Some men believe their wife's body is their property and so they can have sex no matter if she consents or not. It's hard to call it rape in a marriage. The cops are reluctant to call it that because they weren't there to see a wife struggling and begging him to stop. they probably just think that it was rough sex, when a man rapes his wife it hurts so deeply because when a wife doesn't want to make love there usually is an underlying reason. Some of mine were illness,just gave birth, knew he was cheating, tired ,mad at him,and the fact that i was sick of being beaten definitely took away my sex drive, When a man just takes it. it strips away the last bit of conrtol a woman has. This is serious agony. I used to love him but now the very thought of him sends chills all through my body. No, I did not like it. I really wanted & begged him to stop, Not only did he rape me he got me pregnant. I love my baby but why did I have to get pregnant. This happened after I finally got fed up w/ him.
2007-05-26 11:13:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds as if he has no respect for you and your feelings. If he is abusing you get out it will not get better.
2007-05-26 11:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by nerakian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he did. He is a pathetic man and you need to get away from him.
As far as the police go I would press charges against both of them.
I cannot tell you why it happened. Just try your hardest not to loOK at that baby as the result of a bad night but more of a blessing and a wake up call....
These kids loOK at you and depend on you to show them how to live and what to expect. Teaching a little girl that being beaten on is ok by staying there and hurting yourself because of fear for being alone. Or showing your son it is ok to do that because "Dad does"
I pray that you have found a new life and the strength to walk away. This is not an easy task or a quick process and having children always makes it harder.
Please find a better environment. Don't be scared.
2007-05-26 11:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 02:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Go to the cops and explain fully.
2. Go get a lawyer and press the charges
You will win because you are a mother and a wife. also there will be evidence of what happened: bruises, family and friends, vaginal tearing.
You can win dont let him tell you otherwise. Let no-one put you down like that
Talk to people and get the story out, ruin the bastard and charge him and if possible sue him for every penny he is worth.
2007-05-26 11:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I was in your position about 8 years ago, I was also raped by my live in and ended up pregnant. Called the cops and I was notified that a husband can not rape his wife, it's in the law. Your best bet is to wise up call a family member and disappear!!! My ex would have killed me if I was not bright enough to finally realize that and get out. It's just a matter of time, think about it if he is going to be violent enough to RAPE you what else do you think he is going to do? Think about the safety of your child, your child should come first not your and your husbands....Is it safe for you child mentally or physically to be raised or brought into an environment such as what there is at the moment? He's not going to change, and nothing you can say or do will change him, please get help and get out now!!!
2007-05-26 11:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by nekneven 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry this happened to you. I know that part of you feels its your fault and the other part feels like you have no one there for you and I know that you feel striped of your pride but you must get out of this marrage and raise your child alone.Get some help. there are programs for woman who are being abused you just have to look it up by your state if you dont want anyone to know.Tell the people at these places what is going on. Most of them will help you find a place set you up and will help you pay for a divorce.You can do it without him.Just know that there is help out there and if you want it and you are fed up then take a stand.
2007-05-26 11:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by carmel969 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got pregnant because you wouldn't dump this bum and didn't use birth control. Or did you get pregnant from the rape? No, you said you just gave birth when it happened. Why are you with him? He very well could beat and molest your baby as well. Please tell me you don't want that. You had no control before he raped you, because he was abusing you, and you didn't have enough control to leave him. Leave him and go to a women's shelter, stay at a relative's home, etc. Just GET OUT NOW before he starts this with your child.
2007-05-26 11:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have more than detailed your problem so Im not repeating it other than youre totally right. Some men just dont respect their wive for what she really is. I think you know what youve got to do now, so why are you still there? Sue him for divorce and everything youre legally entitled to and move on. Good luck
2007-05-26 12:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling, you need to get the hell out of that situation. If it had of been me I would have clucked the mess out of him. That's why you keep a hammer under your mattress so when he get out of hand you can knock the mess out of him. Not to kill him but hard enough to make him come to his senses. The kitchen is our playground there is the frying pan, good old hot grease cooking on the stove, and other stuff we can knock em out with. But in all seriousness, get out of this situation, you have a child now and if he doesn't respect you and is cheating on you he could expose you to a std and nothing is worth that. You and your child deserve better so please look for a way out, there are support groups in the area that can help you and shelter you and your child. Good luck and God bless, I think you know what you need to do.
2007-05-26 11:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
put him in the past,it wasn't the child's fault so never take it out on him.i think you should get some counseling.i think alot of husbands rape their wives and it sucks but now you have to move on and try not to associate the baby with the event.good luck.
2007-05-26 11:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by susan e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you RUN to a Rape Crisis Center now and get the help you need.
And then you get a divorce and restraining order.
2007-05-26 12:01:53 · answer #11 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋