hes not as thrilled as i am.He has joint custody and sees his son 50%.I have asked him to go with me to my ob appts. but hes allways "too busy" at work but will drop everything to help his ex if she can't take thier son to the dr. or dentist.He allways goes to ALL his sons games/school activites whenever they are and helps out.I have to plan anything i want him to do(our baby stuff) around his schedule.now some of this maybe from the guilt over the divorce(over 6 yr ago) but i was told by many he was very involved with his 1st child before the divorce(went to ALL the ob appts.,talked about it all the time,went screaming thru the hospital "I HAVE A SON" ect)Now i love my stepson very much and i just wished my husband showed as much excitment about our baby as he did/does to his 1st son.I have talked to him about it but he gets defensive and denies it but actions speak louder than words.Is this just normal because the 1st child is allways the favorite?
2007-05-26 07:11:03 · 2 answers · asked by sarahkennady67489 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am not sure if this is very normal behavior. Your husband should be just as excited about the new baby as he was about the first. I am kind of on the opposite end of this scenario because I already have a child from a previous relationship. My boyfriend told me the other day that it kind of bothers him that we won't get to experience our first child together because he will be clueless and I will have already been through it all. I know that I, personally, am going to be just as ecstatic about my next child as I was about the first, maybe even more so because I know what to look forward to, etc.. Maybe try telling him that you want him to be more involved like he was with the first child because even though he's been through it all, its still very new to you and its an experience that you would like to share every second of with him. :)
2007-05-26 07:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by spoiled_lovell_brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal if he stills see's that son as seperate from you.... or better to say he see's the son as part of another family, seperate from the one you and the new child belong to. Which is quite subconciously possible considering how much the ex gets to see the son. Only thing you can do is hope that thru time it want effect your guyz relationship. Be warned thou, with ex-divorces, it doesn't happen often....
2007-05-29 10:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋