't make you a sinner. Follow you heart and you'll never go wrong.

Take care~

Answer 4

If you didn't have these feeling at your age there would be something wrong with you. God gave you those feelings so that when you do find the right man, you will be able to enjoy the intimate part of your life. It's not wrong to have the feelings what would be wrong for you would be to act on them.
It is possible to live with out acting on those feelings a lot of clergy do. If you really have strong religious beliefs than you should use those to help you to be able to maintain control of your life. Talk to your mother or some other woman that you trust and they will be able to help you. Praying will also help.
Most of all accept them as part of life and understand that you were given those feeling for a reason and there will come a time in your life when you will feel comfortable acting on them.

Answer 5

Try not to be so hard on yourself. Most good things take time. You'll be alright, all things in good time. I trust God to give me the strength I need to meet the challenges life brings. You might try it, it works for a great many people. When I think of what God means, I think of Good Orderly Direction, nothing more. Take care.

Answer 6

When you come from a very strict moral background that doesn't make allowances for normal sexual feelings it can tear you up bad emotionally. It is good that you want to wait for marriage before giving yourself up. That you can relief yourself is a great blessing towards that end. You must forgive yourself for something so natural and beautiful. Don't you think God understands our needs and is understanding and forgiving.

Answer 7

The root of the 'guilty feelings' over this is the Instinctual chemically-written genetic code. Simply put - humans were made to make babies. Keeping this in mind...sometimes it isn't possible to just to the 'biological clock' and its 'calling' , having an impromptu orgy in the park. (believe me, it's been tried)
Do get over it, because any other way will spell 'Motherhood' - like it or not. ( sometimes it spells; 'b a d m a r r i a g e' )

Answer 8

Their is absolutely nothing wrong with having these feelings and beating yoursefll up over it will only make it worse.The only thing that is considered a sin in most belief systems is actually acting upon these feelings not just having them

Answer 9

Look sandstone901 she is not christain.

I know the best thing 2 do u try 2 marry quickly this will stop all your worries or search online for artificial c0cks.

Answer 10

Well, it seems like a pretty good alternative to actually going out there and having intercourse.. Maybe you should talk to a preist and do some hail marys or something.

Answer 11

My guess is that you are not the only person that has gone thru this period in their life. The hormones are pretty strong during your earlier years.