help...peer presure?

Question

my sis is 16 and im turning 12. when i hit 7th grade in 2008, should i do the same as my sis, do drugs and alchol, it looks really coool, and I KNOW IT IS WRONG, but my sis said its ok do do it. should i listen to her and try???

Answer 1

would you jump off a 50 story building just because your sister told you it was cool?

i'm also going into seventh grade next year and am dealing with a lot of peer pressure myself. but let me tell you a story...

my grandmother (my last grandparent) always would smoke and drink. honestly, it sickened me. i would wonder, what went wrong in her life? she was dealing with a lot of pressure when she was in her 20s and started up smoking. when she would smoke, she would drink. it became a vicious cycle of uncontrolable addiction. when i was about eight, we discovered she had mouth and lung cancer. she had to go to the docters every day to get treatment. after two years of driving her back and fourth, paying more than we needed on gas... she developed phnemonia, having to be hospitalized. she stayed for many months, patching nicotine. she couldnt talk, she could hardly breath and she was dying. all because of starting with one shot. and one cig. she got better after some four months, finally being able to be put in her home again, where my dad and I would check on her every day. soon, she started back up. drinking and smoking. it was like a plague, just wouldn't stop. it kept coming back. after another month of that, we went into her house to find that she had passed away in her sleep, a note on her chest.

Dear ---- and -------,

I made a mistake, but today the angels have forgiven me. You see me here and are crying. But really, this body was just the chains that were keeping me from flying away to a better place, where drugs, alchohol and cigarettes dont exist. I wish you could forgive me too. I have only one think to say. Live life to the fullest. Be the BEST you can be.

Farewell, ---


I thought about this note, long and hard. The hand writing was much to neat to be hers. It made me think, did my grandmother's angel write this. That was the only explination I could think of. I had been blessed by an angel, given advice to live my life to the fullest. and that i would do. i refuse, now, to smoke or over drink. i was given advice by my gaurdian angel. my grandmother.


I really hope this story helps you. It makes so much sense to me but it may not for your. I can't make you stop. Heck, I don't even know you. but if you listen really close... your gaurdian angel is giving you the advice you need to live your life to the fullest.

Answer 2

Im 12 myself, And I say You Dont Listen To her, Sure It Might Look Cool, But Think About, Some People Would Start Staying Away From You, All Cause You Do Drugs, Things Aren't Always What They Seem. And For All You Know Your Sis Might Not Even Be All That Cool, NO OFFENSE

Answer 3

i did drugs at that age and now i'm 24. now i wish i hadnt done some of the things i did and wish i waited on others. i smoked WAY TO MUCH pot in jr. high and high school. and now i am unbelievable glad i didnt become an alcoholic or try ne of the other hard drugs that some of my friends r now hooked on. no one can tell u not to do it cuz u still will only listen to u'r self but just know u'r limits dont do nething obviously stupid and know that peer pressure really isnt as bad as u think. if you tell someone you dont want a hit of whatever they will pretty much b happy they dont have to share and probably respect u 4 haveing the balls to say no thanks. if they dont then they can go to hell. just because you hang out with stoners doesnt meen u hav 2 b one. i know this from experiance. same thing with being a virgin. i only knew one girl who was in high school and EVERYONE gave her props 4 it. u'd b surprised what people regret.

Answer 4

No, don't do it. Do your parents know about your sister? I just finished 7th grade, and i am going into 8th. I know peer pressure can be hard to resist, but really, you should. It is illegal to do drugs and alchohol at your age. If someone found out that you got a hold of drugs/alchohol, it would be bad. You, your sister, and/or your parents/gardian would get in deep trouble with the police.

On top of getting in trouble, you would get addicted to harmful stuff. Drugs and alchohol can mess up your body. There is a good reason why they are illegal. It may look cool, but do you know anyone in your grade that is like your sister? So you want to be like them? So you want to mess up your entire life? so, don't do it.

Answer 5

No honey i'm telling you now that is not a good place to be, you stop seeing the good in life unless your high or drunk! Please don't do this it kills your future and although it may look like everyone is doing it there are actually a lot of people who don't they just don't advertise it the way those who do do it do. Its really not okay to do it! (oh yea i'm 16 too and i thought of the same thing when i was your age and i didn't and i'm with a much better group now and you won't believe what is happening to some of my old friends, so don't think i'm someone's mother or something)

Answer 6

of course not. Hugs not drugs...trust me it will seem cool now but when you wonder where your life went wrong you will always remember the part where you tried drugs. There is absolutely nothing good that can come out of it. Your sister is immature and has a lot of growing up to do if she is trying to get a 12 year old to do drugs. People that do drugs want other people to do drugs with them so they don't feel so bad about themselves. Misery loves company. You should try to get help for her if anything not join her. Its not ok its bad for your health and people with think bad of you. Don't do it.

Answer 7

No, it isnt worth it. It may look cool and people may try to get you to do it but thats only because they want to feel better about what they are doing, which is wrong
Just stay focused on what is important and it will pay off, believe me because I went through the same thing
I don't do drugs and alcohol and my head is where it is supposed to be, I have a long-term goal to be successful,healthy, and happy in my life; I dont think doing drugs or alcohol will help that goal...do you?

Answer 8

Please don't. Just because your big sister does something doesn't mean you should follow. Everything that looks cool really isn't. It can be harmful and even though she may not see it not she is not as healthy as she used to be. She is slowly killing herself. If she continues on the road that she is taking, you may not have a sister anymore sorry to say. So many people's lives have been ruin as a result of that. PLEASE don't be another statistic. You should research this about drunk driving. Check out home many innocent people were killed because of someone under the influence. GIrls goning to parties getting raped. It's a scary world and I advise you to keep a good, clear head on your sholders so you make wise choices. What you do now, make affect you FORVER.

Answer 9

People who aren't cool try to be cool by copying what other people do around them. I don't understand how drinking and doing drugs make you look cool. At your age your age your brain cells are still trying to grow. If you drink now you'll kill any brain cells you would have gained; which is why the drinking age is 21.

People who do drugs become addicted to drugs and are controlled by it in every way. I don't want you to be another one of those stories about how she had to sell her body for a quick bag. How many people on drugs are really ever happy?

Answer 10

The fact that you are asking this question says that you already have a better head on your shoulders than your sister does. You are a smart girl. You know in your gut that your sister is making a mistake by the way she is living her life. You are asking this question because you believe it is wrong and yet you want to feel cool. Wanting to fit in and feel cool is understandable. Those of us who are older than you (I am waaaay older) know what you are going through because we have all experienced the same desires to fit in when we were your age.

I am sure that you have learned in school about the dangers of drugs and alcohol. This is not a lie. Both of these things can not only kill you, if you are lucky to stay alive, your life will be ruined as a result of these things. When you do drugs and alcohol, you damage your body. You also lose self control and become vulnerable to others taking advantage of you and hurting you. How would you like to be so drunk or so high that you are powerless to resist having sex with someone or preventing someone from raping you? Then how would you like to be pregnant at your age? Would you get an abortion or keep the baby? It's terribly difficult to raise a child, especially if you are still a kid yourself. Getting an abortion has health risks and can hurt you emotionally. Do you realize that you could get a sexually transmitted disease? How would you feel about having warts on your private parts or having it burn when you go to the bathroom?

What about school? If you do drugs or alcohol, will you be able to do well in school? If not, how will you feel about being in trouble all the time, failing classes and having to repeat them, and being known on campus as a loser? Trust me, even if many kids are doing this, it has never been, nor ever will be, the cool thing to do. While there might be lots of kids who will tell you it's cool and try to get you to do it, they are only telling you to do it because they don't want to be the only ones being stupid. It takes courage to be different from the crowd. Please trust me when I say that you might not be popular with the kids who do drugs and drink, but you will be popular with the kids who don't, and you will live a happier life and be a happier person. Kids who do the things your sister does often end up as runaways, drug addicts and alcoholics, prostitutes (they have to do that sometimes to support their drug habit), they end up in jail, and sometimes, they end up dead. Is that really the life you want to live? Do you have goals and plans for your life? What do you want to be when you grow up? What kinds of things would you like to do in your life? Abusing drugs and alcohol might seem fun at the time, but sooner or later, they will control you and you will not have the power to resist using them. They will cost you money, friendships, relationships with family members, they will cost you your education, they will cost you your health and your freedom. You are young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Please, please don't ruin it with drugs and alcohol. Please consider talking to your parents, a trusted adult, a teacher or a school guidance counselor. They can help equip you with the tools to resist this peer pressure. Good luck.