they met on myspace...they talk on the phone...they met twice. but hes tellin me i need to trust him. i wanna be a great wife, but im now insecure, and scared. he left the house yesterday, because we cant see eye to eye with this. he told me she is a friend. and i need to trust him. so why do i feel distraught? i love him with all my heart. but he's married. and if they are such great friends, why didnt i know about her?? and why in gods name is he not letting her go for me, even if it is just a friendship, isnt that disrespectful to me???? please someone i need as many opinions as possible, from both males and female...married and single. i need to be sure i do the right thing
signed,
the jealous wife??
2007-05-26 04:37:02 · 14 answers · asked by ♥chelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have a great relationship, and hes never given me a reason to not trust him...but internet friends should stay internet friends?? yes?? no?? help me
2007-05-26 04:46:40 · update #1
oh one small detail, that he sees no harm it at all...she copied my mets tatttoo, put in the same place as mine...wtf is dat??
2007-05-26 04:49:36 · update #2
You are right in your feelings and he is wrong in his actions. This "friendship" he has with this woman will most likely lead to a "relationship". Sounds like he is manipulating this situation by putting this on you. This is not just about trust. It is about respect he has or has not for you. It is an inappropriate relationship he has developed with this woman. You don't need our opinions you already have one and the right one. Don't start doubting yourself right now because this is exactly what he wants. Stand up for yourself. Although I am not in favor for ultimatums, but in this situation I am. I truly think the decision should be in YOUR hands, that is YOU need to choose what YOU want to do. You have to lay the ground rules on how you need to be treated and not let him do it for you. But if you are waiting for him to choose you or her, be prepared for either desicions because both will cause you pain.
2007-05-26 04:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!!!!
There is a first time for everything unfortunately, and this is obviously a very good first reason not too trust him. I would definitely not be going for this. That is sooo creepy she copied your tattoo, he could of asked her to do that for all that you know. How did she even know you had that tattoo? He obviously told her and that would piss me off totally!!!!! You are being sooo nice if you ask me. I would have been past the jealousy part and it was too bad you didn't kick him out. Maybe you did but I am assuming he left because you weren't letting him have his little affair. I am sorry to say it that way but I am angry for you because it sure seems that way to me. You feel distraught probably because you have been sooo deceived!!!!! Keep strong you have nothing wrong he should have you for his great friend. If you take him back (which I don't think I could although I am not IN your shoes) I would make him kiss my as* royally. You are suppose to be his queen and he was lying to you and hiding her from you. You poor thing.
Good Luck
2007-05-26 05:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is completly out of line and I would put a stop to his behavior right here and now. He is full of crap and he is putting himself into temptation to cheat on you. Put up the STOP sign now and end his game once and for all. Give him an ultimatum sweetie because if you don't you are going to lose him!! You should not trust him in this situation and if you do this is very foolish. He does not need women friends that he meets online when he has a wife. Any free time that he has should belong to you! They are not going to remain just friends and you have to know that! He is emotionally abusing you and you cannot allow him to do this! You must stand up to him and put your foot down because you don't do that when you are in a commited relationship and expect that to be ok! You don't even know this woman or what she is capable of And could rip your marriage right out from under you...she doesn't care about you she wants to care about your husband....and many women look at married men as a challenge. He is being more than disrespectfull here sweetie he thinks you are stupid and he is playing you for a fool. I say NO NO NO not today or tommorrow he needs to quit it now and you need to make him!!He would let her go for me or could shove her right up his butt sideways. Take him off of myspace and tell him that it is over and if he doesn't like it tell him to get out and don't think I will ever take you back if you do leave because i will know that you ran to your new found friend and you are not going for that. Tell him choose to do this now or get your things and leave! Get very mad about it sweetie and do not take any crap from him!!
2007-05-26 07:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bing as how there is two of them. I would not make a big deal of it. If it were only one I might have second thoughts. In the military you make a different kind of bond with people male and female alike. I was always friendly with women in uniform but I would never date them. Why I do not know. I spent 22 yrs in the U.S.N. I was married about 1/2 that time. The women in uniform was a turn off as far as dating for some reason. Trust your husband, I am sure he will do the right thing. Good Luck.
2016-04-01 09:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first confirm if they r frd then u dont have to take any tension and how do u know they r just a frd ? your life partner behaviur and love is change or not and I hope not. Dont be alone jsut take some time and I m sure u will get the ebst soloution dont take decession in jealousy or urgency because it is diffuct to find a right partner again. My advise deal with him specail from your side and try to give your more love in words and also in night because if u give him every thing then he will not run away and if he is going then he will come back. Dont leave and dont fight him just try your life and give special service as lover and make him love crazy best of luck and take care of your self.
2007-05-26 04:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by S.H.K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. It is not only wrong for him to secretly meet her...I don't even believe that a married man belongs having a MySpace acct. period! If your gut is telling you that something is off...You have to go with that! Any private detective will tell you that when wives hire them to investigate their husbands activities because they suspect that he is cheating they are correct 99% of the time! Think about how he would react if the tables were turned...I doubt very seriously that he would be okay with you doing what he is doing right now!
2007-05-26 04:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by andiw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he's not sleeping with her he is technically cheating on you emotionally. The time he spends with her; on-line, the phone, etc. is time that is NOT spent with YOU. This sounds very sketchy to me. Your instincts are telling you something, honey, the red flags have been raised and do not beat yourself up for being aware. Now is the time to be cautious - his relationship with his "friend" is already jeopardizing yours.
2007-05-26 04:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by luvslugg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel distraught? Because if you define love as putting the loved ones feelings and best before your own, he doesn't love you. That is why. You need to trust him. Why? I suggest counselling and if that fails, offski.
2007-05-26 04:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DEAR LORD NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why should you trust him - he's looking elsewhere! If he really loves you, he should see that he's making you insecure and not want to put you through that. Tell him that if he wants to be with you, this other woman cannot be in his life.
2007-05-26 04:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpetitegyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. my opinion simple--- you don't want to talk to me about what is going on you cannot be trusted. and if you cannot be trusted i can no longer be your other half.
start looking for a lawyer,and get ready on the paper work.
2007-05-26 04:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by hutdast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋