I had a heart cath about 3 yrs ago to have a heart procedure done. I waited 18 yrs to correct the problem because the technology was not available to fix it until now. I researced it and I made sure the cardiologist who did it was the best in the business.
I got all my affairs in order and arranged for my kids to be financially taken care of if I died while I was on the table.
I had a long talk with 2 of my sisters and made sure my heart was right with God. I prayed for 3 months worrying I would not survive and finally went into the hospital for the procedure which for me was very risky. My son and my significant other went with me.
The procedure went well, I survived and the physician told my significant other and my son I did well and I would not have to worry about the problem creeping up anymore.
After I went into recovery,my significant other called his 2 sons and ex wife I did well and would be coming home soon.
Why did he call them instead of my family?
2007-05-26 08:52:14 · 9 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not particularly like his ex and certainly would not give her or his kids my medical issues. Its none of their business. This has me baffled.
2007-05-26 08:53:03 · update #1
I dont think he is so close to his sons they need to know my health issues. He did not tell me he called them until I was out of the hospital and his ex wife stopped me to ask how I was doing at a ball game.
2007-05-26 08:58:07 · update #2
My son did not have a cell phone. My sister knows my significant other pretty good. I could simply not believe he did not call her and called his kids 1st after they got home from school.
2007-05-26 09:06:51 · update #3
I could see him calling his sons..but he should have called your family as well..
Maybe he called his ex wife to tell her you came through with flying colors so he wouldn't be going back to her, just in case something had happened to you...Who knows?
2007-05-26 10:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm....ever stop to think that knowing you were on the table and possibly could pass away was a very traumatic time for him and he contacted the people he gets the most support from (other than you -since you were the one he was worried about)
Your significant other couldn't have been in the best frame of mind sitting there at the hospital waiting and wondering...your surgery put a whole lot into turmoil for a while...and I'm sure his sons knew how upset he was, which would in turn get communicated to his ex wife...so it was more about letting them know HE was okay...
Yes you were the one in surgery, but that doesn't mean everything was all about you...
2007-05-26 09:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are saying "significant other", which means you are not married to each other, otherwise you would say "Husband".
So what is the big deal????
Living together does not mean having a legal contract between two consenting adults. He may be your best friend but not your husband. He still can do whatever he wants. Get over with it.
2007-05-26 09:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Servette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask him? Did you ask your son? Perhaps your son called the rest of the family and your "S.O." called his family because he maintains a good relationship with them and they were truly concerned. What exactly is a significant other? Boyfriend, fiance, boytoy - what?
Either way, he seemed concerned and relieved that you were okay and reached out to his sons. Why don't you just ask him?!?!?!?!
2007-05-26 09:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your significant other need the support of his family. After all you were ill and maybe he needed some help to deal with it-must have scared him, too.
2007-05-26 08:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that he is probably very close to his sons, and they KNOW he was worried about you. I'd be relieved he called them about YOU.
2007-05-26 08:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He called them b/c he was thinking of himself and not you at the time/ Pretty darn thoughtless, if you ask me.
R!
2007-05-26 09:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Rhiannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
especially he shouldnt of called the exwife. whats that all about? he must have contact with her on a regular basis.
2007-05-26 08:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't know why he called his ex.
I can understand him calling his sons and letting them know you're OK now....
But ex....Only if they' re good friends now or.....really, I don't know that one...
2007-05-26 09:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋