I have been in a divorce since september. I talked to her yesterday and she told me that she slept with 3 guys since and 1 is living in my home now without paying rent or utilities. I told her to leave and she declined. I just feel hurt bec of the three guys. 1 was when I was married. How do you just stop thinking about it and shrub it off like its nothing?
2007-05-26 03:30:19 · 15 answers · asked by dirbe22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My house guys she doesnt live with me
2007-05-26 03:41:22 · update #1
I am going through almost the exact same thing. It is difficult but you just have to take each day at a time. What has helped me is I joined Yahoo Personals. It gave me the opportunity to meet new people who were interested in me. Some days it still hurts (mine started in February), but it is getting better. Also, if you left her the house it will be very difficult for you to control who she has in it, so don't try. You have two choices: You can sit in the corner and cry about it or you can pick up the pieces and try to start over again. I'm not much for sitting in corners. Just so you know, I was married for 16 1/2 years to the day. You cannot just shrug it off so try to find things to keep yourself busy.
2007-05-26 03:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you prob. wont shrug it off too easily. Be glad you are out of the marriage tho, she is not good wife material at this time. Does she have legal rights to stay in the house? you might be able to have her removed..or if it is in both your names, and no one has been legally barred from living in the home..move back in, take back possession of your home, and if you are a parent, be there for your kids..that might motivate her and her new boyfriend to move, just be very courtious....dont incite any fights, or arguements, be stickty sweet..it will kill them..they will leave.
You need to move on however, it has been 9 months since you began the divorce proceedings, chalk it up to a lesson learned, and make sure you know the next woman well ..like a long time..before sleeping with her, that seems to screw thinking up, and we do dumb things then...
you have a right to feel hurt, but you also have aright to be happy again...so focus on things you can do to become happy..volunteer somewhere..we all have a little time each week to do that, help kids..do something..it will help you get over it,
also..dont drown your sorrows..that will make the hurt hold on longer
2007-05-26 03:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by trudi100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if the guy she slept wit is in ur house he go to go then get up and stop feeling sorry for ur self and move on it hurts but u got to let it burn don't have nothing else to do wit that woman and move on she don't give a dam u shouldn't give a f@ck because if u don't u going to wined up in the pin
bro u don't want that it 2many women out there to be mess up over one that all is to it so leave that ho alone
2007-05-26 04:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by john j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only way to do it is by remember why you and her divorced and keep it in your mind and not let anything remind you of her. If you talk with her make it as short as possible and don't worry about her. But you must not let anything she says get to you because if she knows it hurts she will bring it up always. So move on and forget her and you will be more happy and enjoy life.
2007-05-26 03:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you stop thinking about it? Easier said than done. I would just let time be on your side and understand that it won't always feel as crappy for you as it does now. Just know in your heart you are worthy of a woman who truly not only loves you but loves herself enough to not sleep around. You are worth having a good woman by your side; hang on and wait for God to find this person for you.
2007-05-26 03:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She told you that because she wants to hurt you-- if you let it bother you-- she won, and thats what she's hoping for.
move forward- and let her see you are HAPPY without her--thats the best revenge....
If she wants a life of a guy taking advantage of her-- and living in the house rent free- let her have a life like that--but, you -- you go on and have a better life then you had before.
2007-05-26 03:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she still living with you anyway? Kick her out already!!!
You guys marriage is over so I suggest you forgetting about her. Have you ever thought that she may have been lying about those guys she claims she slept with just so you will be mad?
Oh and once you kick her out, yes, this will help you get over her much faster.
2007-05-26 03:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, that is almost impossible in your situation. It is too soon, but you can certainly move on later on. I know it hurts right now but your best bet is to distract yourself and try not to think about it.
2007-05-26 03:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to hurt you which of course, will make you think about it. Maybe you should stop talking to her. I don't think you ever forget, but as time goes on it won't hurt as much.
2007-05-26 13:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by catgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you can... In the back of your mind there will alwasy be that thought of another person. Trust issues arise and from how I feel they can never be mended.
2007-05-26 03:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by Oppie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋