I don't feel like I belong anywhere. And I can't relate to anyone around me?

Question

And I'm too old (late 20s) to feel this way...

Answer 1

No, you are not. Welcome to 2007. I'm 57, had friends all of my life, none now.

Answer 2

I'm really not sure those feeligns come with an age cut off date. I know I've felt that way at various points of my life. To me the difference age has made is the reason why. I think the first step to getting past this is to get comfortable in your own skin. When you truly reach that point of personal contentment and being ok with who you are, it at least helps the first half. I think the 2nd part comes later when we look to find like minded people who we do relate to, so we will belong there.

But think about it, to do that you have to either super luck out OR know you well enough to know know where you will fit in and then finding folks like that. All of the above take a lot of work and a good dose of patience.

But I've found there is often a middle ground to find...folks that might not be 100% on my page, but close enough to respect differences and ignore some of what we don't get about them. I think to truly connect with someone who not only gets you, but is the same way, is a rare blessing.

So I totally don't get the too young thing. To me it sounds like you just haven't met the right group to really reasonate with. And only you can say how much you have worked on being secure in yourself, which gives you a more solid base to work from.

And if you think about it, sometimes not relating to everything mainstream isn't such a bad thing! Look at what so many are fascinated in....Paris Hilton, Britney, etc. Nothing against them, but I don't need more news on them than world events ya know?!

If you haven't, I would see what really touches your soul or fascinates you, go to events dealing with that, and I bet you'll meet folks you connect to more. Just have a bit of patience!!! GOOD luck!

Answer 3

Do you feel depressed? How long have you felt this way? The reason you may feel that no one around you can relate to you is may because you are on a different level then them...If you feel that you do not belong anywhere try a new place and find you groove in life....There are times we all feel that way it is normal and you may be having your 1/3 life crisis

Answer 4

Most unique, wonderful people feel this way at some point. It could be a sign that your life needs to move in a different direction. In your twenties you still have things to figure out about yourself, your dreams, and what brings you joy. Think about what makes you happy and move toward having more of that in your life.

Start small and find some folks with common interests. Try www.meetup.com to find groups close-by or start one yourself.

The fact that you have the depth to feel these things means you can also find your answers.

Best wishes!

Answer 5

You are still fairly young and in this world you still have not found yourself or your place in life. I had many plans, and none of them panned out. My life went into directions I would not have predicted. The best thing to do is be open to the experiences life has to offer, within reason, and take advantage of the opportunities that arise. As long as you make yourself available by trying various options, something will come up and you will come to realize what you are truly like and what your desires are and you will find a group of people to share your experiences with. Whatever you do, try to meet the needs of others and understand their situations. By finding a way to meet other's needs, people have developed successful careers.

Answer 6

well, i dunno what to tell ya, but if i knew you as a person, and you told me this (admitted this to me), then I'd do everything possible in the world to be your friend, and help you not feel humiliated, or sad about anything. I'd let you be comfortable, and help you have fun, as well find happiness in certain activities and people in your life. All in all, you would never have a reason to feel alone.

By the way, I feel the same way too, that I can't seem to fit in for some reason. I feel different than others, like different comfort zones, and different personality traits. I feel like I'm more introverted, and more comfortable being alone.

Answer 7

You're never too old to feel out of place. Your nitch can be hard to find and sometimes it seems like when you find it, it runs away. Just have some quality self time. I know you may think you've had plenty of time for this, but you may be surprised what you learn. Everyone is different, we come from different backgrounds and venture to different places, therefore you may not have anyone to relate as much as you would like. People are constantly changing and growing on their own level. I know it's nice sometimes to connect with another person strictly on that level and when you go with out it you can feel emotionally drained and separated from everyone. But I promise you're not, plenty of us, myself included feel this way right now.

Answer 8

that's the quarterlife crisis coming..

some people do feel that, dont worry honey, its normal.

you are your own person, be happy with it.

i only have few friends but they're worth millions to me.

honestly, you dont have to have many many friends and belong. that's the beauty of being single. explore your territory, travel, read, dream, there are a lot of things to do when youre single.. and im assuming you are :)

good luck on your journey honey!

Answer 9

These feelings have nothing to do with your age; we all come to life crossroads--a positive sign of growth and maturity. Analise your feelings, make decisions and choose solutions where appropriate, then select new goals and go on with life till you reach them--good luck!

Answer 10

Try fitting in simply because they are your blood and accept differences and then this will make you have hope for your self,