I'm 17 years of age and im frightened to go out. I constantly feel that i'm being followed or something bad is going to happen to like being raped or mugged. I found out the only time i can walk the street without being scared is when i'm drunk!
2007-05-26 04:41:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I forgot to mention that im ok when im with my boyfriend but obviously i cant be with him all the time!
2007-05-26 08:58:07 · update #1
Using alcohol to reduce your inhibitions is never a good idea. You sound like you are suffering a phobia and there are only two ways to handle these things. One is to confront your fears on your own and face them head on. In other words, make yourself go out. Perhaps if you enlist the help of friends at first you can get comfort from numbers. The second way is to seek counseling to get to the root of your fears and hopefully develop a strategy for overcoming them.
Phobias such as yours (if that's what it is) are more common than people think. They can manifest in varying degrees and therefore require varying degrees to overcome. You might try both or just one, but don't give up at the first sign of frustration. Either way, getting over fear takes time.
Take some time to do research on phobias...but don't allow yourself to get 'internitis' ( term used to describe how medical students seem to think they have symptoms of the diseases they are studying). Once you have the knowledge, the battle is half over. Good luck.
2007-05-26 04:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it's natural to have some fears like your having but if it's taking over your thoughts and it interferes with your daily living you need to talk with a professional therapist or doctor. You shouldn't have to be drunk to walk the streets, sadly being in this state is when you could be hurt by the things you fear the most. Your 17 with your whole life ahead of you! Get help now tell someone from school, clinic, go anywhere that offers free mental help so you can live without being in a continued state of fear.
2007-05-26 11:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by smackthat27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. I'm pretty much the same, without the drunk part ofcourse. The only reason I have to be scared is because my brother drives seriously fast, so maybe it is a childhood experience that has made you scared to go out.
If not that, then maybe it could be everything that is on the news at the moment.
To face your fear, just go out with some friends and probably aim to be home around 10 pm or something like that.
2007-05-26 11:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by AG Bellamy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live your life thinking what if, it will stop you doing many things and enjoying what life has to offer !.
Try counselling, or taking something with you like a personal alarm and pepper spray, keep the emergency number dialled on your mobile and if you need to just press the button once to call if needed, take driving lessons and get a car and that will be safer than walking the street.
Sorry not much help, but good luck anyway ! :-)
2007-05-26 11:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Richard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you really should seek medical attention - you sound like a paranoid schizo. (not making fun) and you def have a problem if you're drinking at the age of 17. Being that the alcohol helps you with your problems it seems as though you need a sedative of some sort to help you out. Go to your Dr and tell him what you are feeling
2007-05-26 11:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no offense but u need to see a therapist. and if u ever get scared dont go and get drunk! call some one u kno and talk to em about what is going on or tell them to come over because ur alone. By the way ur not supposed to drink till ur 21! ;)
2007-05-26 11:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are heading down the start of a road that leads to alcoholism.
If you need drink to help you do something that comes naturally to most others, it is time to re-evaluate your drinking habits.
As others have said you are at your most vulnerable when drunk, that's when you SHOULD be afraid!
Speak to your GP about your fears AND your drinking habits.
2007-05-26 11:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by ALLEN B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go and get some counseling it sounds like you may have some form of paranoia. This could have started after any traumatic event or even hereditary. You should go to see your physician or call your local health dept and talk to an on call nurse.
2007-05-26 14:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by DEEDEE L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have something called social phobia. Therapy really helps this...I swear. you should look into seeing a counselor! For real, it helps. You can message me if you want to talk about it (im working on my masters in counseling, and i see people who struggle with this all the time).
2007-05-26 11:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad, but it's difficult to get over this kind of fear. You may overcome it when you're left with no choice. I know a lady who cannot sleep alone in a room until her job forces her go to outstation and she has no choice but to sleep alone. After the initial fear, she's ok now and even likes it.
2007-05-26 11:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋