im 16 going out with a 22 yr old man and im engaged with him and we both want child but cant go to the doc dont want to leave mine and his mother no how can i do it none of use drive or got not alot of money
2007-05-26 05:24:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please seek help. I saw your other questions and you need to speak to a therapist. You have many issues that need to be addressed before you have a child.
Best Wishes and Good Luck.
2007-05-26 06:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in most states your 22 yr old man is committing statutory rape. You are young and need to finish school and get your life together first before you think about bringing another life in this world that you or your man do NOT seem ready for. You don't drive or have a lot of money and honey children are expensive! What's the hurry if he loves you can't he wait until your a little older and wiser? Grow up, finish school, get a job so you can support yourself then think about having children-you are still a child yourself! Think about it you only have one life to live~don't live it full of pain and regret! Make smart choices, getting married at 16 and getting pregnant is not a smart choice! GOD BLESS YOU and good luck!
2007-05-26 05:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by smackthat27 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what he is doing with you is called statuatory rape. It is illegal, and he can (and should) go to jail for it. Also, you are a child, and the last thing you need to be doing, is trying to have a baby with this guy.
Some of what you said was pretty hard to make out.. I'm not certain if your parents are alright with your relationship, but I sure hope that they see it for what it is.. a grown man, taking advantage of a young, naive girl.
I know it seems like what you want now, but trust me.. five years from now, you'll see just how messed up this whole thing is.
If you really feel like your "love" is genuine.. then it will stand the test of time. Tell him you should wait until your 18, before you have any kind of romantic relationship. His reaction to that will tell you for sure what his motives are. If he loves you, he'll have no problem waiting.. Don't rush into something you will more than likely regret.
2007-05-26 05:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an adult, you're just an adolescent, you do not want marriage or a baby, you just think you do, this is entrapment. You will never be content and you'll get a few years older and see all the other girls your age having fun. That guy is just being selfish. that guy is stealing your youth from you, you need other people in your life. He will make you old before your time. Tell him to pick on someone his own age. You have no idea what fun it is to travel, to see new places and people. He is stealing your life from you, then he'll get bored when you're with a crying baby and he'll cheat on you with some younger pretty girl, and break your heart, you'll see. If he is the type who likes very young girls, he always will. my dear. HE ONLY WANTS YOU NOW FOR YOUR YOUNG BODY. Biggest regret in my life was marrying in my teens.
2007-05-26 05:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
3 words - Stay In School.
You have no money, nowhere to live on your own, and you think it's even something that should be considered. You are way too young and immature to have a baby. What is the rush anyway, you have close to 30 years to start having kids, why not wait until you can offer your kids a future?
Having a diploma, a good job and a place to live would be a good start.
2007-05-26 05:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two words: statutory rape. Secondly the only thing you should be worried about is going to school, making something of yourself so that you can have money in the first place. And you have the nerve to want to bring an innocent child into this insane situation?! You can't even piece together a proper sentence. The only way to better yourself is to concentrate on getting an EDUCATION.
2007-05-26 05:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by rayne81 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please do not think of marriage and a child. You need to be on firm ground to take on such matters of life. And you have many other items to concentrate on right now.
Like: An education, A job to bring in money, A place to live, A driver's license, And a car. Now, pick the most important to you, and go down the list from there. Best Wishes for success!
2007-05-26 06:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a 16 yo when I was 21, and at the time thought nothing about it. Now, I was aware of the laws, so nothing sexual every happened, but looking back on it a few laters-it was the dumbest thing I've ever done. We had nothing in common. She was physically attractive, and I was old enough to buy her booze..We used each other, we didn't have a relationship.
2007-05-26 06:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by crknapp79 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did that. My first husband was 22, and I was 16. I have never regretted anything more in my life. The marriage didn't last a year. Finish school. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. Better yourself, and if he is worth the wait, he will wait.
2007-05-26 05:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. Does he know 16 will get you 20?
2. Please stay in school. From the sound of it, you do not need a child at this point in your life, you need to be educated.
3. If he loves you, he will leave you alone until you finish school at least. Then if you still feel the same, go for it.
Good luck to you, I have a feeling you are going to need it.
2007-05-26 05:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sr. Mary Holywater 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My question to you, is are you still in school? That is the most important thing before babies and marriage; you and your boyfriend should take the next two years to build a home and around that time you will be 18, then skies the limit!!!
My boyfrined is sitting here and he thinks that your boyfrined will go to jail SO LEAVE HIM ALONE ( we disagree)
2007-05-26 05:44:29 · answer #11 · answered by LaKesha T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋