Seeing a marriage counselor will work???

Question

Last question I asked was... Why would you husband cheat on you if he knows you love him and you're pregnant? Now, my mother-in-lay would like us to work our marriage out throught a marriage counselor. Should I try or just divorce him and nail him for what he did to me?

Answer 1

I'm not saying that what your husband did or has done is ok, but there are two sides to each story and in order for us or someone to give you an intelligent response we would have to know his side too. Of course there is no excuse for him cheating but there could be logical reasons. my guess is that you got married too young, were not prepared or mature enough to start a family and this is what happens. at this point, yelling and screaming is never a solution. Communication in a civilized manner is best and doing things to get even or because your hurt is not good either. I know you love him but, your emotional state is very delicate and extra sensitive because of your pregnancy. is not good for you to get angry, have arguments etc. is not good for the baby. if he is willing to go and not because he feels that you are forcing him to go then it might be a good idea. how old is he? it sounds to me like he is not mature either and he probably realizes the mistake he made by getting married and having kids. you should talk in a civilized manner (no yelling , screaming etc). ask him if he still loves you and what is he willing to do to make things work. otherwise it might be time to move and as long as he is responsible for child support then that's all you should seek. forget about revenge etc. you can't force someone to love you or stay with you.

Answer 2

Although I didn't read the previous question, I have answers to this one. Some people might say 'once a cheater, always a cheater'. For the most part, that's true. However, I've know men who cheated with one girl, but not the second. Sometimes it's hard for men to commit to the life of one woman AND a family. Marriage counselors only work if BOTH PARTIES ARE 100% WILLING TO PARTICIPATE. If he doesn't want to go, it's not worth your time. No one should give advice to divorce cuz they are not YOU, in YOUR SHOES. Similiar shoe wearing women will give advice through their experience. Life will be hard when your child is born and he cheats again. You may feel obligated to your child to stay. However, life will be hard to raise this child alone and wonder 'what might have been'. Truly look at yourself and decide if you deserve this in your life. You'll seek the truth within your heart. Be strong with your decision. Don't be his door mat. Good Luck.

Answer 3

seeing a marriage counselor will only work if both of you really want to work the marriage out, if not say yourself some money because they aren't cheap. if you go you must be willing to forget and forgive everything that has went wrong. a marriage is give and take, both people have done wrong at some point and time and you both have to admit it but that's were the love comes in, if its true love you can get past anything, trust me, been there done that.

Answer 4

Marriage counselor doesn't always work however it does helps .
The way your at in now..he will do it again. Knowing you both have a kid soon..why on earth he will do that to you?. Think about it girl. Not because he's not getting sex now but is he worth living with for the long run? Don't get that in laws decide for you . Think about the baby, your future...what lies ahead..once a cheater will always be a cheater. Divorce him and get him support your baby.

Answer 5

Divorce him and nail him with alimony and child support. Make him regret this stupidity or it will continue. Listen, I went through 3 marriage counselors with my first wife. As soon as they started to focus on her she bolted and we muddled through marriage until the next one. The last one told her that she had unrealistic expectations of me. She stood up and left. That session lasted about 30 seconds after both had the opportunity vent. My first marriage lasted 5 years, I'm on my last marriage and it is going on 20 years now. Not one counselor!

Answer 6

If you love him and can forgive him (in the future), then marriage counseling will work. However you must be willing to, don't do it just because your mother-in-law says so. Do it because you want to.

If you ask yourself and think you don't want to do this, then don't. Get out. But I would say give it a try. At least you know you are giving it the best shot. No regret later I'd say.

Answer 7

vengeance never gets one anywhere.It is not how anyone else feels about it,how do you feel about it? Most marriage counsels have a troubled marriage or not married,they would only give one the choices they would make....Can you see no way out but divorce? Has he cheated before or is this number one? Did he have a excuse?Did he blame you or her? The question is not you loving him,but does he love you, is he a selfish lover?

Answer 8

If your husband is sorry for cheating on you and both of you want to commit to each other and your marriage, go see a marriage counselor!

Answer 9

It's a very bad situation. You know him better than all of us here. Usually people who cheat will cheat again.

You are pregnant and soon you will bring this child in this world. You have to think about you and that child. If you are misreable with this man..chances are YOU will destroy you innocent child's life for no fault of his.

Counselling works where BOTH parties are willing and their herart are into it. Counsellors donot have majik Wand.

You have to think hard and decide what is best for you and your child.

Good Luck.

Answer 10

If you care about yourself you will realize you are worth more than to be married to someone who would even consider cheating on his wife never mind when she is pregnant. Make him leave and then consider counseling depending if the cheat was a one time thing.