He dosn't look at me anymore in that special way. He's always tired or sore from work. I fix his favorit foods for dinner and he eats and gose hide out in our room to watch tv. He's there all the time when he's at home. Are son is now 6 mths. old and he spend no time with him at all. My husband calles our son a mamas boy, but I point out to him that I'm the one that cares for him 24/7 scince he has been born. I love them to much to send my husband away. Because this is only child he's going to have. What should I do?
2007-05-26 05:07:13 · 12 answers · asked by deblyn73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't give up. He could be feeling like he's losing YOU! Don't forget your new son is probably taking up most of your time and now your husband is taking the back seat. Not even realizing it, he might be jealous or angry at the baby!
Regardless, you have to confront him about this. This happens to alot of men. You have to ask him what happened, what changed when we had the baby? What don't you like and what do want to change?
You also have to mention that this is his baby too and taking care and enjoying your baby should together. It could be the most wonderful thing that ever happened to the two of you and you can't let him take that away. Tell him, your not going to let him ruin this wonderful time in your lives, because you are not going to do that to your new son. Maybe, if he takes on some responsibilities and helps you, then you will be able to spend alot more time with him.
He needs alot of compliments right now. Only you can lift his spirits,. For example, say "I am so glad our baby looks just loke you, because you are so gorgeous", "You have made me so happy and I love our marriage so I will never let you go off into your own little world", "I can't wait to get you later, because your turning me on right now". You know what I mean. Don't let the baby take anything away from him either, but make sure he's enjoying his new son, just as you are.
I wish you all the luck. God Bless.
2007-05-26 06:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your 6 month old infant is a a mama's boy-- he needs the breast, the comfort of momma's arms. Then again; a woman who lets her appearance go & with a crying baby on her hip makes everybody want to run the other way.
Your marriage is suffering though and that should not be-Have the baby in his crib when your husband arrives home, just make time for the 2 of you [for a couple of hours]. Your man needs to wind down when he comes home. You can arrange that baby is happy and content in his crib or playpen for awhile, I did. At 6 mos. he can look at his mobile, and discover his feet, so leave his socks off. Let him get used to amusing himself in between feedings. Don't leave baby items all over the house, act as if it is just the 2 of you all over again. Mabey your husbad isn't ready for a romantic evening but just be friends together again. Sit and watch tv with him, ask about his day, no baby talk, let him feel secure in his place again, eventually he will show an interest when he feels it's safe, sounds weird but this is true.
2007-05-26 05:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This needs nipping in the bud urgently or your marriage will soon become a battle ground. Most men, but not all, are basically very fragile when it comes to new babies. They have had 9 months of anticipation, looking forward to the time when they have their child in their arms, but it's not that easy for some men once the baby is here. He must feel to be wanted to be involved in babies life, and a bit of flattery can be a help - thank you for our handsome boy - just like his dad. Give him something to be proud of, get him helping with things like feeding, changing, bathing. Teach him, enjoy your son together. Then try and enjoy each other as you did not much more than a year ago. Be gentle and kind. Good luck.
2007-05-26 05:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by Normsgirll 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Insist the two of you go to couple's counseling.
If he resists, let him know that what you have now is no marriage at all, and you can't continue to live this way. The marriage needs to be either fixed or ended.
Be serious.
"A mama's boy?" He's NOT a boy, yet, (a child) he's a baby!
2007-05-26 05:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to have a sit down, heart-to-heart converstaion with him about your feelings and concerns? Your husband sounds like he needs professional counseling. Try to give him more attention when he's home, even if you have to make your son wait for a few minutes for something... He's an immature little boy who's jealous of the other little boy in his life.
2007-05-26 05:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may feel jealous of the baby have grandma take the baby for a night and spend time with your man and find out what's wrong.
2007-05-26 05:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a long talk and soon. You're marriage is falling apart and he doesn't seem to know. Something is bothering him and it sounds like the baby for some reason.
2007-05-26 05:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of an ****** ignores his son?
What kind of a moron labels a six month old child a "mama's boy"?
Did he expect an infant to come out smoking a cigar and driving a dump truck?
What an idiot.
2007-05-26 05:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by gopher_baroque 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
find out what the other baby is missing and then try to give it to him and if he pushes you away dump his *** right then and there. good luck with this one .
2007-05-26 05:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by william w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible you have changed? THere is post-portram syndrome or whatever. Otherwise, your husband does not sound cool.
2007-05-26 05:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by Kevo 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋