Would it bother you if your husband or wife added thier ex as a friend on myspace?

Question

I'm not normally a jealous person, but this woman was such a ***** to me and tried to break my husband and I up.. and she claims that he proposed to her when they were dating (about 6 months before we started dating), though he denies it. She friend requested him, he added her back, and it really bothers me. Am I just jealous or would this bother you, too?

Answer 1

I wouldn't even care. I hate myspace

Answer 2

Ok, my husband has a lot of ex's on his myspace. Those bother me but I get over it. However, there is one ex... that did basically the same thing to me as this ex you are speaking of... HE KNOWS if he added her there would be hell to pay. He should respect the fact that she basically gave you hell and keep her as far away from ya'll as possible. I think you have a right to be mad. Don't blow up at him though, just say something to him. Tell him it really bothers you and then explain why. If he is understanding at all he will just take her off of his friends list. It doesn't make sense to me that he would add her in the first place, honestly. But just be cool about it. Good luck... I know how it feels to be threatened by some psycho ex. ugh.

Answer 3

Well, it wouldn't bother me personally if my husband added his ex on myspace (he doesn't have a myspace anyway) because we're both really secure in our relationship.

But your situation is different due to the circumstances. I'm sure she has a side to the story too, but since you are the one he married I think he should delete her out of respect to you. Maybe it's time to grow up (no offense) and get rid of the myspaces altogether anyway, why have belong to some networking site if it causes you guys this much trouble and/or worry. It'll no doubt come up again if you add some guy he doesn't like, or if she makes a big deal out of him deleting her. Is myspace worth all that drama, really?

Answer 4

It would for sure bother me. Do you have an ex that your husband doesn't like? If you do pretend that your ex called you to be friends and see how your husband reacts. Not all men are the same but I would tell you to be careful bc she may try to get close to him. If worse comes to worse in an indirect way let your husband know that it bothers you, don't tell him your jealous or you don't like her bring it up in an indirect way. Ex. Tell him you said no to your ex bc you don't think either of you should contact someone from there past bc u want to concentrate on the future. But don't over due it bc you don't want him to hide anything from you. talk about it one time and pretend like it doesn't bother you.
Good luck she has interest in him or else she would have let him go.

Answer 5

If she wasn't such a trouble maker, I'd be fine with her being his myspace friend. However, in this case I would be mad if I were you because she sounds like she is up to no good. I'd be mad at your man if I were you because he accepted her, when he should know that it would bother you since she has tried to break you both up.

Answer 6

ok, my husband has a great variety of ex's on his myspace. those worry me yet i recover from it. even however, there is one ex... that did in certainty a similar element to me as this ex you're talking of... HE is familiar with if he further her there may be hell to pay. He might desire to appreciate the certainty that she in certainty gave you hell and save her as some distance far flung from ya'll as a danger. i think of you have a perfect to be mad. do not blow up at him however, purely say something to him. tell him it fairly bothers you and then clarify why. If he's information in any respect he will purely take her off of his acquaintances checklist. It would not make experience to me that he might upload her interior the 1st place, easily. yet purely be cool approximately it. solid success... i understand the way it feels to be threatened by some psycho ex. ugh.

Answer 7

I talk to my ex on myspace, and my hubby doesn't care, because he trusts me! Besides he lives 1700 miles away which helps with the trust issue! If it bothers you, then tell him! If not, then let him be a friend. Do be careful, since I don't know specifics about your case, thats as much as I can tell you

Answer 8

It's understandable why you would be jealous, it's an ex. The truth is you should let it go, especially if you have trust in your husband. But as of right now I don't see a reason for you to be jealous.

Answer 9

This would bother me too. She is an ex for a reason. If she requested to be his friend on myspace and he accepted. I would suspect still emotions for each other. Try talking to him ...it may work.

Answer 10

I heard something like this on Dr Laura. I think Dr Laura would suggest for you to tell your husband that it bothers you that he has "that" friend and is keeping contact with her and that he is disrespecting you. You should also mention that you wish for him to cut off that relationship.

He is indeed disrespecting you and if he wants to be a man, he should do whatever it takes to make sure his woman is happy. He should definitely cut off that relationship. You have the right to be 100% to be upset. Remind him that he is marry to you and not some bimbo on the internet. Talk to your husband and make it as pleasant as possible.

Make him a nice dinner and wear something sexy. Dr laura whould also say something like that here, but I dont know where to apply it to this situation.

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http://www.drlaura.com/call/index.html?mode=view&tile=1&id=14010

NEVER TALK ABOUT THIS SITUATION TO THAT BIMBO you will make it worse.

Answer 11

Yes, this would bother me too. Simple respect for your feelings should have guided a real friend (isn't that what boyfriends are supposed to be too?) to NOT add her. Your relationship with this guy needs a reality check. Good luck.