She left me and went to live with her Dad when she was 15yr old. Now, she has been staying with me every weekend, until this past weekend, her Dad said she could come and stay with me everyother week end. She left because, 1) she hated her stepdad 2)her dad bought her car, $440.00 prom dress,etc.
I have been paying 618.00 amonth child support, the judge was a friend of my ex., so when we went back to court to lower the child support, the judge refused to hear it, said it was a conflict of interest. Now, we have a court date in Sept. to lower the child support. Just recently, I was terminated on my job, my ex. had his lawyer write mine, and said I asked to be let go. I am working part-time right now. My dad has severe Alzheimer's disease, and I am his guardian. I feel wiped out. Any suggestions on how to manage this with my daughter. I love her dearly, and she knows it. It just hurts so bad.
2007-05-26 03:43:28 · 13 answers · asked by themantofield 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Man that is messed up!! can you bring to someones attention that you don't feel that your husband should personally know this judge is a matter of personal problems now and the judge can't take size.. other than that I don't know what to tell you.. does your lawyer knows that your husband is friends of this judge?? well you need to tell him if he don't and I know he can make it so that they give the case to a different judge.. OK now your daugther is 17 when she graduates from High school and turn 18 they are going to have to terminate the child support.. and low down your payments if you have any back pay.. The same thing happend to me and now that my son graduated from high school I only pay 25.00 for back pay.. Good luck.. I feel for you.
2007-05-26 04:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is old enough no matter what you say she will do what she pleases. The issue about child support, if the order has not been modified in 3 years call child support and ask that it is. A judge does over ride state orders, but if he isn't doing anything about it and it seems he has a interest in your ex's side since they are friends. Don't go back to the same judge, you can ask for someone else due to conflict interest. Your paying a large sum for one daughter, so I would go and talk with child support and she what they have to say,
Your kids will break your heart and not much we can do about that, but at her age be there anytime she needs you. Just back off and don't push the issue of weekend visits right now, call her and talk about everyday things, like school, summer, and maybe even invite her out to lunch one day. You do have a lot of your plate right now, so you need to also take care of you.
2007-05-26 08:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't sound like the daughter is the true issue here, but rather your ex. There are ways to save money on terms of child support. Every time you go to court thats more $. If you 2 can agree together, the court costs are erased. I have a friend who did that and things are better now that there is no court "stigma" looming. Good luck.
2007-05-26 03:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by DebbK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When does she turn 18? Surely by the time you get the child support lowered, the court and attorney fees would mean that, overall, you end up paying more, as she is about to be out of the household. Unless she plans to attend college.
2007-05-26 03:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all breathe. I would talk to your husband about your situation tell him that you are taking care of your father and that this puts an emotional strain on you right now. Lawyers are pretty much working for the client, so you can't dispute that. The judge did right by not getting further involved..it is a conflict of interest, and he could get in trouble if he rules on your case.
Your daughter is old enough for you to talk to her about everything. I am curious why you did not get custody and why she hates her step-father? That is something that you need maybe look inside yourself to figure out why, and talk to him about. This is your child, and she should come first! Best of luck
2007-05-26 03:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like there is a true issue with regards to your child; I think your problem is your ex-husband, so concentrate on him, deal with him and just wait for your court date in September. In the mean time, you don't have much longer to pay child support...just do a count down to when the payments ends.
2007-05-26 03:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to take this up with you ex it sounds like he is trying to buy her love and in the process has started to destroy the bond you and your daughter have. The issue isn't with your daughter she is a typical 17 yr old who can't see this don't blame her, she is going through a lot right now. She probably feels very torn between the two of you. Talk to your x.
2007-05-26 04:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes your the windshield, sometimes your the bug!
You should not let yourself feel your daughters love is for sale to the highest bidder. Teens can be superficial, selfish, and not very understanding. So, if you want to make things better, stop complaining about everything and start making changes. She is almost grown. Enjoy her while you can, and be happy for her. As far as the rest of your life, you can only do so much. Chin up and good luck.
2007-05-26 03:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
permit her pass, your daughter might or will possibly not have yet another possibility given her wellbeing issues. permit her stay her life to the fullest. Being over careful approximately her by using her wellbeing issues might appear like a solid concept yet might stifle her and forestall her from taking part in life. additionally she is now not a newborn yet a youthful woman and can be taken care of as such, esp because of the fact how close she is to 18.
2016-10-08 03:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. I know she's your daughter and you love her, but maybe she felt that you chose your new husband over her, so now she's choosing her father over you. Since your dad is ill, perhaps you should focus more on him. Your daughter will come around, in time. Once she passes 18, she'll realize that mom is her best friend.
2007-05-26 04:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by louisianarealestateagent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋