is it too soon for another baby?

Question

i have a four monh old son and i'm loving it my husband and i want to try for another one but want to know if its too soon

Answer 1

Its not recommended at 4 months PP.

The 'wait time' is for YOUR BODY btw. There are risks to you and the baby if its too soon after.

The recommended time to wait is 18 months.

From webmd.com :
Babies born to women who get pregnant very quickly after having a child or wait many years between children are at greater risk for potentially serious delivery-related complications, including premature birth and low birth weight

Researchers found that infants born to women who conceived less than six months after giving birth had a 40% increased risk for being born prematurely and a 61% increased risk of low birth weight, compared with infants born to mothers who waited 18 months to two years between pregnancies

Answer 2

Biologically speaking, if you're still breastfeeding, which hopefully you are, you'll have a harder time getting pregnant. It's nature's way of giving you some space between offspring.

Also, if you have one too close to the next, you can't use hand-me-downs so well... you'll end up needing 2 of everything. (Something to consider.) Do you want 2 high chairs, 2 cribs, 2 tricycles, etc... or would you rather just buy these things once and re-use them?

I'd try to space them to be at least 18 months apart. And, if they're even farther apart, I think there are less fights to occur... I know a family who waited until their daughter was 4, and she was thrilled about the baby and helping out, etc. She didn't see the baby as competition and she didn't need to share her toys, etc. Also, they were far enough apart so that the youngest was OK with the older one having more priviledges.

Seems like you're in store for more chaos and bottle washing, etc., with kids too close together.

Answer 3

Well right now at 4 months, your son is fairly easy to manage - once he's mobile and getting into things, it's going to be a lot different! Taking care of a newborn and a busy toddler is not an easy task.

I'd say if there's no reason to rush, don't. Enjoy your son and maybe give him a sibling when he's 2 or so.

My kids are all 2 years apart from each other and while even that has been a challenge, I can't imagine having them any closer together.

Good luck with whatever you decide. :)

Answer 4

Only you can know the answer to this question - there are lots of pros and cons for any sibling age gap. On the plus side - having two close together means the nappie stage is over and done with quicker - as are sleepless nights. the closer in age they are, the more they're likely to have in common as they grow up, they'll be into the same toys and days out etc. However, be prepared for alot of hard work - twice the current work load. Both will be in buggies, so you'll have to get a double buggy - probably 2 lots of nappie changing for a while, maybe even 2 lots of night wakings! As I said - there are pros and cons for any age gap - if you feel ready for another one - then why not?
Good luck to you

Answer 5

Its too soon: give your four month old time to BE THE BABY! let HIM be special and pampered for 3 years at least. The best outcomes for children are from 3.5 to 4.5 years apart and the best outcomes for mom as well.

Answer 6

I would say only you two know weather or not it is too soon for another child, but I would say wait until the baby is at least one. If this is your first child then you still have a lot to learn, so I would say yes. Enjoy your first child!

Answer 7

Well personally I would wait a lot longer but it's your decision, you're the one that would have to take care of two babies. I had mine 1 1/2 years apart. My oldest is 6 and my youngest is 4 years old. I am pregnant with my third and I think it'll be a lot easier . Do what you think is best..Good luck!!

Answer 8

I have a 9 month old im pregnant again with my 3d baby. I love kids too whenever god blesses me with a baby i will do his will and be excited for each one he gives us. No matter how close they are I say go for it and let another baby bring more smiles your face. Be blessed.

Answer 9

it is way to soon! give ur body the chance to recuperate and your spirit to get the energy ud need to take care of yet another baby

Answer 10

Only YOU really can answer that question.

My kids are very close together and some days I remember thinking "What did I get myself into!?" - but that's normal for any parent. If you are asking can it be done... yes. I've done it. It's hard though!