2007-05-26 11:44:45 · 15 answers · asked by mary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move far, far away.
2007-05-26 11:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't put up with them. What your husband needs to do is tell them not to come into your marriage because they already have done their job raising their son. So, now he is married and you two need to be left alone to start your own lives as a couple. If this doesn't stop, then just be polite and stay away from them for a few days until hopefully, they will realize that their son is grown now and is married to a wonderful wife who will take care of him and him take care of you. Just be polite.
They can't control your marriage. They need to control themselves from intruding in your married life. They are going to be who they are and you can't change that. They have to want to change themselves. Once they do that, everyone will be at peace.
2007-05-26 18:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breath, Smile, Grin and Bear it....and then walk away and do what we want.
Not worth it to argue, fight or even dwell.......
Know that you have each other....don't include them in your business....when talking with them keep the communication limited.....and never complain about your spouse....it will give them fuel.
Smile and remember.....responses like ...oh really, okay, we'll have to try that, thank you..that means a lot....can go a long way....
best wishes
2007-05-26 19:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to stay out of your relationship.Why do you need your in laws to control your life.It should be you and your husband as you are married to your husband and not his in laws to you.They must just understand and but out
2007-05-26 18:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by hester v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...sounds like my problems with my in laws...is it his parents or yours ? do you have kids together ? give me some details on what they do...it might be similar to my issues. i'll be more than glad to help you out.
just remember that you are diffently not alone with this issue and matter. post some details or email me...i'll be glad to hear you out and give the best advice...i can tell you what has worked and what's made it worst.
also, keep in mind that what goes on in your marriage and home is no ones concerns but, your and your spouse.
i'm sure your problem can't be worst than mine.
2007-05-26 18:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by CUTIE PIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU don't, hon. Your hubby has to grow some balls. My husband had one invasive mom.... and finally he just told her that her behavior/questions were unacceptable.... he gave it to her nicely, bur firmly, with the "If... then" contract.... "If you do,,,, then we will leave".
She did, and we did. And every time she said that sort of stuff again, we got up and left.... that last time was at a restaurant, and we called a cab to go home... She was not one who ever understood the inappropriateness of her questions, so he just trained her.... literally, trained her........So, sweetie, it is his family, and HE is the one to have to train them... that he is now married, and his allegiances belong to you, not to them...
2007-05-26 18:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a stand and let them know that you are both adults and are capable of making decisions. let them know that you respect that they would like to help, but you and your husband want to walk this road on your own, mistakes and all!
2007-05-26 18:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by txbeverly30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out of state.
2007-05-26 18:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by p00756 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thank them for their concern, but tell them that you're perfectly able to handle your life and your affairs.
Then limit the amount of time spent with them until they 'get it'.
2007-05-26 18:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a talk with mine and told her that we were a family and that she is causing problems with our relationship.i asked her to stay out of our everyday life. she respected that request and things are good now. but i also had to ask him to stop including his mom in our life.we have one life and another with each other parents
2007-05-26 18:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It gets better as time goes on...my mother-in-law DOES NOT like me...but she has realized that he's not leaving me no matter what. I muct have something huh...? LOL
2007-05-26 18:49:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋