My husband works hard and long hours outside of the home at a disgusting job so that I may have the luxury of only working part-time in the home so I can continue with college and be home with our daughters. When he finally gets a long weekend, like this one, he sometimes wants to do things with friends. For example, today he went to the park with his friends to play basketball. I met my sister at the pool with our kids. When she found out he was off today, she's like "And you've got the kids? You ALWAYS have the kids. Why can't he take them on his day off?"
I have always looked at it that when he gets a day off, he should have it to do what he wants with it. I DO always have the kids, but I know if I ever asked him, he'd take them for the day. I just don't see the point in making him spend his day off chasing babies when I don't really mind doing it.
Am I right??
2007-05-26 16:37:28 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You are right. you know what's best for you and your family, not your sister. She only sees a portion of what goes on.
2007-05-26 16:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as you are both OK with that arrangement then it is fine. But there really is nothing wrong with you wanting a day for yourself once in a while either. If you have a person that you can trust with your children, then you should plan a day for them to watch the kids and go have fun by yourself.
I also think it's important that you and your husband spend time alone with each other as well. Alot of couples forget that they are "couples".
But as far as your question, like I said it's up to you and your husband. Whatever makes the both of you happy. Don't let other people put things in your head. It only causes trouble. At the end of the day, it's your family not theirs.
2007-05-26 16:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by nicegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are in the right. It isn't like you are being put out by taking care of your own children. Your husband does deserve to spend his days off as he wishes. It isn't like he is neglecting you and the girls. He took a few hours to spend with his friends. I don't see what the big deal is. Him going to play basketball isn't a way of saying he loves the girls any less than you because you are taking care of them. He just needed a release from his work week. If you had something for the entire family planned and he ditched out, I think I might look at it differently, but that doesn't seem like the case at all. Your sister is just being irrational.
2007-05-26 16:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by ~*~Malarie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely right....to be so considerate of your husband
and the fact that he truly does deserve a day off when he can do something he enjoys and get refreshed....
You could take advantage and get some time off from minding the kids, but you put your husband and what he needs
ahead of yourself.....
He is very blessed to have you and I'm sure that he knows it!!
2007-05-27 02:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by angelique1225 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right
if you can chase the kids, chase 'em lol let your hubby have some time with his buddies
he doesn't think of it in a sexist way, you don't think of it in a sexist way, its not like he forces you to take them, you're sister was out of line and your husband deserves and break and maybe if your sister thinks you're working too much and deserve a break well maybe she should babysit the kids or pay for you to go on a spa trip or something lol!
but yeah you're right
2007-05-26 16:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Olivia M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say that what ever Makes you Happy and your Hubby, DO IT! If it works for you, That is Great. Sounds like you May Have A Sis, With A Little Jealousy.
2007-05-26 16:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by minnetta c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right IF he really would take them if you asked. It's hard getting my huisband to come home let alone take the kids off my hands for awhile.
2007-05-26 16:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. What a good wife you are. Just as long that he takes over when you want some time with your friends.
2007-05-26 16:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Zoey ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, your sister just doesn't see it the same way, and that's okay. She probably thought she was looking out for you. Don't worry about it. You sound like you have a solid marriage! Good Job!!
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2016-11-27 22:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy then that's just fine. If you weren't then there could be a problem. But since you enjoy it tell her to mind her business. I hope you all do things together as a family though.
2007-05-26 16:44:17 · answer #11 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋