I am a cristian, I am married w/kids,I love my husband very much but i'm sure he doesn't love me. he's been unfaithful many times and i have prayed for my marriage and i've seen the work of God at times in my relationship but i'm not getting any younger. He left me once for someone and it seems like he never trated me like he treated her or any other women for that matter. He doesn't want to go out with me, doesn't kiss me and he's out all the time. I'm not stupit or blind but as a cristian I believe in the word and the power of prayer and everytime I want an answer the Lord wants me to wait and be patient but today i found out how much he was into this person he left me for and that the only reason he came back was because she slept with someone else. What can I do to move on and still be right with God. I'm reaching for an answer for all the true christians out there. I truly need help. I'm lost ,confused and hurt and I don't want to do anything that will cause my salvation.
2007-05-26 03:41:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not to thine own understanding; in all thy ways, acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths". That's what the Bible says....believe it! You're going to be just fine!
2007-05-26 03:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I understand your position with GOD, but you cannot let someone do this to you. You deserve much better and can be happy with GOD and your life if you left him. Why would you want your heart broken and shattered many times only to "glue" it back together and have it broken again? It is not healthy for you or your children. Your children should come first. The environment the child lives in wll be replicated when that child is later an adult. Would you want you son or daughter going through the same situation, or would you like them to see Mom make it through with hard work and determination to have them grow up and replicate that. Not saying your husband is an a**hole for doing this too you, but one day he may realize that he hurt his family at this point. Whatever you do though you will have to live with it. I am sure GOD would want those to be happy instead of unhappy.
2007-05-26 04:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by Oppie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
He's using u. Ur always there for him n wenever something goes wrong with his other relationships than he comes bak to u.
Im sorri to say this but u shud talk to him n have a divorce this is not a healthy relationship u seem a very nice women put this relationship is tearing you apart n ur kids shouldn't be going through this (i didn't mean to be offensive) i knw u r a strong christian it says in the 10 commandments that u shouldn't commmit adultry n ur husband is. wat about talking 2 ur priest at the church he may help. But i thnk the best idea is chucking him out n divorcing him n let ur kids see him!
i ope i helped
Good Luck
2007-05-26 04:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is obviously not a healthy relationship. And the Bible says to not be unevenly yoked. Is your Husband or was he once a Christian? The best thing you can do is possible get some advice from your preacher or pastor. Continue going to church, try to get him involved back in church if he is not. Prayer is a powerful thing, and it can change hearts, and mend them too.
Just always remember that no one can cause you to lose your salvation but yourself. Hang in there.
God bless,
Amy
2007-05-26 03:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by amy_lynne_26 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that GOD will not abandon you for choosing to put him out of your life. He would not want you to suffer like this and be miserable in your life. When those angles in heaven were not being right to God he even threw them out of his house and he has not let them back in since!! You have shown the lord that you have been patient and now maybe the lord is letting you know now that enough is enough!! You can walk away from this man because you have god to walk the walk with you. It is understandable to forgive someone up to a certain point but if they never learn it is always their own freewill and choice. Your husband always gets away with everything that he is doing because there is never a consequence for his actions even the lord knows well about chastising!! God knows that he is using you and is using him to walk right back through your door everytime he feels the need to! It is time to shut the door and lock him out! You have got to do this and step out of the way so that the lord can really deal with him.....this way the lord will open another door for you for his work to be truly done and that is where you will be given your peace. I understand that you are hurt and that you still love your husband but God also tells us that we must love ourselves. We have to realize and know that we are worthy in the places that we stand in life to accept the love we can only give to others through taking care of ourselves.Your husband is trying to break your sprit and he is breaking your heart and God does not like to see his children hurt. I believe that God has tried to deal with your husband but also wants him by his own choice to be there for you and because that is where he truly wants to be. This is not happening because your husband chooses to walk his own path and not the path that was layed in front of him.He is defiant and keeps on choosing to betray you and the lord! You need to let him go and let the lord bring about his own convictions on him.....and if I am wrong here I ask gods forgiveness...because i don't even go to any church but I do believe there is a power out there much greater than I know! I feel that inside of me all of the time and I do not know where my words here are coming from it just happens quite a lot if you understand what I mean? I just thought I should tell you this but I do not know why? Anyway...be still today and listen to your heart and know that you will understand the message? Best wishes sweetie.
2007-05-26 04:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since your a true christial women you know the saying in the bible though should not cheat and your husband is not doen that so u walk away and still be with the lord and continue to be with the lord and u did your part as a true christian you cant keep living with this man and getting hurt all the time so gl to ya
2007-05-26 04:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, Do you work, if so ,I bet when you go to work you fix yourself up all nice and pretty do you do that for your husbandor do you come home and take off your nice things and throw on some old sweats ,wipe off all the makeup and go on with your everyday things,you have to make yourself better than the lady he is seeingyou have to make him turn his head your way and notice YOU! I,m not saying turn yourself into a slut or anything like that,But he is a man.
2007-05-26 04:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mustn't base your total existence on a dude. Did you stop talking on your acquaintances because of the fact of him? if the answe is particular, then i might agonize. you mustn't stop spectacular out with acquaintances no count how plenty in love you're. i'm hoping this dude did no longer push your acquaintances faraway from you. anyhow in case you particularly wanna paintings issues out with him i might propose to him to get couple's counseling. He relatively desires a professional and according to hazard in case you bypass with him (and tell him that the two considered one of you may funds in on counseling) he won't sense like he's "the loopy one". you're able to help him via this technique if he's the guy which you clearly love. sturdy success
2016-11-05 11:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God can only do so much honey. But, he gave each of us freewill. And your husband is exercising that. End your marriage and find a husband who has the same values as you and will not cheat. Divorce is never the end of the world.
2007-05-26 04:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to start thinking of your children and yourself now. God would not expect you to put your children through this or for you to be someones door mat. Leave this creep and show your children what a healthy life style is like. Good luck...
2007-05-26 04:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lost be not for the Lord will find you. Leave him and live alone it seems to be the healthy option because with his running around I must advice that AIDS is real and its not shy and trust me it does not pick and choose or discriminate.
2007-05-26 05:34:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋