i feel like i'm cracking up at times, maybe i'm MAD.!! but i swing from hating him, to loving him. what's wrong with me ? why should i make myself suffer soo much ? help help help...
2007-05-26 10:02:25 · 30 answers · asked by luciana v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not really hatred....it's anger, that's why you feel you're swinging from one feeling to another........the opposite of love isn't hatred, it's indifference.....now that's when you really know you're getting over them.
2007-05-26 10:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since true love is caring for another's well being, hate would not enter the picture But often desire is confused as love, then the person we desire may not be acting in a way that is compatible with what we want so hate starts to enter the picture. Pure love would recognize the bad behaviors as dysfunctional & would still hope for the person to travel a better path but hate would not be a part of it. Hate is the frustration or annoyance you experience when the object of your desire is opting to go another path.
2016-05-18 04:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY YES !!!! I went thought the same thing with the guy I was living with for 5 yrs. one day he would treat me like a queen, make me feel like a real woman and beautiful, the next day I seem to be an annoyance to him, he would hardly say a word to me all day (which would shoot my self esteem right into the toilet, he would even say mean things to me. Then the cycle would start all over again. I left him three times, but was stupid and would go back to him. Finally, I woke up and kept saying over and over, that I don't deserve to be treated like this and I'm better than he is and left him for good. It's been a yr. now, and it feels so good to go where ever I please and do what ever I want. So sweetie, you are not cracking up and there is nothing wrong with you. You, like me, put your all into a relationship, only to have your self worth stepped on. It's time you put yourself first. Mr. Right is out there waiting for the two of you to meet. Don't let a man push you around, okay? hope I was of some help.
2007-05-26 10:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by chercinbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to love and hate someone at the same time - It's happened to me before! It's very difficult to shake off and the best thing to do is to get your attention onto someone else or make sure you are not with him alot. It would be even more difficult if he loved you aswel but you have to ask yourself - do you wanna be in this situation any longer? Hope I've helped.x
2007-05-26 10:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just your emotions. I can't speak for everyone, but I know that I love my husband to life. He can get on my last nerve sometimes and I feel like knocking him out!!! That don't mean I don't love him, it just mean I am pissed at that time and my temper has flaired up!!! Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill...I learned not to take everything so personally, If he is having a bad day at work, I know its not my fault. So I offer a listening ear, don't nag and just let him talk. Reassure him that today is gone we can't change anything, but plan for tomorrow. Hope I've helped a little!
2007-05-26 10:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself some questions. Why do you hate him? What does he do or say to make you hate him? Does he love me? How does he show me that he loves me? Does he just say he loves me, or does he show me in how he treats me? Does he look after me? Does he think about me? Does he care about me?
Do I love him? or need him? Do I want to be with him ? or am I just afraid of being alone? Why do I love him? Is he a nice person? or just a nice person to me when he wants something? Does he listen to me or care about my opinion? Am I really happy? Am I going to accept the rest of my life feeling like this? Am I really going to allow a selfish arseole control the rest of my life? If this question was being asked by my daughter/friend or someone I loved, what would I really tell her??
2007-05-26 22:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by Bobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a very thin line between love and hate, to hate someone takes a lot of time and energy the same as love. if you have no hate or love for some one you only sometimes think of them so they are not taking you time and energy up .
2007-05-26 10:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by Llush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you can only hate the people you love. Both strong emotions that when someone upsets your love you go to the complete opposite. Know how you feel
2007-05-26 10:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by icklegeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Hey, hon, you're just normal!!
Please don't beat yourself up about it!!
Sometimes, if I'm going through a 'hate him' phase, and I have a knife in my hand - I swear I could plant it nicely in his back right between his shoulder blades!!
Then he does or says something really lovely- and it's all hearts and flowers!!
Don't suffer. It really isn't a big deal! You're not cracking up - I promise!
Take care!
2007-05-26 10:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by Moofie's Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can love someone ALL the time then I would say you were crazy.
Love and hate is normal natural and what happens when your life doesn't revolve around just you anymore.
2007-05-26 10:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very possible to love and hate the same person it is quite normal..
2007-05-29 11:30:04 · answer #11 · answered by Granny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋