Its finally my husbands week off and its been great. We had our 7 th wedding anniversary on mothers day and he had to work but still let me know he loves me and bought me a half dozen roses and 2 cards. He told me we could do something on his next weekend off. Here it is and he already made plans to go drink beer w/ his friends. He isnt big on the shopping and looking around thing unless its a hunting store so I thought maybe we could just hang out w/ some people and have a good time. But he wants to that by himself and it makes me feel bad. I am not a big drinker and I am not a kind a mom who leaves her kids to go drinking all night but every no and then it would be nice to get a break from our kids and enjoy each other and socialize. He told me that when we go to places like this that I dont talk to anyone so thats why he would rather do it by himself. Hello he doesnt ever take me around his friends so I can. Some of his friends have never seen me before as of last year.
2007-05-26 02:56:24 · 9 answers · asked by hotmoma1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No my old man is perfect. He does not drink or smoke, and he never watches sport on TV. He has just asked me to go for a walk on the beach with him in the morning. He is 58 and we have been together for ever and things only get better every day
2007-05-26 03:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for nearly 10 years and I have the same problem. Hubby has his circle of friends that I dont know and he has never invited me out with his friends. Even when hubby has time off from work he is out with friends or at the races and I am left home with the kids so I know how you feel. I have to say that I have wonderful parents who give us a weekend out of town without the kids at least 4 times a year. Do you have family that could watch the kids for you? Even if you dont go anywhere the two of you could have a nice quiet evening at home so you could spend time with each other without any interruptions. Express to your hubby how important it is to you to have time together and hopefully he will listen. Good luck and God bless.
2007-05-26 03:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by sapphireblaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't like it when women start making everything about them and make big deals over nothing. So he wanted to go out...he works, takes care of his family...you got roses...what's the problem???? You don't enjoy going out...he does...it is OK for couples to have a small part of their life that doesn't involve the spouse.
I've been out before with a few couples and had one of the women sit and be silent and snotty all night...it was annoying. Maybe he was referring to the last few times you went out, and that's why he doesn't want to take you out now.
Sounds to me like you are the kind of person who goes on and on about themselves and how they "feel" too much and that would make me want to go out without you also. Get some sort of handle on who you are and what you like to do without your husband...then you will understand where he is coming from.
2007-05-26 03:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit and talk to him..Tell him exactly how you feel;. Is it possible for him to enjoy one night out with the boys..In other words the guys can take turns going to each others house one night a week..That way, you also get to know his friends..And maybe one night a week or every other week (depending on the babysitting situation and finances)you do something with your husband..
That way, he enjoys being with his friends, and you and your husband can enjoy quality time with each other..
2007-05-26 03:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wish I could get my wife to go to some of my friends houses with me to hang out. It is hard to get her to go out. The how social I don't think would be a problem.
2007-05-26 03:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he is just socializing with his buddies. you should make some plans for just the two of you doing something that the two of you enjoy. If he really loves you he will love it.
2007-05-26 03:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by lalo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should know his friends some times guys need space to relax but try going and talking to him about this
2007-05-26 03:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by wonderboy n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would just go out with your children, sod him! enjoy you children, they would love to have a great day out with you, have fun good luck:)
2007-05-26 03:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make your own friends and see how he feels being left out
if it doesnt bother him at least you made new friends
2007-05-26 03:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by greengrass44444 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋