she doesn't know. how do i tell her?
2007-05-26 10:14:31 · 27 answers · asked by meg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't like him because he is always getting mad at me when i just even talk to him. I am only 12, so i can't move out .HELP!!
2007-05-27 03:16:30 · update #1
You need to talk to her, and when you do, you need to have very specific reasons ready for her as to why you don't like him. Don't think just because you don't like him that she will change her plans, but she might figure out a way to make him stop doing the things you don't like. If you are under 18 and still living at home she should listen to your concerns, after all, her first commitment should be to you.
2007-05-26 10:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about using words. Make sure you have reasons behind your statement. I'm sure she'll want to know, but you're not marrying this person so unless the problems are major (like ax murderer, abusive in any way, etc.) you can live with that. Get past that and be happy for your mom. You don't have to spend time with both of them all of the time. Have times just with your mom and be polite to the other guy but you don't have to be his friend. That is your mom's choice. Hope this helps.
2007-05-26 17:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by Falcon Boy Toy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tricky one. You need to think about why you don't like him first. Is it because he treats you mom badly, you badly, or is it because he isn't your dad? All are good reasons, but if he treats your mom and you well and is a decent guy and he makes your mom happy; some things are better left unsaid. If you have a real valid reason for not liking him or you're afraid she's making a big mistake then sit her down and tell her nicely. But remember this is not going to be easy for you or her and she's going to get upset so decide if your reason for not liking him is a valid one or not before having this conversation. Good luck with whatever happens!
2007-05-26 17:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't like the man my mom married and I told her and eventually it all went down hill and I moved out right after my 17th birthday. Even with all that me and my mom still have a healthy relationship so I would say let her know that you don't like him but don't expect it to change anything if he makes her happy then you should just be happy about it.
2007-05-26 19:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by alex p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please tell her. I am in the sitatuion with a 5 year old and my boyfriend who just moved in. It is an adjustment. You are getting to know him and he is getting to know you.
I must be odd having this guy around who is not your dad yelling at you. Just the same way he has to take care of a child that doesnt belong to him
Tell your mom ASAP. Tell her you want to see her happy and she deserves to he happy but your not too keen about him.
Please explain why you dont like him and give her dates and examples of things that he has done to make you feel bad.
Your mom is the only one who will fight for your happiness. So she needs to talk to her man about these issues.It will take time. Be persistent. Dont let this guy brake your spirit. Be strong
2007-05-30 00:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Brookyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sorry, it would be better if you liked him and easier.But when it comes down to it, its not your call, its your moms.But if you have a valid reason for not liking him like he drinks, or is mean to you or your mom, etc.Then voice your concerns, and if that doesn't work stay out of his way till your old Enif to leave home. But why not give him a chance. You never know, maybe he will grow on you.After all your mom must like him for some reason.
2007-05-26 17:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Saint 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on why you dislike him. Do you have a good reason you dislike him? If he has done something inapproriate,then you should definately tell her about it. If you feel that things will change drastically and that he will be taking all the attention away from you, then tell her that too so that she can reassure you that everything will be alright.
2007-05-26 18:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to tell her at all? Your mom is a big girl - she has a right to choose who she wants to marry. If her financee is abussive to you or to your mom or doesn't have basic good will then you would have a right to speak out. But if you just "dont like him" then get over it.
2007-05-26 17:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to ur heart.....mistake at this point may spoil ur life and u will betrayed whole life. Dont shy at this time discuss with ur mom or other relative close to u. May be he will be nice to u. Account all the factors of that guy his family background,his reputation etc. Then try to find would he will be perfect for u or not.......ok gud luck
2007-05-26 17:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by sillu s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends how close you are with your mom. If she respects you she will have the ear to at least listen to what you have to say. I know it may not change her mind, yet she'll at least know how you feel. If you don't want to tell her to her face try writing it down in a letter.
2007-05-26 17:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by beautifulxsoulx2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋