My girlfriend and I have been living together and are a very happy couple. But lately she's been telling me indirectly that she wants to get married. A lot of people have said, "if it aint broke don't fix it". I have heard everything changes after the vows. Is it true?
2007-05-26 06:01:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Usually for the better, might as well try it.
Can you imagine your life without her?
2007-05-26 06:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Roma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get married. Don't let others dictate your happiness. Answer yourself this question are those people going to be what your girlfriend has been to you for five years. You stated you and her are happy why should making it offical change anything. Those people are wrong. Getting married dont' change anything, its the people who change in the marriage. You should want to get married after living together five years.
You have your ups and downs in any relationship being in a marriage or not those things you get through. So tell all the want to be Dr. Phils that you are about to have a wife and you are about to be a husband.
2007-05-26 06:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you or don't you want to spend the rest of your life with her? Do you want to have children with her, would she make a good mother?
Your question makes me think that you've never seriously considered marriage before and now you are looking at it from the wrong angle by feeling pressured into it, and that instinctively you don't want to do it.
Take a long hard look at the woman, and where you are in your life, and what the future looks like, no situation ever stays the same, it evolves all the time, and you need to evaluate if marriage can help it evolve into a bigger and better experience or if it is just an attempt to band-aid a situation that is already starting to come apart.
2007-05-26 06:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by pavano_carl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it changes with the vows. It still feels the same, except now, you have a pact with someone that you can't just leave behind....not like you don't now. It took my husband 7 years to finally want to get married. We have been together 10- it's no different really. We got a ton of awesome gifts and went on some international trips all because of that!
2007-05-26 06:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by pinkchicchild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I ever heard was this: "Don't marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you can't live without." It's true that you could possibly live out a happy life together if you get married now. But if you're not crazy about her to the point that you can't imagine waking up to her every day for the rest of your life, then the marriage is already doomed. Please please, don't get married just as a "next step" in the relationship. It will fail, I promise. Only get married if you truly believe in the deepest part of your being that she is the love of your life. If you have to talk yourself into it, it's not right for you!!!!!!
2007-05-26 06:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpetitegyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my partner for 9 1/2 yrs with 2 kids before we gt married, it was a magical day and we r very happy. Only you & your partner can answer this question as you will both know if it's the right time, just remember marriage is for life so only do it if your really sure. GOOD LUCK.
2007-05-26 09:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically unmarried couples living together weigh less and look after themselves more.
From experience I know why this is, when your married there is this wonderful acceptance and security you get that isnt there when you are just defacto.
So you may get fat but you'll be happier... well you have a 50% chance according to the stats on marriage but if youve lasted 5 years you should know if its working and it sounds like it is.
Best Wishes
2007-05-26 06:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think enough of her to take her as your wife you had better kick her out and try out some other models. I am shocked she has wasted 5 years of her life on you. It is always nice for children to have both parents listed on a birth certificate with the same name, too. It shows the parents were married when they were born instead of just playing house.
2007-05-26 06:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is stopping you? Do you like living in sin? If you truly love this person, then YES - you should get married and make a true committment to her and to yourself. Otherwise, you are just roommates - and not truly a couple. She could get a better offer somewhere else and hit the road very easily as well.
2007-05-26 06:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by Micki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it makes her happy and secure, and it doesnt bother you, then I think it will be nice to suprise her and ask.
Insecurities can break down a relationship faster than you can blink. SO keep listening to these if it aint broke ppl and you will end up in the gutter....different strokes for differnt strokes and you know your relationship best not these folks
2007-05-26 06:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by MiaPocca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have respect for the woman, you should marry her. Are you thinking about dumping her? What do you think will go wrong? I think you should be responsible and get married, rather than treating her like garbage that you may want to dump out when it suits you. If you do not have this respect, then you should talk it over, and separate if that is what you want. It does not sound like that is what she wants!
2007-05-26 06:12:46 · answer #11 · answered by Dory Meeka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋