Most people on Y!A are kind and compassionate; some are silly and not very bright, but still well meaning; but there are others who seem intent on making someone miserable every day. Why? Isn't life hard enough without making it harder?
And it's not just here. I have a neighbor like that. No one in the neighborhood speaks to her any more, so she seems to have decided to take out all her anger and hatred on my dog and me. (I'm very careful to protect my dog from her).
Why wouldn't a person want to try to feel better instead of making someone else unhappy? Do we have some kind of primal streak of sadism in us that just manifests itself more strongly in some people than in others? Or is it something in the culture? I just don't get it. Do you?
Please don't be rude. I could really use a kind word just now.
2007-05-26 12:29:24 · 6 answers · asked by Alice K 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't think there is one reason why a person chooses to be hateful. I think it's probably different for each one. They could have been abused as children, low self esteem, have a psychological disorder, or just have a mean streak.
As far as some of the users on this site, I try to ignore it, some things are so hateful that it's upsetting, so I try to skip over those, but they get to me sometimes, too. I don't understand it either, it takes a lot more energy to be unkind, as far as I'm concerned, but for some reason that have the need to lash out or be unfairly critical.
And as for your neighbor, I think you're doing the right thing by protecting your dog. People who are unkind to humans are typically very unkind to animals. If you were my neighbor, I'd come over with cake and 2 forks (forget the plates) and we could discuss the cruelty of the world over chocolate, lol. Take care, try to ignore it as much as possible.
2007-05-26 12:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by leslie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I am facing the same problem with a woman working in our company. I have noticed that she feels good making others unhappy. It is some sort of madeness. It is not normal. Such people need serious help before they commit a crime or harm someone. I think it very much depends on our background and where and how we grow up. Just to ignore this woman and let it go. If she continues to disturb you, call the police.
2007-05-26 12:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
computing gadget is spot-on. I even have seen/heard this accepted-hand, myself, years before we had information superhighway boards, and it isn't any ask your self -- even however very unhappy -- that it maintains. i've got given this fairly thought. i do no longer think of it is an argument of spreading hate, as much as an ingrained knee-jerk reaction to all issues Catholic. for people who've made up their minds that the Catholic Church is idolatrous and evil, even the terrific efforts of Catholic apologists to surprising incorrect information and exhibit the Biblical foundation of doctrine won't gain changing their minds. it is probable that no longer something in need of direct intervention with the help of the Holy Spirit could do so. We Catholics have 3 options while confronted with blind obstinacy and vitriol from fundamentalists: respond in kind, respond patiently with the actuality repeatedly, or decline to have interplay interior the argument in any respect. If we choose the third, we ought to additionally pray for them, remembering that however we are estranged they're even if our brothers.
2016-10-06 02:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by doolin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The amount of rudeness in our culture is approaching a social mental illness. The building that I live in is full of drunks and druggies who constantly mess one another over, and only speak to me, a sober person, when they want something.
There are still decent people, but you must make a concerted effort to find them, and to stay positive.
Take care of yourself, and stay positive!
2007-05-26 12:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I always try to be diplomatic. My neighbor's kids were throwing rocks at my dogs. When I went to the parents about it, our cars were scratched. I put security cameras & a larger fence up to protect my dogs. I try to help others as much as I can.
2007-05-26 13:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be from bad experience, or they just can't handle there own problems which you describe to me.
2007-05-26 12:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by gundame81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋