We were supposed to spend the Memorial Day weekend at our lakehouse. Because the weather called for rain, my husband decided for all of us, three families, that we weren't going because it might rain and he would be bored. He said there was no use going because he couldn't get out on the water in his new boat. We all told him that even if it rained, we could all have a good time and get in the water inbetween periods of rain, but he insisted it was useless going. Well.. it hasn't rained a drop today and the chances of rain for the next two days are minimal compaired to the chance today. Do you think he had the right to make this decision for everyone because of his selfishness and do you think I have the right to be upset with him?
2007-05-26 10:22:47 · 11 answers · asked by jrtexas1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well.. it's a sailboat and he has stated all along that he is going out alone in it the first few times, until he feels comfortable sailing!!! And YES I do all the work, cook, clean, get everything ready to go.. We do communicate, except when it comes to make major decisions, then he just decides, or tries to justify his decisions to me by saying, wouldn't you be happier going another time when it's not supposed to rain or the famous...... it's a waste of money, we should save our money for a better weekend!!!! *&^A#%&)*%!!!!!!! I am just so upset we have to sit home on the first long weekend of the summer and the next won't be until Labor Day this year!!!!
2007-05-26 10:43:15 · update #1
I think he's being very childish and selfish..thinking because of a chance of "rain" he is letting down 3 familys who wanted to enjoy Memorial Day weekend away having fun* in the sun*...I'm sure he's pouting around the house even more bored and probably peeved at himself as he sees the weather but isn't going to admit he was in the wrong. What a disappointment for you all..Now you're going to have to make the most of it at home* , plan a gathering at your place, bbq , have friends over* Enjoy the weekend anyways, but Yes you have the right to be upset with him as is everyone else i'm sure...that was very very selfish on his part. Can you imagine if you said..hmm.I don't want to go incase it rains we all have to stay in the lakehouse or you dont want to go cuz it s so boring as YOU have to do all the packing up to go, all the cooking and cleaning when you're up there etc etc he would have went anyways without you to try out his New boat*!~ am I right? WOW is all I can say* You two need to start communicating a bit more and he needs to grow up and stop thinking about himself and start thinking more about what makes his family happy*! (not going cuz he'll be bored cuz he can't take out his new boat)>??Wow. how hurtful is that*~
Communication Trust and Honesty are the keys to a long healthy relationship..without those you have nothing*~
2007-05-26 10:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to your husband right now and let him know that you his decision to not go is not fair to everyone else. Vacations are not about making sure HE is accomodated - they are about the whole family. Ask him to reconsider his decision, especially since everyone else wants to go. If he still says "no", ask him if it is OK if you take the kids and go, since this is very important to you. If he says "no", I would just move on and find some other plans around the house. Although you are angry, don't allow this small situation disrupt the harmony in your home. This is not a battle that is worth it.
2007-05-26 17:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What if you called up your other family members and went out there without your husband? Maybe it's not even the rain -- maybe he's really just not in the mood to be with a big crowd. It's not too late out here on the west coast.
2007-05-26 17:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset too, that is really rude of him to decide for everyone. You should all have gone without him, and brought home lots of pics of all the fun you had. He's acting like a spoiled child (kind of like my 11 year old last night when her friend couldn't sleep over, she just sat in her room and did nothing at all for the rest of the night)
2007-05-26 17:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,not really after all it is his boat that everybody was going to be riding in right. And if it was going to rain why should everyone go on a trip anyways.
2007-05-26 17:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by heavenlli_61 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you totally have the right to be upset. He ruined the weekend for all three of your families.
2007-05-26 17:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. It wasn't his call to make. Everyone involved should have had a say in the matter.
2007-05-26 17:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Darla 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he was wrong for making a choice for everyone and you should be mad at him and if i were you i would still go....
2007-05-26 17:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave him behind, he's the one that doesn't want to go.
2007-05-26 17:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by Chiquita 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
@ss.............. i would pack up the kids and go anyways lol
2007-05-26 17:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋