My husband is currently serving 15 months in Iraq. In two weeks he is coming home for R & R...that is a mid-\
deployment trip home for two weeks. He will be home on our 5th year anniversary. We have two childern ages 2 and 3. I want to go to Florida over the weekend just him and me without the kids. IF we did that then it would take time away from the childern and like I said he is only here for two weeks and then gone until April 08. Should I cancel the trip or take time for just us? The reason they can't go is because we would be going deep sea fishing and they are too young.
2007-05-26 03:00:52 · 18 answers · asked by Shaney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would go on the trip. You and your husband need this time together especially since he will be gone again. It is only for a weekend so he will still have plenty of time to spend with the children. Please take the trip without feeling guilty and enjoy one another. You both deserve some time together. God bless your husband and your family.
2007-05-26 03:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by sapphireblaze 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is very important for you to have time alone with your husband esp. since he's been gone so long. But you are right that the children have missed him too and need to spend time with him. Why can't you split up the time between you and the children? When he first comes back give a few days or a week with all of you together and then a week for your personal trip.
2007-05-26 12:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by shosha_tiqo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve time alone with your husband. Take your weekend trip and relax. Spend the rest of the 2 weeks with the kids, but definately take the trip. You've earned it. Besides, the kids may need a break from all the excitement.
2007-05-26 10:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by pink puppy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO! Your time with your husband is important now! Many relationships fail due to lack of intimate time. I'm not talking about sack time. I'm talking about sharing in each others hobbies. You are pretty wise for a semi-new wife. Kudos to you! Your kids are young enough to not get too freaked out over the time away from dad. Just make sure that he doesn't make this a habit. In other words don't re-enlist until peace breaks out. Here in Wisconsin we are all pushing non-enlistment and non-reenlistment until our children get home! If everyone did this..... well, this wasn't a political question was it? So just go enjoy your hubby!
2007-05-26 10:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband need some time to just get re-acquainted, so leave the kids and go!
A weekend is 3 days and for both of you to be removed from all the noise and mess the kids make will be like a mini vacation for both of you.
2007-05-26 10:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not selfish. You both deserve a little alone time. After all the time apart, you need your private time with your man. Deep sea fishing?? Is that what it is called now??? LOL Go find a nice room with a nice bed and don't get out of it!! He can spend time with the babies when you get back.
2007-05-26 10:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's only a weekend. You need time to spend with your husband, just the 2 of you. The rest of the time he is home you can spend it together as a whole family. A few days wont make a big difference. Enjoy your time together. =)
Have fun!!!
2007-05-26 10:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by Marisa ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's selfish. Ask your husband what he wants. He has been away a long time and probably wants time at home with his family. Allow the children to spend most of the time home with their dad and you together. Schedule some time with the children at a babysitters or another family member so you two can have some private time also. That would be a good compromise.
2007-05-26 10:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Schwinn 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go on the trip you need your time with him with out the kids then you need time as a family.
2007-05-26 10:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i think it is selfish because your husband probably wants to spend time with his children too . I think you should cancel your trip and maybe make a trip with him for the two of you later on .
2007-05-26 10:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋