Set-up:U realize that u've been 'set-up'?

Question

by the lover of ur friend do u ignore it or try to reveal truth with mailed items? U walk blindly into the situation (ur friend has a new lover when u believed 2b,but u've been gone a long time, u reacted 2 ur friend's odd behavior, silence, in a panic+it did damage 2 the friendship).Finally, u+the friend spend time together:Being broken in confusion u discover the lover found you-sought u out+got2know u. (prior u talked about ur friend u love with the lover+they never mentioned ANYTHING!)U love the friend, as a friend+any other positive light+one day they show u a photo of thier 'lover'+ u know from that moment u were set-up. The person u love-thier lover cheated on them-with u. Do u wait for ur friend to realize they are involved with a devious person or do u keep appearing a jelous fool with brokenheart 2 spare ur love/friend's heart,even if they didn't spare yours? Is calling ur friends lover+asking her politely to make ur friend happy rude? U want ur friend happy with or w/out u.

You and the friend were NOT lovers yet you were with belief that they wanted that with you. You fly home, they have another+can't explain. You want the friend happy, but at the same time you hurt from them not being honest. Yet considering the 16yr history-honesty could have been more painful. You purely love your friend, and if they love another you want them to be with the one they love and yet you know the one they love is down right devious. Remember, you'll appear annoying or as if desperately broken if leaving messages or trying to explain. Wouldn't it seem as a jelous act? What would be the point of your friend knowing if it would only break thier heart? You don't want to break thier heart and you want them to have love even if not coming from you.

Answer 1

Mention it once in a nice way or if you already did then let it go. A warning of what you believe is enough. No one wants to keep getting fused at when they think they are doing right.

Answer 2

Wow, the way you type is hard to read! It's good that you want your friend to be happy, but your friend' lover cheated on them, so they would probably do it again. I would tell your friend whats going on and let them decide what to do about it. I'm very sorry all this happened to you, thats totally crappy.