I Am Being Emotionaly Abused?

Question

I was in a car accident and had to have surgery on my back, i got my settlement and spent it on the house now it's gone i didn't get much but i spent all of it on our three kids and of course him, i was treated like a queen now i am broke, i have no money at all. I have nowhere to go i own half of my house and i shouldn't have to leave he sits up in our room day after day even after work. He calls our kids names and me i have no self esteem left, no money and it's been three years and i am still waiting for my dissability. We have been together for 20 yrs i can't stand him anymore i don't know what to do, i cry myself to sleep every nite. If anyone can help me pls email me @ [e-mail] i don't want to go into a group home everything here is mine. please someone help me and my kids

I just wanted to add something for one thing curious if you read my question right, you will see i have had back surgery i can't work, and i am not being lazy and i don't expect anyone to pay for my way out, i am not going to sell the things that i have thats taking away from my kids. We are not married and i am not looking for pity i was asking a question, if i didn't have back problems i would be working full-time ya think? I can't even clean my house i do what i can do and thats take care of my kids.

No he won't leave and i have called the cops they said the house is in both of our names, my family can't even help me they have no room for me and my three kids they are too young to do anything. Me and the kids are afraid of him he cracks so easily i just thought i could come on here and get some advice thks so much for some of you that understand!!!

Answer 1

The only thing for you to do is get a lawyer. Oh, when you get your disability, it Will be a lump sum of money. Don't spend another dime on him. Take that money and find a place for you and the kids to stay and order that house to be sold and take your part. In splitting up. You stand to loose something. I will walk away with nothing if I know I wouldn't have to cry myself to sleep any more. You should get stronger then you are. If not for your own self worth, for the kids. You can not let them see you living in this situation. They will think it's OK to be treated as trash. You can do something. Dry your tears and know that you have been more man to him than he's been to you. Now when you look at him sitting up there in the room, see how weak and pathetic he is. Sitting around calling kids names. Don't be afraid of him, that is what he is feeding off of, your fear and allowing him to say and do what he want to say and do. If he threaten you, then you call the police and they will remove him from the home. Then you get a protective order and that will give you and the babies the house. I had a man stand toe to toe with me and tell me, I'm gonna bury you. I told him to try it. I then asked him was that a threat? If he even act like he's gonna hit you call the police and tell them he is threaten you and you have had surgery on your back and he frightens you. You will be surprise at the men that back down when you stand up for yourself and threating to call the police. Good luck.

Answer 2

I understand completely I own a house with a drunk. When I work and make payments and buy things for the house, everything is great. When I don't have money to spend on the house or pay his bills or put money in his pocket for gas and beer he doesn't talk to me. we con't have childern because now we are in our 50's. He is childish and doesn't and never will know the feelings of a woman. So you are not a lone I put 9000 dollars in this house in 2 months. And now I have to leave it because he can't pay 1 house note without my help. It is sad to lose all that money and have to walk away because of being so unhappy. So you have to deciede, how unhappy you are, or is it worth the pain and anguish to stay. We have both been taken for what we worked so hard to hang on too, I'm talking about you and me as women.

Answer 3

You need to get some kind of simple, easy, part time job that will accomadate you. You can't expect other people to "save" you. You have to clear your head & think of a plan. Sell the stuff that you own & put the money in your own bank account that only you know about & can get into. If all hope for your relationship w/ your husband is lost, go see a lawyer. Explain your situation. Divorce cost money, but when you get a divorce, not everything will be his or yours, but you will get child support & alimony. Quit pitying yourself, quit being lazy, & do something about your life.

Answer 4

I think you need professional counciling, you have several issues withthe bottom line of not being happy. Don't use pastors from churches or other free services get professional help. Try not to use ones that rely on drugs as part of the therapy. You don't want to be a zombie you just want your life back and a family that you can live in peace with.

Answer 5

You need to contact the authorities or go to a police station and let them know your situation so they can tell you what to do. Since the house is half yours and you tell them that he emotionally abuses you and you are scare for your life then you can go get a protection order and pray you get the house in the divorce! That's about all I can say.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Attorney, dear. And counseling p.d.q. Are you waiting for a house to fall on your sister or what? Low or no cost services available in your area. Get help from friend & family. Now. Hurry.

Answer 8

There are lawyers who will work pro bono if you have no money. There is also legal aid to find you a free lawyer. Get one, they'll help you.

Answer 9

i feel your pain it is so ease to say leave him but when you have no money and you have kids to think about well that makes it even harder to go . have you asked him to go ?. can you make his life a living hell till he gos ? and your kids can thy help you with this ? it maybe your only way out .im me if you like to talk

Answer 10

you could qualify for a low or no income apartment. (if you have them in your area). apply for assistance and food stamps. you will eventually get your disability with back pay and will be able to support yourself.